Ring, Ring… It’s DTBI Hotline Time
Radiant Icons, this one’s for you! ✨
In this special tea time sesh, Amanda dives into the Dare To Be Iconic Hotline and answers YOUR questions live. From her top celebrity crushes (we are looking at you, Andrew Garfield and Lando Norris! 🫵) to her most iconic fangirl moments and even a childhood crush gone embarrassingly wrong—nothing is off-limits. 🫖
We’re keeping it fun, lighthearted, and maybe even a little emotional as she reflect on how far we’ve come together. Plus, don’t forget to mark your calendars for the first-ever DTBI merch drop on February 13th! ✨
So grab your drink, settle in, and let’s spill the tea like the Radiant Icons we are!
Connect with Amanda:
Grab your copy of "Break Up With The Past, Fall In Love With The Future" healing journal!
Grab your copy of "New Year, Iconic You" 2025 Planner!
Got a question for Amanda or a topic you'd love to hear discussed on a future episode? Submit your question to the "Dare To Be Iconic Hotline" today!
Time Stamps:
00:00 — Welcome to Dare To be Iconic
00:53 — Connect with Amanda!
01:46 — Ring, Ring..It’s DTBI Hotline Time
02:07 — Fess Up: Amanda’s Celebrity Crushes
03:23 — Embarrassing Crush Moments You’ll Die For
05:27 — Iconic Fangirl Moments That Shaped Amanda’s DNA
07:25 — Real Talk: Proud & Emotional Moments
09:16 — Facing Fears & Crushing Personal Goals
10:49 — Breakups: From Pain to Power
19:27— Advice for Future Bosses: Let’s Talk Biz!
21:27 — See You Next Week
Transcript
Amanda Paolicelli:
What's up, Radiant Icons?
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:And welcome back to Dare to be
Iconic, the podcast made for
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:icons daring to be themselves.
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:I'm your host, Amanda Paolicelli, and
today's Tea Time Sesh is dedicated
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:to the dare to be iconic hotline.
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:That's right.
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:I am answering all of your questions
live on today's podcast episode.
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:And if I don't get to your
question, radiant icons, no worries.
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:I am saving your questions for specific
episodes later on in the season, because
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:they fit with the topic that will be
discussed, but for all the questions
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:that didn't fit into a category or topic
that is coming up later on in season two.
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:We're answering them here together live.
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:And you guys sent in some
really great questions.
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:I mean, I'm not surprised.
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:You guys always kill it.
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:But these questions are fun.
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:They're lighthearted.
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:They challenge me.
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:It's, it's good.
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:It's a nice little bunch here today.
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:I'm excited to get into it with
you guys, but before we do that,
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:make sure to connect with me on
socials on Instagram and TikTok.
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:It's @amandapaolicelli_
and @daretobeiconic_..
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:And if you're on LinkedIn, because you
guys know, I love me some LinkedIn.
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:Make sure to connect with me on there.
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:It's Amanda Paolicelli.
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:All of my socials will be
linked in the show notes below.
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:And also, Radiant Icons, don't
forget to mark your calendars
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:for Dare to Be Iconic's first
ever merch drop on February 13th.
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:It has been months in the making.
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:Literally my blood, sweat, tears.
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:I am so excited to finally, finally share
the Radiant Love collection with you guys.
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:I truly cannot wait to see you
repping your Radiant Icon pride.
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:And make sure to treat yourself
with something iconic because
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:you deserve it, Radiant Icons.
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:And now Let's get to the tea, shall we?
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:I mean the best part.
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:Let's get into it.
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:Are you ready, Radiant icons?
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:Because your tea time
sesh is starting now.
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:I just want to say before I
get into the first question!
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:The first question for this Tea Time Sesh!
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:You guys know me so well.
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:The first question on this
hotline is, Amanda, what are
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:your top three celebrity crushes?
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:I think I know one at least.
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:Well, if you guys aren't following me
on Instagram, then you may not know
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:this because I don't speak about my love
for Andrew Garfield on the podcast.,
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:which is kind of, like, really surprising.
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:Because if you scroll all the way
down to, like, some of my first
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:ever TikToks, It's like Andrew
Garfield coded like I love that man.
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:Um, so if you don't know my
love for Andrew Garfield,
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:I have a resurgence for it.
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:I'm in my Andrew Garfield era again.
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:So Andrew Garfield is definitely
one of my celebrity crushes.
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:He's tied with Lando Norris.
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:I don't think that's a surprise to
anyone listening to this podcast.
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:And then my third one.
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:Oh, that is so hard you guys ,I would
say probably Glenn Powell I love me some
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:Glenn Powell, I'm not gonna lie, so.
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:Yeah, I think it's Andrew Garfield and
Lando Norris tied, and then Glenn Powell.
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:My celebrity crushes are a little
bit everywhere, but you know what?
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:That's me.
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:And yeah, Andrew Garfield,
if you ever want to call me,
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:that's okay with me as well.
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:Okay, let's get to the next question.
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:Have you ever had an embarrassing
or unexpected crush moment?
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:When I was in fourth grade, there
was this, oh my god, I can't believe
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:I'm like, actually admitting this.
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:I have not told anyone.
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:This is so wild.
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:Okay.
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:So like, when I was in fourth
grade, there was this guy named Ben.
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:He had red hair, and I was so into him.
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:Like, literally so into him.
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:And I was not popular in middle school.
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:I wasn't even popular in junior high.
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:I wasn't popular in high school.
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:I just wasn't popular.
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:Okay, you guys, like, I was the theater
girl who thought she was gonna be famous.
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:And, um, I had the biggest crush on
this guy, Ben, and he liked basketball.
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:And so for his birthday, I
made him a homemade card that
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:was the shape of a basketball.
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:I think I said something like happy
birthday from your, like, Secret admirer.
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:He decides to tell the teacher that he got
this card- shows the card to Miss Reiney.
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:That was my teacher in fourth grade.
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:I don't even know why he was
complaining, to be honest.
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:Because if someone gave me a card
for my birthday for my secret
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:admirer, I would have loved it.
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:So I don't know what was Ben's problem,
but he told the teacher and the
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:teacher then makes an announcement
in front of the entire class that we
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:don't need to be like giving cards
to people and saying secret admirers.
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:Like we don't need to
be doing all of this.
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:Like, excuse me.
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:What is this?
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:I put so much time and effort in it.
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:Why are you going to
embarrass me like that?
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:Again?
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:No one knew it was me.
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:I mean, actually, I really don't
know if anyone knew it was me.
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:But I never, I never
said anything about it.
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:And also Ben, if you
are listening to this.
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:Well, why did you have to do me like that?
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:You could have just like
thrown the card out.
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:Okay.
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:You didn't have to tell the teacher.
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:Like, I don't understand.
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:I don't understand why you
did that, but like, whatever.
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:We have a story to tell.
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:I cannot believe I've
said that on this podcast.
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:That is so crazy.
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:Oh my god.
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:Good questions, Radiant Icons.
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:This is the stuff that
people want to know.
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:Um, let's get to the next question.
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:What's your most iconic fangirl moment?
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:Mm, I have two.
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:Okay.
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:Recently, it would be the Spanish
Grand Prix and meeting Logan Sargent.
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:Absolutely, hands down.
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:That was like, One of the most
iconic fangirl moments of my life.
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:And then the second one would
be seeing One Direction in
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:Tampa for the Where We Are tour.
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:Because again, huge Directioner, I
was a Liam girl, and yes, I am still
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:mourning, like, please, like, I cannot
talk anymore about One Direction.
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:Unless I want to sob, like, I'm literally,
there's a rumor right now that One
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:Direction may be having a possible reunion
to honor Liam to do a tribute at the
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:Brits, and I literally will crash out.
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:I will be so unwell.
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:I've been unwell since
I've heard this rumor.
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:I, I am not doing okay, you guys.
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:I truly am still processing my
grief and mourning Liam because
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:he was such a big part of my life.
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:So any One Direction memory for me
will be an iconic fangirl moment
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:because One Direction raised me.
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:Liam Payne is the reason that
I have the professional fangirl
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:angle that I have today.
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:Like, he truly was the person
that started it for me.
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:Liam was my whole entire world, and
so for me whenever I now look back on
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:One Direction, I look back on all the
joy they gave me, especially Liam,
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:because I looked up to him so much.
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:I even wrote a paper,
not even just a paper.
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:It was like this whole booklet.
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:It was Liam Payne, the, the boy who lives,
I forgot the like subtitle I, I wrote
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:for, it was for my eighth grade project.
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:I wrote it about Liam Payne because
he made such an impact on my life.
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:Those five boys did, but,
Liam was everything to me.
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:So when I think of iconic fangirl
moments, I have to mention One Direction.
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:Those are some of my
iconic fangirl moments.
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:Sorry to get sappy, but, you know,
we gotta be honest and real here.
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:It's the Dare to be Iconic
podcast for a reason, you know?
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:Alright, next question!
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:How proud are you of how far
your radiant icons have been able
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:to grow because of your work?
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:Ooh, this question makes me emotional.
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:Because when I think about you guys,
when I think of my radiant icons, I
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:always get emotional because it's
kind of Ooh, these tears are coming!
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:Um, whenever I think of you guys and
I see the messages that you send me
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:on how dare to be iconic has How it's
impacted your life, how it's transformed
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:your life, so on and so forth.
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:It like, makes me so happy, and like,
these are happy tears right now.
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:But it's also such a surreal feeling,
because this was just a dream that I had
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:in my heart that had the courage to go
after it, not knowing if it was going to
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:work, even though, deep, deep down, I was
like, this shit's going to work, you know?
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:Sometimes it's hard to
keep pushing forward.
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:Sometimes it's, it's hard to
keep fighting for a dream.
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:And sometimes it does get
discouraging as a young entrepreneur.
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:And also just as a young, like 26 year
old girl trying to figure out who she is.
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:It's hard putting your heart
out there and sharing your voice
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:and being so vulnerable online.
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:And I know I chose to do this.
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:Especially with Dare to be Iconic
because it is about my life and , to
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:see the messages and to hear how
it's helped you in your life.
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:No matter what scenario it is, by me
just being me, and by me sharing my
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:voice, it makes me so immensely proud.
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:And, I love you guys for changing my life,
and for being here, and for supporting me.
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:And Kat, I know you sent this
question in, and I'm so proud of you.
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:I wanted to give you a special shout out,
because you've sent me a lot of messages
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:that truly make my heart so happy.
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:And I'm proud of you.
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:And I'm proud of all of you guys.
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:And I love you guys so much.
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:Now I'm going to stop crying
and get to the next question.
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:What's a goal you've set for
yourself that scares you a little?
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:There is one goal this
year that does scare me.
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:It scares me a lot, actually.
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:It doesn't even scare me a little,
and it's to deal with a specific
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:traumatic instance in my life that
I've been avoiding for seven years.
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:the specific traumatic event that I
keep alluding to in a lot of my trauma
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:episodes and I made a firm boundary
with myself that I will not talk about
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:it because I'm not ready to divulge the
details of that situation, but What I can
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:say to answer this question truthfully
and honestly Is that I have made it a
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:goal for myself this year in the year
of iconic to Be bold and face this
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:trauma head on and actually deal with it
because I have been shying away from it.
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:I have been avoiding it.
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:And the more I push that shit under the
rug, I know it's gonna bite me in the ass.
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:That's just to be completely
frank with you guys.
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:I know it will bite me in the
ass if I don't deal with it.
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:And it feels like now in 2025, in the year
of Iconic, it feels like the right time
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:for me to deal with this trauma head on.
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:So, yeah, that's a goal that I have this
year that I know I need to do, but I
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:need to do it in baby steps, and I'm,
I'm doing it, slowly but surely, and I'm
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:proud of that, but it scares me, you guys.
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:It scares me a lot.
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:So, it's not easy.
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:It's really, really hard.
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:That's me being honest with you guys.
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:How do you deal with a breakup?
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:I was recently broken up with and
it's hitting me hard right now.
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:Well, the first thing I want to say is
that I'm sorry that you are dealing with
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:this heartache and this pain right now.
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:Like, breakups are not fun, and
they hurt, and they are hard, okay?
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:So please give yourself grace and be
kind to yourself during this time.
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:The second thing I want to say is
that healing takes time, especially
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:when your heart is aching.
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:And sometimes it feels like
you're on top of the world, and
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:other times it feels like you can
barely get out of bed and eat.
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:And that is completely normal.
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:And everything that you are
feeling right now is valid.
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:Whether you were the person that was
broken up with or you are the person that
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:broke up with the person, it still hurts.
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:And in this case, when it comes to
dealing with a breakup, there is
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:not one true way to deal with it.
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:Like in quotation marks,
there is not one way to fix a
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:breakup ,to fix that heartache.
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:However the first step in moving forward
in your healing journey from a breakup is
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:to prioritize yourself and do what feels
right for you . Do what you need to do.
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:It is okay to be selfish in this time.
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:It is okay to put yourself first.
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:That's how you start
healing from your heartache.
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:That's how you deal with the
breakup, or at least the first
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:steps of dealing with a breakup.
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:You have to do what feels right for you.
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:Take this time to get to know
yourself on a deeper level.
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:Take the time to put yourself out
there, maybe to distract your mind.
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:And if you want to go and download the
dating apps and talk to whoever it is
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:for a bit to, you know, distract yourself
from the pain in your heart, that's okay.
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:Do it.
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:There is no judgment.
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:Do what feels right for you.
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:Just make sure you're
taking care of yourself.
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:And also, I want to add that I'll
be talking more about dealing with
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:heartbreak and healing from it and
like, dating, all that stuff later on
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:in season 2, so definitely make sure
to tune in for the later half of the
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:season, but to answer this question
right now, prioritize yourself.
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:And you got this.
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:How different do you think
your life would be if you never
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:received the breakup letter?
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:To be honest, I don't think my
life would be any different.
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:I think my ex and I still
would have parted ways.
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:I think we still would have broken up.
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:I would hope if it wasn't
through a letter, at least
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:it would have been mutual.
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:But, you know, that's me hoping.
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:But, we still would have broken up.
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:Like, we would not be together.
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:And I can confidently say that.
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:On the other hand, I do think I
still would have ran my own business.
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:Like I would have started something of
my own, which is what I'm doing now.
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:So I don't think it would have
looked differently in that aspect.
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:However, I don't know if it would
have been dare to be iconic,
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:to be honest with you guys.
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:I think maybe it would have been
a production company or it would
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:have been dare to be iconic.
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:I think it's one of those two pathways.
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:And it really would have depended
on if You know, my ex and I
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:would have stayed together.
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:We would have moved to Atlanta.
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:I still would have been acting
for a little bit longer.
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:Maybe that would have changed my mind
about how I felt in that acting job.
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:And maybe I would have leaned more
into producing, like just maybe
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:just running a production company.
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:Like, I don't know that so to say, and
like, maybe that's where my life would
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:have looked a little bit differently,
but altogether, I can confidently
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:say I definitely still would have
started my own business and my ex and
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:I definitely would not be together.
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:But it's kind of weird to think
about, hmm, like, maybe Dare to be
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:Iconic wouldn't have been a thing,
but, you know, I'm happy everything
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:turned out the way that, that it did.
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:Truly, I truly, truly do.
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:I'm so happy for that letter now.
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:Back then, absolutely not.
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:But right now, in this moment,
I wear it as a badge of honor.
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:Because my life has changed for
the better because of it, so.
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:What's a self love habit
that has changed your life?
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:Just organically incorporating little
moments of gratitude in my day and
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:taking a moment to really Breathe in the
blessings and like recognizing them, even
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:if they're like the smallest thing of
oh my gosh, I was able to listen to One
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:Direction today, or I was able to read a
chapter of my book, or the sky was blue,
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:Even the smallest things like that and
expressing my gratitude like That is a
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:self love habit that has changed my life
completely so definitely definitely if
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:you haven't already start incorporating
gratitude into your like Daily like ritual
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:routine, whatever you want to call it
start incorporating moments of gratitude.
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:Thank me later.
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:Ooh, what's the quickest way
someone can lose your trust?
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:By being a two face, like to be blunt with
you guys, I truly cannot trust someone
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:who says one thing and does another.
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:And here's an example, if you say to
me that you cannot trust X, Y, and Z
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:because of blah, blah, blah, blah, blah,
and not The next time you see them,
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:that you're gonna tell them, blah, blah,
blah, blah, blah, like, tell them what
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:they did and why you don't like it, and
you are so solid in that opinion, right?
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:And then, when that person comes back
to your life, and yes, I'm drawing from
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:personal experience here, but when that
person comes back into their life, the
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:person that they said that they feel
X, Y, and Z about, and that blah, blah,
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:blah, blah, blah, and all of a sudden
they change their tune, I can't trust you.
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:I cannot trust you when you do that.
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:If you say you're gonna do
something, if you say that you
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:feel something, own up to it.
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:Nothing drives me crazier in this world
than someone being two faced or someone
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:not owning up to what they are saying.
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:If you are saying this behind
someone's back and then you
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:change your tune when they're in
front of you, I can't trust you.
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:I cannot.
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:That's my opinion.
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:Oh, well.
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:What's your best advice for
someone struggling with confidence?
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:Ooh, wait.
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:Okay.
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:I love this question because the next
masterclass is focused all on confidence.
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:It's called Daring to be Confident.
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:It's on April 19th.
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:Tickets are now live.
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:Also, if you're wondering, you can grab
them now on the website, daretobeiconic.
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:com under empowerment events.
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:But let's get to this question.
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:Okay.
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:And we'll go more into this in the master
class, but I think my best advice When
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:you are struggling with confidence is that
it's not about doubting yourself, okay?
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:It's about deciding to show up for
yourself, even when you're scared.
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:You need to decide to show up
with bravery and courage, even
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:when you're scared of doing it.
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:You need to do it anyway.
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:That is what confidence is all about.
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:You need to build it up.
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:You need to tell yourself that
you can figure it out, even if
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:you don't know all the steps.
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:So my advice, if you are struggling with
confidence, is you need to build it up.
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:When that doubt creeps in, when
that imposter syndrome creeps in.
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:You need to decide to show
up for yourself anyway.
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:You need to do it.
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:Do it scared if you
have to, but just do it.
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:You need to acknowledge it.
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:You need to push through it,
and you just have to do it.
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:Show up for yourself.
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:That's the bravest thing that you can do.
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:What would little baby
Amanda think of her now?
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:I think little baby Amanda would
be in awe of the Amanda today.
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:I think she would be so
immensely proud of her.
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:I think she would be almost starstruck.
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:And like, Just in awe of everything
that she's been able to accomplish.
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:And I just think she would be like,
smiling ear to ear, being like, Wow,
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:like, you did everything you said you
were gonna do and more, like, Our dreams
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:came true, and I'm so proud of you.
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:And I think she would have been
really happy that she never
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:stopped believing in herself.
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:I think she would be really happy
that she kept going when people
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:told her that all these big dreams
that she had were really stupid.
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:I just think she would be so happy
and so proud and Just like in awe
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:that this is her life now and that
everything that she said and she
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:dreamed of Came true or is coming true.
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:And I think that's really really cool.
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:And I'm not gonna cry again.
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:Because we've already
cried during this episode.
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:So let's get to the next question.
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:What is some advice that you have
for aspiring business owners?
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:I think my advice would be, it's going to
sound a little cliche, but it's so true.
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:Don't ever stop believing in yourself.
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:Keep fighting for your dream.
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:Keep fighting for what you believe in.
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:And when everyone tells you no,
because there will be a lot of
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:people who will tell you no.
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:There will be a lot of people who don't
understand your vision or your dream.
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:You need to tell yourself yes.
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:You need to keep going.
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:You need to keep showing up for yourself.
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:Keep showing up for your dreams.
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:You just have to keep doing it.
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:You have to keep pushing forward.
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:Even if no one else
understands it, so what?
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:They don't need to understand it.
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:You just need to keep going because
your dream is worth fighting for.
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:And that is what my advice would be.
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:What is your biggest, I can't believe
this is my life moment so far?
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:I definitely think it's the
magazine cover behind me.
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:I was the July cover girl or the
Motorsports Girlies magazine.
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:At that time it was the F1 Girlies
magazine, and that was definitely like,
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:oh my god, like, I can't believe, like,
this is my life moment for me, because
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:little baby Amanda always dreamed of being
on the cover of a magazine, specifically,
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:it was the Seventeen magazine cover, but
this is like, pretty cool, you guys.
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:So, that moment was like, oh my god,
like, I can't believe this is my life.
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:Or even, like, the rooftop in Barcelona
for Off to the Races, like, that sunset
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:sessions, That was also a moment where I
was like, holy shit, like this is my life
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:and it was all because I kept believing
in myself and I kept fighting for my
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:dream and when everyone told me no, I
told myself yes, so For those aspiring
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:business owners, your oh my god I can't
believe this is my life moment will come
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:when you stop caring what other people
think and you just keep fighting for
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:your dream and you just keep doing it.
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:I promise you it will work out.
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:All right, radiant icons.
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:That is your tea time sesh for today.
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:If you enjoyed today's episode, make
sure to subscribe, to leave a rating
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:or review, to tell your friends about
us, to tell anyone and everyone,
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:because we love more radiant icons
in our iconic community of ours.
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:I love doing Q& As with you guys.
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:Like, you guys give me
the best questions ever.
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:I mean, like, I don't doubt
you guys for a second.
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:You guys got my back, but
you guys challenge me.
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:Okay, you challenge me
with these questions.
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:They're fun, they're
exciting, they're interesting.
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:Like, you keep me on my
toes, and I'm Loving it.
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:So if you guys like Dare to be Iconic
Hotline specific episodes make sure to
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:let me know by sending me a DM, an email,
maybe even dropping it in a comment.
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:Like, let me know and I'll incorporate
it more into my season planning.
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:There definitely is another dedicated
Dare to be Iconic Hotline Q& A,
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:whatever you want to call it,
for the later half of Season 2.
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:It's definitely regarding the
Miami Grand Prix and Lando Bash,
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:but you didn't hear that from me.
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:Anywho, I will talk to you guys next week.
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:Remember radiant icons dare to be iconic.
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:Bye!