The Secret To Living Your Most Iconic Life (Re-Run)

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Amanda Paolicelli:

What's up, Radiant Icons?

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And welcome back to Dare to be

Iconic, the podcast made for

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icons daring to be themselves.

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I'm your host, Amanda Paolicelli, and

for today's Tea Time Sesh, we're going

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all the way back to season one, one of

my favorite episodes in that season.

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But before I reveal what episode we

are going to be listening to today,

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make sure to connect with me on

socials, on Instagram and TikTok.

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It's at AmandaPaolachelli, underscore,

and at DareToBeIconic, underscore.

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And if you're on LinkedIn, because

you know I love me some LinkedIn,

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it's at Amanda Paolicelli.

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And speaking of socials, if you

guys have seen my Instagram post

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from this morning, then you already

know, but if not, no worries.

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I'm going to spill the

tea right here, right now.

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I am so excited to announce Dare

to be Iconic's second masterclass

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in our masterclass series for 2025.

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Daring to be confident, our next

masterclass will be on April 19th

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and spots are limited for this class.

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So make sure to reserve your ticket

today under the empowerment events

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section on dare to be iconic.

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com.

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I am so beyond excited for this

masterclass in particular, it is.

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the very popular 30 day

challenge, daring to be confident.

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You guys loved it so much.

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I decided to turn it into a masterclass

for you guys so we can get into

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that nitty gritty of radiating

confidence from the inside out.

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And I just can't wait

to see you guys there.

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Make sure to grab your tickets.

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And if you do send me a DM,

I want to chat with y'all.

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So yeah.

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Anywho, let's get to today's episode.

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We are going back to season one, one of

my favorite episodes from season one, The

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Secret to Living Your Most Iconic Life.

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This episode is based off of that

Dare to be Iconic mindset, and I

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know I haven't spoken a lot about the

Dare to be Iconic mindset in Season

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2, especially for my new listeners.

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You're probably like, Amanda, what

is the Dare to be Iconic mindset?

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Don't worry.

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I got you, Radiant Icons.

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We are going to the very

beginning, that core, solid

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foundation of Dare to be Iconic.

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It's built on four pillars, and

that is the Dare to be Iconic

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mindset, which is also the secret

to living your most iconic life.

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So are you ready, Radiant Icons?

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Because your tea time

sesh is starting now.

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Let's start with what the heck is

the dare to be iconic mindset, okay?

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So the dare to be iconic mindset

is based off of four pillars,

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so we have trust, Confidence

,determination, and authenticity.

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Now, the dare to be iconic mindset

is not a one and done type deal.

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It is a continuous process that you

have to work on myself included I am

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not perfect by any means, and I am

still actively working on this as well.

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As many of you know, if you are

following the Dare to be Iconic

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blog, my word for 2024 is trust.

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And oh my God, the journey of trust

has been, has been an interesting one.

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Everything I have done this year relates

back to trust in one way or another.

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And I didn't realize how prevalent this

theme of trust would really be in my life.

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But oh my god, it's insane.

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So let's start with trust.

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I think it is this wild concept that we

can so easily trust others, but then not

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give ourselves that same trust in return.

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And if you're new here, I

definitely have trust issues.

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I am the first person to admit

that I have trust issues.

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I definitely do which is why I

wanted trust to be my word for this

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year because it's so prevalent to

everything in my life and I believe

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in order to Keep going on this dare

to be iconic journey with you guys.

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I need to start trusting

myself more, right?

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It's to honor that commitment of

choosing myself that I had last year.

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Last year was 2023.

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It was that year of me.

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I did everything for myself.

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I chose myself first.

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So in order to continue

honoring that commitment.

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I have to start trusting myself,

and man, is that a lot harder

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than I expected, but this is what

I've learned so far about trust.

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I somehow can't trust myself fully still.

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No matter how much I prove to myself that

I am fully capable of doing everything

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I've set my mind to, I still am missing

this part of fully trusting myself 100%.

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And maybe I won't ever get there, right?

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To that 100 percent completion.

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And maybe that's okay.

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Maybe I'm not supposed to

trust myself a thousand percent

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or even a hundred percent.

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Let me not get crazy here, but maybe

I'm not supposed to have it a hundred

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percent figured out with trust.

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Maybe trust is supposed to always be

this like continuous journey for me.

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Like maybe that's the whole

point of trust, right?

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That it's ever evolving and that

you're not always going to have it

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a thousand percent figured out all

the time because it's like you can't.

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People will break your trust and you

will break your trust within yourself.

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And sometimes you have to break

yourself down to bring yourself back up.

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And maybe that's the

same concept with trust.

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So how the heck do I

start trusting myself?

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I think it's by continuing to take that

risk on myself and taking that leap

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of faith and trusting that everything

will be okay which in turn relates to

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determination, which is one of the other

pillars in the Dare to be Iconic mindset.

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Now, determination, I have down pat.

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If there is one thing about me, is

if I say I'm gonna do something, I'm

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going to find a way to make it happen.

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Point blank and period.

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It's either I'm going to find the action

steps to make it happen, I'm going to find

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the people that I need to connect with

to make it happen, or it's going to be a

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beautiful combination of the two, right?

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But either way, I have

always been determined and

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maybe, that leans into trust.

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Maybe those two go hand in hand.

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I mean, honestly, when I was coming

up with the Dare to be Iconic mindset,

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because I think these four pillars,

right, trust, authenticity, determination,

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and confidence all go together so

well, but maybe determination and trust

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really do go hand in hand together.

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Because in order to take that risk on

yourself and take that leap of faith, you

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have to be determined to reach your goals.

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You have to be determined to not

care what other people say about you.

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Which, in turn, also

connects to authenticity.

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My next point.

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You have to embrace who you are a

thousand percent and keep being authentic

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to you and to whatever room you step

into, which then goes into confidence.

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We have to be comfortable and

confident in our authentic, or

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as I like to say, iconic selves.

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When we present ourselves to the world,

when we take that leap of faith and

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that risk on ourselves, that it's

all going to work out because it's In

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turn, deep down, we trust ourselves.

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Man, maybe I figured out

the recipe right here.

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Maybe it just took me talking

to you guys to figure it out.

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It's probably that, to be honest with you.

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But my whole entire point with the Dare

To Be Iconic mindset is that it's ever

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evolving right that we are continuously

working on it because you can't be a

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hundred and thousand percent done and

finished like that's not, that's not true.

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It's just like healing right healing is

this continuous rollercoaster journey.

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There's ups, downs, twists and

turns, but you know, we gotta stay

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on that path of the rollercoaster

because that's just how healing is.

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And that's the same thing with

the Dare to Be Iconic mindset.

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We have to keep working towards these

four pillars, have to keep going into

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this ever evolving process because

we, as humans, as individuals,

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are ever evolving and changing.

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We're not just one thing, we are

multi faceted Multidimensional

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beings on this earth

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I think we have to accept that we're

not always going to be perfect in it.

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The journey is not always

going to be smooth sailing.

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It's not.

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Trust me.

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Let me give you guys an example of

the Dare to Be Iconic mindset in

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my life and how it's ever evolving.

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Determination has always been

something that I've had since

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I was a little baby Amanda.

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As I said beforehand, once I set my

eyes on something, I'm going for it.

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Like there is nothing holding me back.

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If I say I'm going to meet X, Y, and Z.

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You best believe it's gonna happen.

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So you either get on the train with

me Or you get off because i'm not

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letting anyone slowing me down like

that's absolutely not gonna happen.

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I have so many dreams within that

dare to be iconic umbrella that I

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can not reveal yet, but they are

coming true and it's so exciting.

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But none of that would happen if I

wasn't determined to make it work.

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If I wasn't daring to make my

dreams a reality and create that

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own magic for myself in my life.

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So determination, that's an easy

one for me to explain, but let's,

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let's get into confidence, shall we?

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Because I was just on a FaceTime call

with my lovely friend Dani, which

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you will hear me reference a lot,

and we were talking about confidence.

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Now, I'm just gonna warn you guys.

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When you turn 25, no one warns

you that your body will change.

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You think you know everything

about your body at 24?

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Oh my god, joke's on you.

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Joke is on you.

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I've never been on more of a

rollercoaster with my body since

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I was like in middle school.

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When I turned 25, my eczema

that was dormant for like seven,

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eight years, decided to flare up.

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And not just like a little baby flare up.

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No!

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No.

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It decided to be like the worst

flare up I've ever experienced.

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And I think what I forgot about

eczema is how detrimental it can

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be to your mental health and , it

wrecked me that's why I started the

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daring to be confident challenge.

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I started that challenge because

of how low my self concept was.

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Because of how I saw myself

in the mirror with my eczema.

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It is so hard to see your body

change overnight from something

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that you're not used to.

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It messed with my self confidence, and

I just felt so ugly in my skin and I

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felt like I didn't belong because I

Wasn't used to the body that I was seeing

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myself in, you know Like I I wasn't used

to seeing my skin as something that I

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haven't seen for seven- eight years.

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And I didn't know how to deal with it.

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I didn't know how to process it mentally.

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And I think that's what people

forget when your body changes all of

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a sudden It messes with your mind.

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It messes with how you see yourself . The

more I was opening up to my friends about

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how low my self concept was and how low

my mental state was because I couldn't

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recognize who I was in the mirror.

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I realized I wasn't alone in that feeling.

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I realized that we were all kind of going

through it, but in our own unique way.

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Right.

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We all were feeling self conscious

about some part of our body.

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So I was like, how can we change that?

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How can we.

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Collectively go on this journey together

to not only becoming our most iconic

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selves, but to become more confident

because that is such a key pillar

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to the dare to be iconic mindset.

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I think confidence not only stems

within ourselves, right, on learning

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how to love ourselves, and that

includes all facets of it- loving our

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personality, loving our flaws, loving

our insecurities, and loving our bodies.

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And I know that's hard as young

women and also men out there to

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love who we are inside and out.

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And yes, it is an individual

journey, but it's also just

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as much a collective journey.

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Because while we're working on

ourselves, why not bring our friends

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along for the ride so that we all

can succeed and be our iconic selves.

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So that's what I'm dealing with

in the confidence aspect of

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this Dare to be Iconic mindset.

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Alright, now I have gone on a very

long journey with authenticity, right?

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Loving exactly who I am, thousand percent,

not looking for validation in anyone

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else, because I truly love who I am.

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But I would be lying to you if

I didn't say, sometimes I do

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struggle with authenticity, but it

may not be in the way you think.

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So, if you don't follow me on Instagram,

I do this series called Tea Time with

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Amanda, which, fun fact, inspired this

whole Tea Time session on my podcast.

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And one of my Tea Times is about

how I got laid off in August

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of 2023 From my dream job.

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I got laid off and I was unemployed for

about six months until I secured work

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at a new job that I am super happy in.

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I really do love it, and shout out to my

boss, she is listening to this right now.

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You're an icon.

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But I secured my first big

girl, full time, like, job.

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Right?

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Like, I get, like, like,

benefits and stuff.

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Like, that's so cool.

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Like, why?

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Like, I'm an adult now.

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Like, that's so crazy.

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But anyway.

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I work very closely with my boss and

the amount of times I have embarrassed

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myself in front of my boss is astounding.

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I genuinely don't know how

I keep doing this to myself.

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Now, I do pride myself in always

being authentic to who I am.

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I bring my iconic self everywhere

I go from that interview, all

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the way till I was hired, to now,

you know, working in the company.

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That's great.

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I love that for me and I'm

sure everyone else loves it too

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because they probably get a laugh.

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However, at this point, I really

think I may be a personality hire

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because I have a certain goal.

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I'm not going to reveal it on this podcast

because it's a little embarrassing, but

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I have a certain goal that is fueled by

delusion and confidence that honestly

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should be studied because this delusion

I have and the confidence I have with it.

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Like, that's, that is

something right there.

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Like, they, they need scientists

to study that, but it is so second

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nature for me to say this delusion.

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So it just, like, came out of my

mouth during one of our one on

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one meetings, and she laughed.

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And she was like, oh, you're manifesting.

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Like, I love that for you.

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I was like, thanks boss, and then

I like wanted to like crawl in a

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hole and never show my face again.

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I just like definitely sent a Snapchat

to all my girlfriends saying, you

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won't believe how I embarrassed myself.

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Then we get to my second

all staff meeting.

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And I'm literally like, okay, Amanda,

filter, like, don't say anything.

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And that morning, okay, like,

just before, That staff meeting.

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I had gotten a very lovely Instagram

notification That goes hand in hand

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with the delusion that I have and

I was like, oh my god Like I was on

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cloud nine like I I was honestly Still

daydreaming about my entire life and

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like picturing it because that delusion

was in my head Low key coming true

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because something happened on Instagram.

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Again, I'm fueled on Delusion so

I'm like, oh, like, maybe I won't

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say anything in this meeting, like,

it's okay, like, I don't need to say

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anything in the icebreaker, la la la.

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Of course, I don't know

why I said that to myself.

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I love to talk.

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I can talk to a wall.

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So I decided to unmute myself.

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I should have just kept the mute button

because my boss was about to talk, and

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I was like, oh, I don't have to go,

and she was like, oh, no, no, no, go.

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I should have just muted myself.

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I should have just muted myself.

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Because you know what I did?

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Embarrassed myself.

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That is absolutely correct, everyone.

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I not only embarrassed myself in front

of my boss again, but to the entire team

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by stating my delusion full right out.

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Yep, it was bad.

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Because again, I don't have a

filter when it comes to my delusions

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because it's such second nature.

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So I think my whole point with that

story of embarrassment is like,

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yes, I am embracing my iconic self.

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Yes.

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Do I bring a little

pizzazz anywhere I go to?

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Absolutely.

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Do I probably bring the laughter?

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Oh yeah.

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No, they're definitely laughing at me,

but, or maybe with me, I don't know.

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It's probably at me.

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But anyway, I think maybe

we learn levels of it.

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I don't know.

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I'm still exploring that one.

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Because I'm definitely being myself.

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But maybe sometimes I don't always have

to say every delusion that comes to mind.

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I told you, I'm actively going

on this journey with you.

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I don't have it 100 percent figured out.

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So to sum it up, The dare to be iconic

mindset will always be a work in progress.

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But it's about how you move forward in

this collective and individual journey.

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These four pillars of trust, confidence,

determination, and authenticity really

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are the foundation of what makes Dare

to Be Iconic so, dare I say, iconic.

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If you aren't constantly working on

these four pillars that I think are

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such constant and prevalent themes

in life, then, how can you start

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embracing your iconic self if you

don't get down to the root of it?

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If you don't get down to the

root of trust, of confidence, of

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authenticity, and determination?

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So, how can you work towards embracing

the Dare to be Iconic mindset on

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the daily so that you can start

living your most iconic life yet?

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Your tribe is the most important thing

when you're going on this Dare to be

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Iconic journey to embrace that Dare

to be Iconic mindset so that you can

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start living your most iconic life yet.

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It is so much about this collective

journey, you guys, and I will emphasize

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this until I'm blue in the face, but

truly find your accountability buddy

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and go on this journey with them.

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A great example to start would be

go to my show notes below, follow

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me on Instagram and on my Instagram.

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There is a pinned post for the daring to

be confident challenge where I dare you

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to go on this 30 day challenge of building

up your confidence with your besties.

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That's the trick there because

we all are going to embrace

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our iconic selves together.

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Because again, the dare to be

iconic journey is not only about

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the individual journey, but

about that collective journey.

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So let your friends be there

to support and uplift you.

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When you need them for them to be

that hype person for them to be that

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mirror when you need it and vice versa.

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Alright, Radiant Icons, that is

your tea time sesh for today.

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I hope you enjoyed today's

episode rerun of the secret to

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living your most iconic life.

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Make sure to subscribe, to leave a

comment, to leave a rating, to leave

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a review, to tell your friends about

us, to tell anyone and everyone,

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because we love more radiant icons

in our iconic community of ours.

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And also, Radiant Icons, make sure to

grab yourself Some Radiant Love merch.

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Yes, Dare to be Iconic's first

ever merch line is now live.

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I am so excited to see you guys

repping your Radiant Icon pride.

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So make sure to grab your merch today.

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That link is in the show notes below.

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But anywho, I will chat

with you guys next week.

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Remember, Radiant Icons,

Dare to be Iconic.

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Bye!