Episode 36

full
Published on:

9th Jul 2025

Your Iconic Summer Reset Guide: How To Heal, Thrive, and Shine

☀️ It’s your mid-year glow-up, Radiant Icons.

In today’s tea time, Amanda is getting real about the messy middle — those moments when life feels off-track and your sparkle’s a little dim. She’s spilling the tea about her own struggles with intentional living lately and inviting you to join her for a full-on Iconic Summer Reset.

We’re talking reflecting on how far you’ve come, releasing what’s weighing you down, and realigning with who you actually want to be. Because healing isn’t just about sitting with your pain — it’s about daring to thrive and shine even brighter. ✨

🎧 Tap in for a guided reset that’ll have you reclaiming your power, rewriting your story, and stepping back into the world as your most iconic, unstoppable self.

References:

How To Make 2025 ICONIC: Your New Year's Prep

Dare To Love YOU: Building Self Compassion

What No One Tells You About Falling Again

Connect with Amanda:

Follow Amanda's DTBI Journey!

Shop the Paddock Icons Collection today!

Got a question for Amanda or a topic you'd love to hear discussed on a future episode? Submit your question to the "Dare To Be Iconic Hotline" today!

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome back to Dare To Be Iconic!

00:43 Why this summer calls for a reset (no more running on empty)

01:18 When living intentionally feels like a struggle

04:06 Facing the hard stuff & big self-truths

05:02 Meet your new fave: The Iconic Summer Reset Guide

11:39 Taking a sec to reflect on your growth

16:38 How to recharge so you can actually thrive

19:52 Realigning & stepping into your shine era

21:57 See you next week!

Transcript
Amanda Paolicelli:

What's up, radiant icons, and welcome back to Dare To

2

:

Be Iconic, the podcast made for icons

who are daring to be themselves.

3

:

I'm your host, Amanda Paolicelli,

and well for today's tea time

4

:

sesh, we're doing a little reset.

5

:

It's time for your iconic summer

reset guide so you can learn how to

6

:

heal, thrive, and shine this summer.

7

:

Because honestly, sometimes

all we need is a little reset.

8

:

And you know what?

9

:

I needed one.

10

:

I have been in desperate need

for a summer reset, so I thought,

11

:

why don't we do it together?

12

:

Because I know I'm not the only

one who is struggling right

13

:

now, or at least I hope not.

14

:

But anyway, before we spill the tea

on how you can heal, thrive, and shine

15

:

this summer, make sure to connect with

me on socials, on Instagram and TikTok.

16

:

It's @amandapaolicelli_

and @daretobeiconic_.

17

:

And if you're on LinkedIn radiant icons,

you already know what I'm gonna say.

18

:

Make sure to connect with me on there.

19

:

It's Amanda Paolicelli.

20

:

All of my socials are linked

in the show notes below.

21

:

You know what, radiant icons, this episode

has been maybe one of the most challenging

22

:

episodes because I'm trying to get every

word perfect and right for you guys.

23

:

But the reality of the situation

is there's nothing perfect

24

:

about this entire thing.

25

:

I haven't been okay recently.

26

:

I've been struggling.

27

:

I haven't felt like myself.

28

:

And it wasn't until the last

two weeks of June where I

29

:

truly felt my spark come back.

30

:

I felt motivated again.

31

:

I felt my brain on fire.

32

:

I felt alive in the best possible way.

33

:

And now while I've hit record, I

somehow cannot come up with the

34

:

words, even though I've prepped for

this episode because you know me.

35

:

I love a good plan.

36

:

I love some good preparation, but damn,

the words are not wording right now.

37

:

The honest fact of this is I stopped

living by my intention, and maybe I'm

38

:

embarrassed because that's something that

I believe so strongly in is intentional

39

:

living in order to live your most

iconic life, and to let that word of

40

:

the year guide you in every decision

and situation and scenario in your life.

41

:

And I think maybe I'm embarrassed

to admit that I kind of lost,

42

:

I kind of lost direction.

43

:

I kind of lost my intention.

44

:

And it's so funny because

:

45

:

is supposed to be the most

iconic year of my life because

46

:

my intention for 2025 is iconic.

47

:

It's for me to be bold and to be

remarkable, and to be extraordinary and

48

:

maybe within being bold and extraordinary

and remarkable is also accepting every

49

:

part of me and not shying away from

the parts that are not so pretty.

50

:

And in fact, I know that's

true because I wrote down in my

51

:

journal because, you know, I love

writing down everything is that.

52

:

Well, 2025 is the year of iconic, a year

where I will thrive more than ever before

53

:

by knowing myself on a deeper level.

54

:

This growth will shape both my

personal and business life as I fully

55

:

embody the essence of my own unique

version of iconic and make bold moves.

56

:

To thrive, I must continue to be

remarkable, bold, extraordinary,

57

:

and unique, even in the face of

fear, discomfort, or darkness.

58

:

Shying away from what makes me who I am or

from the challenges I don't want to face,

59

:

robs me of the chance to truly thrive.

60

:

And you know what's so funny?

61

:

Is I was running away from

the stuff I didn't wanna face.

62

:

Honestly, I've probably been running

away from it for a while, and while,

63

:

I guess that's why it was so hard

for me in June, because I went on

64

:

vacation for almost three weeks,

and I was like, you know what?

65

:

I'm just gonna run away

from my problems for a bit.

66

:

I'm just gonna turn my brain off and just

be out of my, out of my normal routine.

67

:

No, girl, you are running away from

problems because you were running

68

:

away from your intention of iconic.

69

:

You were so wrapped up in X,

Y, and Z going on in your life

70

:

that you decided, you know what?

71

:

I'm gonna run away.

72

:

I'm not gonna face the hard shit

because I don't wanna face it.

73

:

And well, guess what?

74

:

It blew up in your damn face, Amanda.

75

:

It blew up in your damn face.

76

:

And you know what?

77

:

Actually no, it didn't blow up in my face.

78

:

It just made me realize the

things that I wanted to get back

79

:

to when I came back to my normal

reality, my normal everyday life.

80

:

And so maybe I'm happy that I strayed

away from my intention, but to get back

81

:

to the core foundation of this Tea Time

session is your iconic summer reset

82

:

guide all starts with going back to

your intention, going back to what you

83

:

told yourself at the beginning of 2025.

84

:

Because let's be honest here, we're

seven months into the year, okay?

85

:

We're more than halfway through.

86

:

It's time to check in with yourself.

87

:

It's time to check in with that

intention and see how have you

88

:

let it lead you through your life.

89

:

And you know what?

90

:

Honestly, I was letting iconic lead

me throughout the first five months

91

:

of the year, and it was great.

92

:

And it was boom, boom, boom.

93

:

It was hustle, it was thriving,

it was shining, it was great.

94

:

And then, you know what?

95

:

June hit me in the damn face.

96

:

June hit me in the damn face

and said, you know what, Amanda?

97

:

You're running away from your reality.

98

:

There are things in the summer that you

told yourself you were gonna deal with

99

:

in this nice little off break for DTBI.

100

:

You told yourself, you made the

promise when you wrote out your

101

:

schedule for the entire year.

102

:

You said, you know what?

103

:

June through August is

gonna be your time to reset.

104

:

And while you know what, let's book

a vacation to actually run away from

105

:

everything that you said you were

gonna deal with so you can reset.

106

:

Yeah, no, it said, you know what?

107

:

You're gonna deal with it right

now while you're on vacation.

108

:

It's gonna smack you in the damn

face so you can start living

109

:

through you intention again.

110

:

So you can start being bold,

remarkable, and extraordinary,

111

:

so you can start not shying away

from the stuff that makes you you.

112

:

And you know what?

113

:

I actually am so happy that I had

that realization, even though June

114

:

was a pain in the ass to deal with.

115

:

I'm so happy.

116

:

Because for the first time in a long

time, I'm dealing with shit that I've

117

:

never dealt with before because I was

actually smacked in the face with, you

118

:

need to get a handle on your life again.

119

:

You need to start living

with your intention.

120

:

How can you fully embody

your true essence of iconic?

121

:

If you run away from the stuff that

makes you you, the hard shit that

122

:

you don't wanna deal with, that has

shaped you into the icon you are today?

123

:

How can you keep moving forward

and exploring what iconic means to

124

:

you in this new era of your life

and this year of thriving, right?

125

:

Of this year of transformation?

126

:

If you don't deal with the hard shit,

you purposely booked the first six months

127

:

of the year with a lot of exciting DTBI

milestones so that you can be busy and be

128

:

on track and be like, la, la, la, la, la.

129

:

And also Being in this relationship

with my boyfriend has made me face

130

:

a lot of shit that I didn't want to

deal with, even though it was a number

131

:

one goal of mine to deal with this

traumatic event that happened to me

132

:

at 19 years old, that I've kind of

alluded throughout the seasons, right?

133

:

But I told myself this year I'm gonna

deal with it and it's going to be

134

:

led through this intention of being

iconic and not shying away from it

135

:

because I want to deal with this.

136

:

I want to heal from that trauma.

137

:

I want to forgive 19-year-old Amanda

for all the shit that happened.

138

:

And being in this relationship with my

boyfriend and realizing, well, damn,

139

:

I've literally booked myself up for

the last six months, made myself so

140

:

extremely busy so that I can avoid the

actual problem that I wanted to deal

141

:

with at the beginning of the year that

inspired me to choose the word iconic.

142

:

That inspired me to literally say,

stop shying away from what makes you,

143

:

you, Amanda, that traumatic event,

even though it was so traumatic and

144

:

painful and hurtful and damn you wish

that it never fucking happened to you,

145

:

you keep shying away from it,

but it made you who you are.

146

:

So your first step in your

iconic summer reset guide is

147

:

to get back to your intention.

148

:

Look back at what you told yourself

in the beginning of this year.

149

:

Look back at your goals.

150

:

Are you leading with your intention?

151

:

Are you leading with

your word of the year?

152

:

Are you letting it lead you

in every decision, situation,

153

:

and scenario in your life.

154

:

If you are not, how do we get back to it?

155

:

How do we get back to the goals

that we set for ourselves?

156

:

How do we get back to that word of the

year or that intention that we chose

157

:

for ourselves for a specific reason?

158

:

It's okay to acknowledge

that you need a reset.

159

:

We are only seven months into 2025.

160

:

This is the perfect time to reset and

realign yourself with your intention and

161

:

the goals that you have set for yourself.

162

:

'Cause sometimes, honestly,

all we need is a reset.

163

:

And even when it's uncomfortable,

that just means that your growing,

164

:

because growth requires friction,

everything that you do that is hard.

165

:

There's going to be some type of

resistance, whether it's from yourself,

166

:

from the environment, whatever it is.

167

:

But that friction is necessary

in order for you to grow.

168

:

So right now, for me, right

month, sixth of the year,

169

:

June, oh my God, was that hard?

170

:

There was a lot of growth and resistance

happening in June, but also June was

171

:

a month where I realized the root of a

lot of things that were going on that I

172

:

needed to deal with to get to this point

where I am talking to a therapist now

173

:

and I'm dealing with X, Y, and Z that

I told myself I wanted to deal with.

174

:

I'm doing that right.

175

:

I saw growth from myself even in

the hard parts, and maybe that goes

176

:

back to the foundation of Dare to be

iconic, where you can turn any painful

177

:

moment in your life and to a powerful

opportunity maybe for me, June being a

178

:

very painful, hard time for me, right?

179

:

A lot of friction, a lot

of resistance, right?

180

:

The powerful opportunity on the other

end for me was to actually start healing,

181

:

to actually start dealing with something

I wanted to deal with and heal from for

182

:

seven to eight years of my life, maybe

the powerful opportunity was me realizing

183

:

I need to talk to a therapist about this.

184

:

I can't just do this by myself anymore.

185

:

So maybe that was the powerful

opportunity for me because that pain that

186

:

I experienced in June allow me to get

to the other end of it, of realizing,

187

:

okay, well this is what I need to do.

188

:

This is a powerful opportunity

for me to heal, thrive, and shine.

189

:

And that's the first step of

your iconic summer reset guide.

190

:

don't think it's a secret that I suck

at giving myself self-compassion.

191

:

I mean, we did a whole episode on it

earlier in this season, and I'll link

192

:

it in the show notes for you guys, but

that's what leads me to step two in

193

:

your iconic summer reset guide, which

is reflecting on how far you've come,

194

:

giving yourself the kindness and the

grace and the love that you deserve, and

195

:

being like, wow, even if I've strayed

away from my intention, even if I haven't

196

:

accomplished all that I've wanted to

accomplish within this first half of

197

:

the year, I actually have done a lot.

198

:

Seeing how far you have gone with that

intention, with those goals that you set

199

:

for yourself at the beginning of the year.

200

:

So for me, it's all about

celebrating your progress.

201

:

Healing and growth are not linear.

202

:

So even when you're not

exactly where you want to be.

203

:

You're still moving forward because

you're exactly where you should be

204

:

at that point in time in your life.

205

:

When it comes to some action steps

on reflecting on how far you've come,

206

:

the first thing I'm gonna tell you

is pull out a journal, or even the

207

:

notes app on your phone, and write

down three ways you've grown since

208

:

January and ask yourself the question,

what have I learned about myself?

209

:

What have I survived?

210

:

What are my strengths?

211

:

What have I discovered new about myself?

212

:

Because again, we are celebrating

our progress right now.

213

:

We are healing, we are growing, we are

reflecting on how far we have come.

214

:

So for me, I have made a lot of progress

when it comes to this specific traumatic

215

:

event that happened to me at 19 years old.

216

:

Yes.

217

:

I mentioned in step one that.

218

:

I'm now talking to a therapist

about this so I can actually

219

:

deal with this on a deeper level.

220

:

And that goes with my

intention of iconic, right?

221

:

Not shying away from the hard stuff

that made me who I am so I can get

222

:

to know myself on a deeper level.

223

:

So now when it comes to looking back on

the growth or progress I've made this year

224

:

with that goal, I've actually done a lot.

225

:

I've been brave enough to open up my

heart again and actually start dating

226

:

someone that I think is worth my

time, my boyfriend, Sebastian, right?

227

:

I was able to disclose this

situation that happened to me at 19.

228

:

Never thought in a million years I

would be able to talk about something

229

:

that was so private and personal to me

that not a lot of people know about.

230

:

I was able to talk to him about it,

and throughout our relationship, I'm

231

:

able to articulate my thoughts, my

feelings, and my emotions when it

232

:

comes to that particular situation,

and how maybe triggers or reminders

233

:

come up . That's huge for me.

234

:

Never in my life did I

think, you know what?

235

:

I'm gonna be able to talk about one of

the worst things that ever happened to

236

:

me, and then also be able to articulate

my thoughts and my feelings and my

237

:

emotions and all that stuff, and

have these really hard conversations

238

:

with my partner that I actually

really trust with this information.

239

:

At the beginning of 2025, I thought

my healing journey with this

240

:

traumatic event was gonna be in a

completely different avenue and path.

241

:

And well, you know what?

242

:

Life had other plans for

me, and i'm so happy it did.

243

:

I'm so happy Sebastian came into my life.

244

:

I'm so happy that I am now forced to

deal with this because it's affecting

245

:

me more than I even realized.

246

:

So yeah, I've made so much

progress on that front.

247

:

One of my favorite parts about this

step in particular is that you're able

248

:

to have that self-reflection and you're

able to have self celebration and you're

249

:

able to give yourself self-compassion.

250

:

Those three things are

a recipe for Iconicness.

251

:

And I think living in a social media

generation where there's all this instant

252

:

gratification, we can sometimes get lost

in the noise that's around us, right?

253

:

With this step in particular, we're

allowed to cut out all the noise and

254

:

focus on ourselves, focus on the goals

that we have accomplished, focus on

255

:

our intention, and how much we have

grown and the progress we have made,

256

:

and how much we have accomplished

that is supposed to be celebrated.

257

:

We are supposed to take a step

back, pat ourselves on the damn

258

:

back and say, you know what?

259

:

I did such a good job this year.

260

:

I'm going to continue doing a good job

even if I haven't led with intention

261

:

the entire time, even if I haven't

accomplished all my goals, you know what?

262

:

I've made progress.

263

:

I have grown.

264

:

Even if it's been uncomfortable,

even if I haven't done it the way

265

:

I've wanted to do it, you know what?

266

:

I'm exactly where I should be and

I'm doing it the way I need to

267

:

be, and I've accomplished so much.

268

:

I'm proud of myself.

269

:

So now that we have reset and we have

realigned, it's time to recharge.

270

:

It is time to thrive.

271

:

You need to create a space to heal and

dream Again, ask yourself the question,

272

:

what do you need right now to feel

recharged and rooted in who you are?

273

:

And here are some things that I am

doing this summer so that I can heal,

274

:

thrive and shine, but make it iconic

because this summer is your chance to

275

:

do things differently, radiant icons,

it's time to heal in a way that's

276

:

intentional and soft, and obviously

iconic because you know, we only do

277

:

iconic things here at Dare To Be Iconic.

278

:

But anyway, let's get to those

action steps for this step.

279

:

The first thing is I want you to

choose one way to slow down this month.

280

:

Whether that is less doom

scrolling, whether that's more

281

:

walks, more sleep, more books.

282

:

Anything it is, I want you to

focus on something that's going

283

:

to slow you down this month.

284

:

One thing that I am personally doing

is I am teaming up with my friend

285

:

Maria, actually, 'cause we are going

on this journey together and we

286

:

are texting each other every day.

287

:

These three things: one personal growth

thing that we have done for ourselves.

288

:

One movement thing that we have done

for ourselves, and one meditation slash

289

:

self-soothing slash breathing thing that

we have done for ourselves that allows

290

:

us to root us back into who we are.

291

:

So I'm on that challenge right now.

292

:

It's going great.

293

:

It makes you really realize the things

that you are truly doing for yourself

294

:

and choosing it intentionally, right?

295

:

But if you don't wanna do that another

way that I can recommend for you to

296

:

create that safe space for you to heal

and dream again, is schedule a solo

297

:

date, romanticize your own life, okay?

298

:

You need to go on some solo dates.

299

:

Pour that love that you've poured

into others into yourselves, that is

300

:

going to allow you to root yourself

not only in the intention that you

301

:

set for yourself at the beginning of

:

302

:

who you are and where you want to be.

303

:

And the third thing, recommit

to one small daily habit that

304

:

makes you feel more like you.

305

:

One thing that I am recommitting

to is my hot girl walks.

306

:

I miss them so much in New York,

you guys, and I know you're probably

307

:

like Amanda, you were in New York

City, the city that literally,

308

:

literally lives on walking, okay?

309

:

And like you are right.

310

:

However, my hot girl walks

when I do them here in Orlando.

311

:

They're always by myself in the

nice quietness of whatever path I

312

:

decide to go on for my walk, right?

313

:

And I have my headphones in.

314

:

I'm either listening to music or

I'm talking to my girlfriends.

315

:

In New York, completely different vibe.

316

:

I was very overstimulated.

317

:

There's a lot going on

and well, you know what?

318

:

I wasn't able to have my hot

girl walks the way that I need

319

:

them to root myself in who I am.

320

:

Remember, radiant icons, we recharge

by being kinder to ourselves.

321

:

Now that we have recharged, it's

time for your last and final step

322

:

in your iconic summer reset guide.

323

:

And that is realignment.

324

:

It is time to shine.

325

:

When it comes to realignment so

that you can shine in this next

326

:

era of your life, I want you to

revisit your goals radiant icons.

327

:

What still resonates with you?

328

:

Which needs more tweaking?

329

:

An example of something that resonates

with me still is healing from my

330

:

trauma for 19-year-old Amanda.

331

:

That is still relevant to me.

332

:

That resonates with me right now, that

is rooted in my intention of iconic.

333

:

I'm not shying away from the hard

stuff and I'm getting to know myself

334

:

on a deeper level because if I shy

away from healing from that traumatic

335

:

event that happened to me, I am robbing

myself of the opportunity to thrive.

336

:

That goal still resonates

with me and my intention.

337

:

Now when we're thinking of a

goal that needs tweaking, for me

338

:

personally, an example would be my,

utilize my voice for social good,

339

:

have hard conversations, and make an

impact on issues close to my heart.

340

:

This year, I have pushed myself to

have conversations that are hard, that

341

:

are difficult, that are uncomfortable,

things that I don't usually talk about.

342

:

I pushed myself this

year to talk about them.

343

:

That is correct.

344

:

I did talk about them, but I

know I can push myself further

345

:

and make more of an impact.

346

:

So that's a goal for me that I want

to tweak because I know I can do more

347

:

with that, I've just hit the surface.

348

:

Now I need to lead with iconicness, right?

349

:

I need to lead with that intention

of iconic, and I need to not shy

350

:

away from it, even if it scares me.

351

:

And lastly, radiant icons, I want you

to create a tiny mantra that will ground

352

:

you through the rest of this year.

353

:

Mine is embrace the pain

and make peace with it.

354

:

I need to embrace the pain no matter

how hard it is, and make peace with

355

:

it, and I will continue to do that

for the remainder of:

356

:

can live out my intention of iconic.

357

:

All right, radiant icons.

358

:

That is your tea time sesh for today.

359

:

If you enjoy today's episode, make

sure to subscribe to leave a Rating, a

360

:

review to tell your friends about us,

to tell everyone and anyone, because

361

:

you know we love more radiant icons,

and now we're iconic community of ours.

362

:

Honestly, radiant icons.

363

:

I've missed you guys so much, and this

Tea Time session was one that I needed

364

:

to get off my chest, off my heart

and talk it through with you guys.

365

:

So thank you for giving me the space to

have these conversations with you guys

366

:

and allowing me to be so vulnerable

about what's going on in my life.

367

:

And I hope by spilling the tea about

my life and opening up my heart to

368

:

the not so shiny shit in my life

allows you to feel less alone.

369

:

And I know I feel less alone when you

guys dm me about what's going on in your

370

:

life and how an episode has touched you.

371

:

I hope this episode makes the impact

on you for your iconic summer reset, so

372

:

you can heal, thrive and shine because

we're doing it together,radiant icons.

373

:

Okay, we are, my voice is a little

tired because I yapped too much.

374

:

So I'm gonna end the episode now, but

I'll chat with you next week, okay?

375

:

Alright.

376

:

radiant icons.

377

:

Remember dare to be iconic.

378

:

Bye.

Listen for free

Show artwork for Dare To Be Iconic

About the Podcast

Dare To Be Iconic
Embrace Your Iconic Self
Are you ready, radiant icons?

Welcome to "Dare To Be Iconic," the podcast made for icons daring to be themselves. Hosted by your favorite icon, Amanda Paolicelli, "Dare To Be Iconic" is not just another self-help podcast—it's your weekly tea time session where Amanda spills all the tea on topics like self-confidence, self-improvement, healing, and personal growth.

Why Choose "Dare To Be Iconic"?

~Real Talk, Real Transformation: Amanda's journey from heartbreak to triumph is the heartbeat of the show. This podcast is a safe space for raw, authentic conversations about healing, self-confidence, self-improvement, and personal growth.

~Practical Tips: Amanda shares practical, actionable tips that you can implement in your daily life. From overcoming setbacks to cultivating a positive mindset, each episode equips you with tools to navigate your dare-to-be-iconic journey.

~Community of Radiant Icons: Join a community of like-minded individuals who are also on their dare-to-be-iconic journey. The podcast is an invitation to be part of a supportive community that celebrates victories, learns from challenges, and grows together.

~Midweek Boost: Need a midweek pick-me-up? Tune in every Wednesday for your weekly tea time session.

Subscribe now, radiants icons, because your tea time session is starting.
Support This Show

About your host

Profile picture for Amanda Paolicelli

Amanda Paolicelli