Facing Fears, Solo Adventures, & Beating Burnout

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What's up radiant icons and welcome back to dare to

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be iconic, the podcast made for

icons daring to be themselves.

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I'm your host, Amanda

Paolicelli and you guys, it's.

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It's been a while.

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It's been a while since we've

done a solo tea time sesh,

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but you know what that means.

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That means the tea is piping

hot and it's ready to be spilt.

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Yes.

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Yes, indeed.

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I have lots of tea from

my first solo trip.

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That's right, everyone.

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Your girl did it.

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She Fought her fears of flying by

herself and she did it not because

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she wanted to it's because she had to

for her day job, but Anyway, I did it.

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I basically fought fear and I can do

the scary things now truly it was a

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really amazing experience Having my

first solo trip and maybe it wasn't

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because I I wanted to and it wasn't

because I was ready, I had to be ready

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for it, but I'm so glad that I was

forced, basically, to fight my fears.

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I never thought my little Florida booty

would be in the Midwest during the winter.

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Um, but I was there.

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And, you know, we

survived and we saw snow.

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We actually had a lot of amazing first,

which is what this tea time sesh is all

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about, which is experiencing all these

amazing once in a lifetime experiences

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for the first time, like meeting my

coworkers for the first time in person,

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because I work in a remote environment.

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Yes.

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I have a regular nine to five and

It's been fun, but I work in a

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remote environment and I don't really

work with anyone besides my boss

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because i'm An executive assistant

to the head of the organization.

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And I don't really get to

interact with the team as much

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as maybe other departments.

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So it was really interesting still

being new because I'm very new hire

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and being able to meet everyone after

a couple of months of being on the

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team and kind of working by myself for

the majority of my time working there.

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So it was fun and something

really rejuvenates the

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soul about being in person.

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And then on top of that, not only did I

get to meet all my coworkers for the first

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time, I flew by myself for the first time.

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I saw snow for the first time.

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I was working an event at a

much higher attendee volume than

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I have ever have experienced.

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It was insane being able to work with

literally so many people, whether that's

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exhibitors, sponsors, attendees, so on

and so forth, like the capacity of how

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many people were at this conference.

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And I was working behind the scenes of it

and seeing like all the work about, you

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know, we've had since January to now in

November and being able to work in person

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with everyone and figure out that groove

of working with your co workers for the

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first time and then meeting all these

other new people and working at event at

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this scale like there's a lot of firsts

going on you guys and you know what?

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I'm here to spill the tea about all of it.

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But with that being said That's a lot

of chaos, and that's a lot of busyness,

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especially right before the holidays,

like, it's Thanksgiving here in America,

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or it's just ended, actually, but while

we were prepping for the conference

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and while the conference was happening,

it was the week before Thanksgiving.

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Like, you guys, that's a lot.

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And then we have December, which is

personally my favorite month of the year.

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Because it's my birth month.

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National Amanda Day is December 19th.

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So you already know December

is going to be jam packed.

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And we also have, like, my sister's

graduation, and we have Christmas, and

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New Year's, like, December is crazy.

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So it's like, all these amazing

firsts are happening in the midst of

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chaos and hecticness and busyness.

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So it's like, how do

you protect your energy?

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How do you not burn out when all of

this amazing, crazy, thrilling stuff

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is happening all at the same time?

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Well, You guys are in for a treat,

Radiant Icons, because I am spilling

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the tea on how you can protect

your energy, how you can avoid

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burnout, and also enjoy everything

that's going on in this amazing,

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crazy experience that we call life.

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But before I spill all the tea, make

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But anywho, enough with the

chit chat, let's get to the tea.

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Are you ready, Radiant Icons?

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Because your tea time

sesh is starting now.

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Now, I know you guys probably know this

about me by now, but if there is one

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thing about me is that I will always,

always, always, always find a way

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to pull lessons out of every type of

scenario or situation that happens to me.

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And this solo trip was no different.

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Shocker!

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There was no difference in me being able

to pull lessons out of multiple situations

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that happened to me on this trip.

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And if you guys want Followed my

stories on my Instagram, you know

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that there was a lot of tea and I

never spoke about what truly happened

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because I was waiting for this episode.

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I was waiting for this episode

specifically to talk about the

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situations happening, but also

the lessons that I took from them.

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And there is no better way to start

a tea time sesh than sharing the

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lessons and the stories that built

the idea of this very episode.

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So let's get into it, you guys.

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Here are my five lessons

from my first solo work trip.

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Let's get into it.

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So I'm gonna start this a little

bit different than I usually do with

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like my lesson recaps I'm gonna talk

about lessons one and two together

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because they go together in the story.

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Lesson one and two- One: No one has

the power to make you feel small.

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Two: if someone does not like

you ,that's on them, and not you.

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Now, it is no shocker to me that

I'm not everyone's cup of tea.

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I know that.

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I know that not everyone is gonna like me.

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And I'm okay with that, because

I love who I am, and I will

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not change who I am for anyone.

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With that being said, in this particular

situation that happened, It was like a

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ghost from my past Came back to haunt me.

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In this particular instance, i'm

starting A new chapter of my life, right?

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I'm with a new organization.

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I'm not with my prior employer.

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And I will never say anything

bad about my prior employer

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because I learned a lot there.

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However, I can now, being in a new work

environment and a new organization, see

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that the work environment for my previous

employer was not the best for my mental

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well being, or just, like, in general.

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It was not.

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I can say that.

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And maybe at a later on, or maybe at a

date later on, maybe I talk more about

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it, but it's still a sensitive subject to

me because a lot of stuff happened that.

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When you're first starting

your professional development

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journey, it's like your first

big girl job out of college.

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You really don't know what's going on.

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And you kind of are just like going

with the flow and you're learning on

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the go and in that particular job I

was definitely learning as I went and

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I'm so grateful for that but there

were definitely situations that that

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happened or that I was put in that I

definitely shouldn't have dealt with that.

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I definitely shouldn't have been

put through and I can now clearly

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see that, and also at the end of

my employment, but you know what

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that's a story for another time.

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However going into that, I know that Not

everyone I work with, I know that not

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everyone that comes across my content,

or maybe meets me in person Is going

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to like me and that's okay with me but

we have to be able to work together in

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a civil fashion, like we, we have to

be able to be professionals about it.

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We have to be able to be adults.

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And in this specific situation that

happened, I personally felt like my

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past, something from My first job in

that very toxic environment was coming

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back to slap me in the face it kind of

forces you to deal with all the emotions

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that you've been, like, burying down

for so long, like, it's tricky, and

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it's hard, and in that moment, I knew

that, one, I knew that, one, I was never

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going to change that person's mind on

how they think of me, and two, That

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person, no matter what their personal

feelings for me are and that I'm aware

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of them, that person does not deserve

the right to make me feel inferior.

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No one deserves to make you feel small.

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And in that moment when everything

was happening, because I hadn't

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dealt with it well, right?

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I didn't deal with the trauma, right?

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We're going back to trauma

and boundaries, everyone.

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I didn't deal with the trauma that I

experienced in my previous job, like being

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in a toxic, unhealthy work environment.

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I didn't deal with that trauma.

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I kind of just pushed it down and

like kept it like bottled inside.

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The way I chose to react in the privacy of

my hotel room, was allowing someone else

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to have so much control of my narrative.

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And what is the one thing that I

have told myself since the beginning

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of this Dare to be Iconic journey?

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That no one, no matter who

the hell they are, will ever

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have the power to define me.

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Will ever have the

power to write my story.

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And in that moment, I was

letting that person win.

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I was letting them dictate my

emotions and my feelings and the way

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that I was moving about my space.

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And so when my boss told me,

no one deserves your tears,

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that's when it clicked for me.

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That's when that mindset switch happened.

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And What I also learned is that I need

to deal with some shit I didn't deal

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with, which I think is popping up a lot

more as we continue on in season two.

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I realized there's a lot of little

boxes that I haven't uncovered yet

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that I need to kind of deal with.

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I didn't realize how much the

trauma that I endured in my prior

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employment really affected me and

it took that moment to realize it.

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Amanda from summer 2020, who started

that last job like she would have

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never, ever, ever been able to have

that self awareness and mindset switch

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in such a quick turnaround time.

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Like she would have never

seen the positive in a really

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cloudy, unfortunate situation.

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And that growth is

something that I'm proud of.

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And I think that's important to recognize,

but also know and hold myself accountable

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that I do need to continue on working

on this specific instance, I need to.

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I need to deal with it.

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I feel like I say that every episode.

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Like, I, I feel like I'm like,

I need to deal with this.

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I need to deal with this.

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Like, it's always a different

thing I need to deal with.

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But you know what?

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That's growth and

accountability, you guys.

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I guess that's good, right?

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We're having the hard conversations and

I'm coming to a lot of realizations.

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And I hope you guys are as well.

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But that's my lesson one

and two for you guys.

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Don't let anyone make you feel small.

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Don't let anyone make you feel inferior.

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And if they do not like

you, that's on them.

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That's on them, babe.

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That's not on you.

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All right, let's get to lesson three.

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You can do the scary things.

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It's the fear that is holding you back.

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Ain't that the truth?

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For the longest time, I was convinced

that I cannot travel by myself,

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that I was not capable of doing it.

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I don't know where I fed this lie into

my psyche and made myself believe it.

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Like, I don't know where it started

and I, I know I have a lot of anxiety

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around traveling in general, specifically

with flying, I always relied on

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someone else to navigate the way.

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And now it was up to me to be a big

girl, to put on my big girl pants

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and figure out how to fly by myself.

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And to me, that was terrifying,

anxiety inducing, and I wanted

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to crawl out of my skin and sob.

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But, coming back in one

piece, I can say, I can do it.

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I fought fear, and I can fly by myself.

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I was able to handle it.

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I didn't get on the wrong plane.

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I was able to, like, literally do

everything and anything by myself.

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And so, you know what?

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I did it.

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I did it.

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And I'm so proud of myself for that

because that was scary, you guys.

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I had to acknowledge the fear I had

to work through it But I also had

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to push through it in order to Get

to my final destination, to move

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forward in what I needed to do.

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And in that case, I had to

get to this conference because

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it was a work obligation.

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It was not optional, you guys.

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I had to do it.

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So, I needed to fight the

fear and do the scary thing.

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And even when I did deal with the

situation that I did coming from

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leaving Columbus and coming back to

Orlando, like I still got through it.

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So like, let's actually

chat about that real quick.

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So.

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If you guys didn't see my Instagram

story, it was like, I want to say it

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was the day of the Las Vegas Grand Prix.

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I was coming back and it was

like a late night flight.

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It was the only flight that I

can find out of Ohio to Orlando.

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So I was already like tired.

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I was already over it.

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I was like, please, like,

I just want to get home.

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And so I was with my coworker and

the Columbus, Ohio, like airport,

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like their international airport

is super, super small, right?

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So like, even if I wasn't with my

coworker, because we had a flight like

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around the same time, I definitely

would have been able to like handle it.

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Apparently when they did my like dmb

like my license photo And again, I just

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got my license in November of last year.

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So it's not like it's

old, old, like it's new.

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It is so new.

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I look exactly like my picture.

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But anywho, I went

through four TSA agents.

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Because the biometrics didn't match

my driver's license photo because

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whoever took it at the DMV left this

like light on my forehead and the

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biometrics don't match the photo.

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So they were giving me so much trouble.

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And when it came to like the third

person, I was getting a lot of anxiety.

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She told me, Oh, well, if you don't

have another form of photo ID.

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Then you're gonna be stuck

here and I was I lost it.

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I Oh my god, like when I tell you I burst

out into sobs like uncontrollable sobs

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Looking like an actual hot mess express

like you guys like it was so bad And so

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she told me that and she was doing the

most because again, those biometrics

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are optional like you don't have to

do them, but she was doing the most.

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And I think she got off on like

the power that she had because she,

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she did the most you guys, like

it was, Oh my God, it was so bad.

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So like there I am sobbing.

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My coworker's like already on

the other side of security.

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I was like, oh my god, this is horrible.

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And like, I had enough time.

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Like, I had enough time to get to my gate

and like, pre board, like, everything.

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But like, still, she told me

I was gonna be stranded there.

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And I said, there's no way.

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There is no way I'm gonna be stuck

in Columbus, Ohio, of all places.

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Like, absolutely not.

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Like, I just want to be home.

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Then it took the fourth TSA agent,

which was like an older gentleman,

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who literally was like, it's okay.

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Like, it's okay.

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We got you.

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Like, don't even worry about it.

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Like, it's okay.

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Do you have like a work

ID or something on you?

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Just show me that and you'll be fine.

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But like that lady, that

third lady, she needs to not.

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Because there I was, 25 years old,

looking like a hot ass mess, crying

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my eyes out, because she told me

I was going to be stranded because

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I didn't have another form of ID.

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So a little bonus lesson here for you guys

is always bring two forms of photo ID when

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you travel, because you don't want Want to

be like me, trying to get home at like 4.

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30 at night to get on your 6pm

flight and basically be told you're

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going to be stuck in Columbus, Ohio.

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So figure it out.

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So yeah, always come with another

form of photo ID you guys.

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Like only that shit would happen

to me, you know, but anyway,

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let's get to the next lesson.

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Oh my god.

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My last lesson for you guys is be a

sponge and soak in everything you can.

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Now, I think what's really cool about

the current job that I have now within

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my organization is that I am being

exposed so early on in my professional

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development to individuals that have

this like wide range of knowledge and

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talents and they're sharing it with me

because I'm learning through them, right?

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I'm getting a master class

from experts in their field.

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And also being able to not only apply

that into the work that I do for my

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day job, but also to dare to be iconic.

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I tell my boss this, like, all the

time, like, the way she conducts

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herself in meetings like to me That's

like a master class and being a boss.

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She's owning her space like she is an

icon and i've told her this multiple

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times that she's an icon like seeing

the way she conducts herself in meetings,

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seeing the way that she conducts herself,

moves about situations, and how she,

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you know, handles certain scenarios.

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That's amazing to me.

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And I'm able to soak that in and take

that in and apply it not only to the work

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that I do there, but to dare to be iconic.

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And I know that it's only making

me a stronger individual, but

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also a stronger business woman.

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And I'm so lucky that I landed exactly

where I am now and that I, I get to

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have these experiences, but just in

general, like sometimes we feel like

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even if it's not like a job that we want

or a class that we want to take, right?

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Sometimes it's things that we have

to do in order to survive, but every

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situation, every scenario that you end

up being and whether it's Working at a

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grocery store or working in a theme park.

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You really don't want to do that or taking

this class, but you really don't want to

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take this class because you'd rather be

taking another class, but you have to take

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this one because of your major, right?

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Like all these things that we

really don't want to do, but like,

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we're doing it because we have to.

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All of those things are

transferable skills.

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Like every single thing that we

do, we can be a sponge and soak it

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in and apply it to other aspects

of our lives as we move forward.

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If there is one thing you take away from

this episode, please let it be this.

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Be a sponge and soak in everything

you possibly can even when you

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don't think it's gonna help you in

the long run, it does, you guys.

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I promise you, it does.

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So within all these lessons

comes a lot of growth, right?

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And With a lot of growth you have to be

able to sustain it in order to propel

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forward right in order to move forward

in this self discovery Journey, and I

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think the biggest thing that kind of gets

overlooked when we are Trying to sustain

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the growth that we've accomplished.

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We need to be able to protect our energy

and basically avoid burnout because in

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these high pressure situations or even

these situations where there's a lot of

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noise around it or a lot of chaos, or it's

just a really busy time of year, right?

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A lot of things are go, go, go, go, go.

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You can lose yourself in the process,

and we have to make sure to take that

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time for ourselves protect our energy.

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I hate burnout and like it's it's to the

point of you physically worked yourself

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so hard that you're just like done

right and we want to avoid that because

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we're we're trying to move forward

and we're trying to move forward in a

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healthy way and I for one Definitely,

definitely have burned myself out.

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Like please, I'm literally a

small business owner and I have

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a full-time job on top of that.

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I've definitely burned

myself out, you guys.

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Like let's be so real, but

like we all have, right?

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So how do you protect yourself like,

it's hard, but here are some of the

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tips that I've written down that

I've actually used in my real life

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that has made a difference for me.

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In my opinion, the first step to

avoiding burnout is recognizing

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burnout before it happens.

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It takes time to be able to

take notice of those patterns

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and behaviors within yourself.

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So it's not easy, and it's not a quick

fix, but we just have to keep working on

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these things until we can recognize it and

be able to put these practices into place.

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For me personally, like my personal

signs of burnout are that I am

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so unmotivated to do anything and

that I'm paralyzed with anxiety.

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Now it's a little tricky

because I do have anxiety.

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My body reacts differently to burnout

anxiety as compared to regular anxiety

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or other anxieties that I have.

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The way that burnout anxiety feels

or shows up for me is being paralyzed

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with the fear of not wanting to do

anything and just, like, sitting in it.

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I physically cannot do

anything because I am so tired.

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And for me, I know how

that feels within my body.

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I've put myself out Through a

lot of situations of overworking

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myself until I get to that point

to recognize that pattern and

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feeling and behavior within me.

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The next thing for me would also be

like this overwhelming feeling of doom.

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I just have this big pit

in my stomach and it's just

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encompasses my whole entire being.

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It takes over me.

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It kind of goes hand in hand with

being paralyzed by anxiety.

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My personal advice when it comes to

recognizing burnout before it hits,

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is you really have to take time

with yourself and truly, truly take

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note of how your body reacts, your

patterns and behaviors, to when you're

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in these busy, chaotic, stressful

times, because that's when burnout

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is more susceptible to sprout, right?

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Like that's when it's more susceptible to

show up and we need to start taking notes.

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It's kind of like that roadmap to

me when it deals with trauma like

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kind of like a roadmap to burnout

like how does your body react?

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How do certain maybe situations

like how do you react to certain

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situations when you're at your wit's

end when you're about to burn out?

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Right, like all of them can kind of

go back to what's your roadmap to you?

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When you're about to burn out whether

what are some symptoms, patterns

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,behaviors that you recognize?

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Are you more snappy when your mom's

talking to you about something?

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I know I am Sorry, mom.

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Are you more sassy?

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Are you angrier faster like all these

things like take note of it Write it down

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somewhere that is private and personal to

you and, you know, just take note of it.

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And I think that's the first

step in recognizing burnout

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and how it shows up for you.

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And that's also why self care is so

crucial in sustaining personal growth

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because we go on these amazing experiences

and sometimes we forget to just step

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back and take a moment for ourselves.

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Like even when we're on vacations, right?

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We're all go, go, go.

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Or at least like, that's, that's how I am.

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I'm go, go, go, go to the next thing

cause I want to see everything and

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anything, but like, it's okay to, to

take a breath, to breathe, to step

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back and to like truly take in your

surroundings and be in touch with you.

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Like, it's okay to do that.

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That helps you avoid burnout.

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So here are some of my burnout prevention

tips that have actually started working

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for me, so I wanted to share so the

first things first, I'm a realist.

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No, but like genuinely the first thing

is Prioritize your rest and recovery.

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So even if that means taking an hour

or two out of your day, carving

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some time whether it's scrolling on

your phone, going on a walk, doing

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some type of movement, talking to

your friend, or just doing something

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that makes your soul feel alive.

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That sets a fire within you, like it

brings joy back into your life because

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sometimes when we're in that almost

hitting burnout where we've hit burnout.

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Sometimes, like, life feels dull

because we feel so unmotivated,

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we just don't want to do anything.

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I think it's really important in

that rest and recovery stage to

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make sure that we are doing things

that make us feel alive again.

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That make us smile, that make us laugh,

that bring joy to our lives, that just

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make everything sparkle a little bit more.

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So find what that is for you and

make sure to prioritize that.

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My second one is setting boundaries, and

I know boundaries are tricky and I know it

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takes time to set them like trust me like

I know like I'm still dealing with them.

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But I think the first way when it

comes to like avoiding burnout is

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truly listening to your gut and letting

that steer you in the direction that

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it's telling you to go in because your

gut's never wrong like, it's always

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steering you in the right direction.

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And also deep down, you know

your bandwidth and capacity.

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If you can't take on another

project, if you can't do X, Y, and

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Z, like, you know it deep down.

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And again, that's connected to your gut.

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So, remember the power in saying

no and setting those boundaries

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with yourself and with others.

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But yeah, we are definitely doing an

episode about boundaries later on.

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My third one is practicing gratitude:

taking five minutes out of your day,

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even if it's literally just to recenter

yourself and listing three things

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on a piece of paper or on Like in

your notes app on your phone about

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what are you grateful for today?

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Just being able to practice

gratitude in your everyday life

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really helps with that mindset.

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Sometimes I think of burnout as this

like gloomy cloud that kind of like.

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Drifts over you and then stays

there and then like pours.

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So, in order to have the sun shine

again, in order for it to peer through

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that gloomy cloud, I think practicing

gratitude is the key in that, for your

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mindset to switch into A more lighter

positive vibe because burnout really does

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affect your whole being in not a good way.

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Then my last one is be

Present avoid multitasking.

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I know we live in a society that, praises

multitasking, but in the case of avoiding

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burnout, we really do have to avoid it.

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It's, like, multitasking takes so much

brainpower, and it takes you everywhere,

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Burnout does come with that, that

pressure of having to do everything at

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once, which is why sometimes we lean

into multitasking tendencies because

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like we want to get everything done.

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And we think that being able to

multitask and do all these things at

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the same time will actually be quicker

and we can get further on our to do

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list, we can cross things off sooner.

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When in all reality, multitasking kind

of does slow you down, you're not able

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to take in the moment to be present

and truly focus on one thing at a time.

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And I'm so guilty of this, you guys,

because my brain is always going.

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It's going, going, going, going,

going, and it doesn't stop.

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Like it really, Really doesn't stop and

I I'm guilty of like this multitasking

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thing of just wanting to do everything at

once and because I think That I'm gonna

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be able to delete things off of my to do

list faster I'm able to make that cross

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off because there's nothing better in

this world than that feeling of crossing

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things off on your to do list, I know

.My my type a people get me on that one.

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Okay, like that is the best

feeling in the world and sometimes

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we think oh Multitasking is

the way to do it, and it's not.

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We need to be in the now, and we

need to take everything in, just

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like I had mentioned earlier with

like, The vacation example, right?

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Like we go, go, go, go, go.

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Sometimes we forget the little moments.

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We forget the joys of it.

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Like, why are we on this vacation?

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It's to relax and to enjoy

and yes, to see new things.

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But also we're able to

take time for ourselves.

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Like it's a vacation,

we're supposed to chill.

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We're supposed to take it slow.

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So please, please, please

avoid multitasking as much

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as you can, I understand.

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But that's one of my biggest burnout tips.

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All right, Radiant Icons, that

is your tea time sesh for today.

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I hope you enjoyed today's episode.

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If you did, make sure to subscribe, to

leave a comment, rating, review, share it

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with your friends, share it with anyone

and anyone, honestly, because we love more

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Radiant Icons in our iconic community of

ours, and I will never get tired of saying

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that, Radiant Icons, because I mean it.

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I love you guys so much, and I

literally, truly cannot believe that

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that after this episode, there are

only two more episodes for: 2024

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And to think this is the year that

Dare to be Iconic premiered like the

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podcast, like March 27th, 2024 is when

we had our three episode premiere.

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And to think that in just two more

episodes, we're closing out the

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year Dare to be Iconic premiered.

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Like that's so wild to me.

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And what's even more wilder or iconic

is that the last episode of: 2024

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like my birthday special, you guys.

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Like that's so, I couldn't have planned

it better myself, to be honest with you.

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Like, I truly, truly couldn't.

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Like, that is just, Like, chef's kiss.

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Like, beautiful.

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Like, I love it.

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Because you guys know I love my birthday.

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: 00:32:03

I call it a national holiday.

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National Amanda Day is December 19th.

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But the episode will come out

the day before my birthday.

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So we're celebrating early, you guys.

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Because if I could make my birthday

a month celebration I so would, but I

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unfortunately cannot do that because

my parents would be so sick of me.

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So, we're just gonna celebrate a day

early with you guys, and then we're

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living it up on the 19th, which is

National Amanda Day, so, don't worry.

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: 00:32:33

Be prepared for all the Instagrams.

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: 00:32:34

You're gonna be so sick of me.

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: 00:32:36

Anyway, let's talk about

next week's episode.

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We are continuing our Everyday

Icon series with my girl Becs.

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She is a TikTok influencer

and one of my closest friends.

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: 00:32:47

And we are spilling the

tea about self advocacy.

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: 00:32:51

I think it's so important to recognize the

power of using your voice, particularly

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: 00:32:56

when it comes to the workplace.

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So we both come from a performing

background and we've had to recognize

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the power of our voices very early on,

and we just want to share that message

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with all of you, with all the radiant

icons, because I love you guys so much,

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and I just want you to recognize that

you hold so much power, and if there

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is something going on that is wrong, or

that you feel uncomfortable, Anything

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: 00:33:22

of that nature, like, you have the

power to say something and to stop it.

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: 00:33:26

So I'm very excited for next week's

episode, so make sure to subscribe

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: 00:33:30

and tune in, because it will be

an episode you don't want to miss.

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: 00:33:33

Okay, guys, I'm done yapping.

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I will talk to you guys next week.

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Remember radiant icons dare to be iconic.

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Bye!