How To Be An Icon

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What's up radiant icons and welcome back to Dare To

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Be Iconic, the podcast made for

icons daring to be themselves.

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I'm your host Amanda Paolicelli and

I am so excited you're here today

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but before we get into it I dare

you to go to dare to be iconic.

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com to join our radiant icon community

and check out my amazon storefront

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linked in the show notes to check

out my journal, "Break Up With The

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Past Fall in Love With The Future."

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Now, I will die on the hill that

this is the year of the icon.

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So how can you be an icon?

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And what does the word iconic even mean?

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Are you ready for your Tea

Time sesh, Radiant Icons?

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Now, let's get into the tea.

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Let's start off with what

the word iconic means.

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Now, in this context for

Dare to be Iconic, right?

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It's all about your own unique version of

iconic and daring to be yourself and being

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comfortable and confident in your skin.

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So when I say the word iconic, I

genuinely mean living authentically

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and true to you and stumbling boldly.

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So how can you be an icon?

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You need to be okay with

being imperfectly iconic.

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So embracing your imperfections.

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And I know we all don't like that.

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Like literally owning up what scares

us and what we aren't like perfect in

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is one of the most terrifying things

anyone can do, but you know what?

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Dare to be iconic all started for me to

share my story in hopes that it resonates

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with one of you radiant icons so that you

can dare to be iconic in your daily lives.

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So let's talk about how I struggle

with imperfection and how it really

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inspired this whole dare to be iconic

mindset and made me the icon I am today.

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My whole life, I've been a perfectionist.

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I have struggled with the concept

of being perfect and having to

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adhere to these standards ever

since I was like little baby Amanda.

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And a recent example would be when I

was filming my first podcast episode.

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So it was honestly early this week.

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And I was just so hard on myself because

it wasn't coming out the way I wanted

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it to, it wasn't coming out perfectly.

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And I had this idea in my mind

of what it should be like.

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It should be like all the other

self improvement podcasts out there.

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It needs to be X, Y, and Z way.

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A whole point of dare to be iconic, right?

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Is to be iconic in my own unique way.

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And my version of iconic isn't the

same as everyone else in the market.

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And that is okay.

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So the way I'm going to approach

this podcast is going to be

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completely different than so and so.

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But I need to be okay with that and

normalize that just because it isn't

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the way that someone else is doing

it doesn't mean it's not Perfect

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in quotation marks to me, so I just

need to embrace my imperfections.

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I was really really down on myself.

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After I had finished recording, I

was in such a depressing, messy mood.

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And my friend Dani would be so happy

that I said that, so shout out Dani.

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But I was just like, I should quit.

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I'm a failure.

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This is gonna suck.

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No one's gonna listen to me.

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And you know what?

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If this isn't their cup

of tea, that's okay.

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Because I'm being authentic to myself.

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The way for me to be authentic to myself

is to just talk to the camera right here

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in my bedroom on this mic like I'm talking

to one of my best friends because that

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is the whole point of Dare to be Iconic,

is being authentic to me and that's how

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I shine and thrive in my iconicness.

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Let's talk about how to

embrace imperfection.

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So how can you be imperfectly iconic?

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This is a hard one for me specifically

because I suck at giving myself grace.

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I suck at being kind to myself.

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I don't like admitting when I failed.

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I don't like to admit that I'm

imperfect, but we all are, you know?

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So it shouldn't be something that

I'm ashamed of or embarrassed by,

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but I always get in my head about it.

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One way that we can be imperfectly

iconic and be the icons we are, is by

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embracing our imperfections and by being

kinder to ourselves and giving ourselves

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grace and accepting that we will fail.

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And that's okay.

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Think of imperfections

as a painting, okay?

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So every unsuspected stroke or

splatter makes up this beautiful

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messy canvas that is our lives.

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Our lives shouldn't be perfect

because life isn't perfect.

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And that's okay to embrace

those imperfections because

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that's what makes us iconic.

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That's what makes us unique and

beautiful and the icons that we are.

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So how do we get over that

hurdle of being imperfect?

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We have to own them and say them out loud.

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So I'm going to own my

imperfections right now.

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Now my therapist would

say, I'm a queen at this.

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I love to create unnecessary

chaos for myself.

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I love it.

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And as many times as my therapist tells

me, stop creating chaos for yourself.

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I will continue to create

unnecessary chaos in my life.

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That's just always going to happen.

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I will overthink certain situations

and play them multiple times in my head

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because I just want them to be what?

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Perfect.

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Yes.

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So I create this unnecessary

chaos in my life that I do

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not need, but I do it anyway.

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So I need to start giving myself

grace when I do it and start

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recognizing those patterns.

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And I am getting better at

it, but it is a struggle.

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So that's an imperfection of mine.

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Another one would be right after the

breakup , I carried this shame that

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we talked about in episode one like

I was just letting this narrative

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that my ex wrote of me dictate

and define my entire narrative.

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And how I perceived myself and

how I moved and went about life.

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I should have been kinder to myself

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This was the first time I

was getting my heart broken.

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That is going to hurt, and I'm not

always going to get it right, I

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was in this transitional period,

and I wasn't giving myself the

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grace and kindness that I deserved.

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I needed to do that.

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And another one that I can think of is

honestly right now with the podcast.

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This is something that I have

dreamed of for two years now, and

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it's finally coming to fruition.

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And that is like the most exciting

thing I've ever done so far in my life.

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That this dream is actually

coming true and I'm, I'm creating

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and I'm making it happen.

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But I'm not always going to get it right.

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There is a learning curve with

anything new that you start, and

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you're not always going to be perfect.

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I'm a CEO for the first time

in my life of my own company.

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I'm not always going to get it right.

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And that is okay.

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I have to accept that

sometimes I'm going to fail.

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That sometimes, It's not going to

go the way that I want it to, but

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it's happening the way it should.

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So in turn of that, I need to

trust my path like I trust an Uber.

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And I know it's a lot easier said than

because trust is my word for: 2024

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And we are, we are going through it

right now, y'all, but we can talk

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about that later, but we need to

start trusting our path, and that's

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within embracing the imperfections

and being imperfectly iconic.

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That's how you be an icon.

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You need to stumble boldly, live

authentically, and dare to be iconic.

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Dare to be your own

unique version of iconic.

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Honestly, just appreciate the beauty

in the unexpected moments, we have

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to keep trusting this beautiful

painting that we're creating.

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Even if the strokes and the splatters

don't make sense at that particular

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moment, that is okay because

everything is happening for a reason.

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So embrace it and trust the process.

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Trust that path like it is an Uber.

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I dare you to write out your

imperfections, cross them out, and

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accompany the lesson that goes with it.

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And for more check out my

journal, break up with the past,

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fall in love with the future.

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All right, radiant icon.

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Now that we know how we can be an

icon next week, we're diving into

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that day to be iconic mindset.

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The mindset where you can create the

dream life that you've always wanted for

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yourself, how you can step into your power

and how you can be the icon that you are.

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If you liked today's episode, make sure to

leave a review, share it with your friends

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Remember radiant icons, dare to be iconic.

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I'll see you next time.

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Bye.