Miami Grand Prix 2.0: Refueled by F1 & Reconnected to Joy

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Amanda Paolicelli:

What's up, radiant icons?

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And welcome back to Dare to Be

Iconic, the podcast made for icons

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who are daring to be themselves.

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I'm your host, Amanda Paolicelli, and

for today's tea time sesh, radiant

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icons, we are spilling the tea on my

iconic trip to the Miami Grand Prix.

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It's Miami 2.0,

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baby.

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But before we get into that piping

hot tea and all that iconicness that

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Miami was this year, I dare you to

connect with me on socials, radiant

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icons, on Instagram and TikTok.

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It's @amandapaolicelli_

and @daretobeiconic_.

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And if you're on LinkedIn, radiant icons,

you already know what I'm gonna say.

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Make sure to connect with me on there.

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It's Amanda Paolicelli.

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All of my socials are linked

in the show notes below.

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And also, radiant icons, since we're

speaking of show notes, make sure to click

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that link for the Own Your Sexy collection

because I know you want to rep your DTBI

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pride this summer and match with me in our

own little matching sets from the Own Your

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Sexy collection because we're hot, we're

healing, we're sexy, and we're iconic.

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We are owning our sexy.

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We are reclaiming our power

this summer, radiant icons.

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So make sure to match with me today

by grabbing your favorite pieces

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from the Own Your Sexy collection

by clicking the link in the show

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notes or going to daretobeiconic.com.

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And now with all of that out of

the way, radiant icons, let's

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get to that piping hot tea.

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Are you ready, radiant icons?

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Because your tea time

sesh is starting now.

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As most of you know, this has

been one of the most difficult

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chapters of my life to navigate.

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I think I underestimated how difficult

it would be to heal out loud from

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my dating violence relationship and

everything that comes with that, right?

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'Cause it's been nine, almost 10

years of my life where I completely

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ignored my truth, and I was in

so much denial and shame and

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embarrassment about what I experienced.

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And so now, opening up

the floodgates to healing,

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it's been- one of the most

beautiful years of my life.

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I've had so many beautiful

experiences, but I've also had

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some of the most difficult and most

challenging experiences of my life.

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But hey, that, that comes with this

concept, right, of healing out loud,

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because like I've said all the way back

in season one, healing is a rollercoaster.

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It is this bumpy, chaotic

ride, and it is never linear.

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And trust me, this year, when it comes

to healing, it has definitely not been

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linear . There have been times where

I feel on top of the world, and then

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there are times where I feel like there

is no hope, that I don't know how I

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get up every day and face the world.

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Sometimes I truly don't know.

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It's like the lowest of rock bottoms,

and my mind is spinning, right?

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And

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for a while, I've never

told anyone this before,

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but to be honest, as I've been

navigating this healing process,

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I thought for a bit that maybe I lost,

like, my sparkle, that I lost my joy.

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Didn't think I was gonna get emotional.

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But you know, I'm really struggling

with this concept of, oh,

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maybe I did lose, like,

a big part of myself.

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And you know, no one really talks

about how sometimes the things we love

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feel really heavy when we're healing.

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And for me, something that has felt

extremely heavy while I've been healing

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is Formula 1.

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And that's really hard, because

as we all know, I love Formula 1.

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But for a while, especially last

summer, I fell out of love with F1.

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And the truth with that is that

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I went through something really, really

traumatic last summer, and I've only

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recently allowed myself to come to terms

with it and not be in denial about what

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happened to me and what I experienced.

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And the God-honest truth is, when

that happened to me last summer

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It was connected to F1 in a way.

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Um, and the best way I

can explain it is that,

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you know, every time I watch Formula 1,

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particularly after that incident, I am

reminded of something really horrible

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happening to me, and I told myself

that I will not let anyone, I will not

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let anyone steal my joy, or steal my

sparkle, or steal my love for things.

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But it's been hard.

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It's been hard trying to remind

myself that no one can steal my joy,

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no one can steal my love, no one can

define or dictate anything for me.

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But the matter of the truth is that,

you know, for the longest time, I

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had to detach myself from something I

love because it felt so heavy, 'cause

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it was a constant reminder of such a

horrible, horrible time in my life.

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It was something that I experienced

that I didn't want to experience again.

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That is the truth of it.

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And I told myself before I went to

Vegas last year, and before I went to

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Miami this year, is that I will not let

anyone take that joy or love for Formula

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1, because that is my thing, right?

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And so going to Vegas and going back

to Miami, it's allowed me to come

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back home to myself and connect to

myself on a deeper, more intimate

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level, and it's allowed me to reclaim

my love for Formula 1 and take

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back my power and own it for me.

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And I never really thought, um, I would

feel really comfortable talking about it.

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Because, you know, I am known as...

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I'm known as a lot of things.

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But one of the things that I, I'm

known for is how passionate I am

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about F1, but it's, it's hard to

kinda talk about how, you know, I

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lost a little bit of my joy and love

for the sport because of someone's

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else's actions that tainted it for me.

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I was almost embarrassed in a sense.

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And, you know, still now talking about

it on this mic, I feel a little scared,

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a little nervous, a little embarrassed,

and a little frustrated that this is

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something I have to navigate still.

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Because when I went to Vegas, it was

the most amazing experience of my life.

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It was so, so amazing, but I was at

such a different point in my healing

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journey in Vegas than I am now, right,

post-Miami or even during Miami.

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There was so much growth

from November to May Right?

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And I still had the most amazing,

amazing time in Vegas, obviously.

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I mean, I was on cloud nine.

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That trip was fucking

spectacular and iconic.

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Okay?

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Iconic in every sense of the word.

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But Miami did scare me a bit because

I am at such a different place.

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I'm at a place where I am more

susceptible to flashbacks, I am

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more susceptible to triggers.

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My body remembers a lot of things now.

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I have owned my truth.

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I'm not in denial anymore.

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Like, there are a lot of things different,

and Miami made me really scared, and

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my hope was that Miami was going to

be a healing trip for me, and it was.

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Miami 2.0,

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radiant icons, wasn't about

the glitz and glam for me.

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It was about coming back home to myself.

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It was about reconnecting to

myself and being back in alignment.

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It was the trip that showed me

that I didn't lose my sparkle

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and that I didn't lose my joy.

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It just took me a little bit

to come back fully to myself.

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'Cause the matter of the fact is when

you are violated on such a personal

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level, right, and your body is violated,

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a part of you is forever changed.

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And I think that's something that's been

really hard for me to come to terms with

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and to navigate as I heal out loud and,

um, reclaim things for myself again.

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And

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when it came to Miami, Miami 2.0,

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baby,

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it really allowed me to have

this, this type of freedom where

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I have fully embraced my truth.

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I've embraced every single

part of me, trauma and all.

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Like, everything's out

there on the fucking table.

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Everything is out there, and

I have fully accepted it and

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embraced it, and I am just me.

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I am so free in my skin and in my

voice and in my decisions and in my

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confidence because I have accepted and

embraced every part of my becoming.

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Which, if we remember,

radiant icons, from the...

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What, what is my National

Amanda Day episode called?

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I think it's Goodbye 26, Hello

Sexy 27: The Art of Becoming.

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I think that's actually it That's

my definition of sexy, and if we

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remember back to one of the episodes

in January about, um, designing a

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life that is sexy to you, right?

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'Cause freedom looks sexy.

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I spoke about that at the root

of sexy for me is freedom.

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And there's this type of freedom

that comes with you fully embracing

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every single thing about you, the

trauma and all, that allows you

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to be so empowered and liberated

and so aligned with who you are.

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And that,

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that is the main theme or thing that

I think of when I think of Miami 2.0.

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And trust me, I have lessons to share,

radiant icons, because of course it

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wouldn't be me if I didn't have s-

lessons to share, you know what I mean?

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But anyway, that's just what I think

about when it comes to Miami 2.0.

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It wasn't about this glitz and glam

like my previous Grand Prix trips.

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This trip was needed for

me to come back to me.

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It was for me to find my joy

again, to reclaim my love, to

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find my sparkle, because no one or

thing can take that away from me.

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It is a choice, and my choice is

to shine brighter than ever before.

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And so with that, radiant icons, I have

a couple of, um, iconic lessons that I

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have learned from my Miami Grand Prix 2.0

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trip as I choose to shine

brighter than ever before.

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And, well, they're pretty damn iconic,

so let's just get to it, shall we?

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So lesson number one, radiant icons,

is that healing isn't always loud.

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Sometimes it looks like

coming home to yourself.

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And as I mentioned, Miami 2.0

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was all about coming home to myself.

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I was unapologetically iconic, right?

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I, I didn't play small.

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I didn't shrink myself.

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I allowed myself to heal out loud and take

up the space that I needed to do that.

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And sometimes I think people think that

healing always happens in, like, these

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big, dramatic, cinematic moments, right?

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And that could happen, right?

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I mean, definitely it has for me at times.

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But honestly, if I'm being really,

really real with y'all, 'cause you know

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I don't do no bullshit here at Dare To

Be Iconic, I tell you all the truth.

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But on this healing journey, for me-

There's been so many moments on this

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journey that look like slowing down,

that look like taking that damn deep

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breath that I need to take, right?

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It's taking in the moment of feeling

joy return back to my body because I

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thought that I lost that feeling forever,

it's dancing in the grandstands and

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taking up space and just vibing and

being me, unapologetically me, right?

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I mean, if you saw those TikToks

and Instagrams, 'cause I was posting

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like crazy, as you guys know.

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As you know.

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But I was always dancing.

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I was always dancing.

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And to me, that isn't loud, right?

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That's, that is those quiet moments of joy

for me where I can fully embrace who I am

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and come home, come home to myself and to

my body and feel the joy come back to me.

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That is what healing is all about.

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It's about slowing down.

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It's about taking in those quieter

moments, those slower moments where

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you can just be free in your being.

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And, you know, I forgot to mention

this earlier, but as I've been

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navigating this, this healing

journey, I like to distract myself.

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I love a good distraction because

it cuts off the noise in my brain

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because my brain is so damn noisy.

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It just truly is, right?

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Like, I get flashbacks.

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I get intrusive thoughts.

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Like, things just keep on fucking

going, and a way to silence my

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brain is to distract myself.

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And with this trip, even though Grand

Prix weekends, you all know, you all

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know, Grand Prix weekends are, like, so

fucking busy, you guys, and so chaotic.

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But for Miami 2.0

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My friend Emmy and I made the intentional

choice to slow down, to pick specific

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activations that we knew we really wanted

to go to, that were going to make us

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happy, that were going to bring us joy,

and not overextend ourselves to do more

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than we can physically handle, right?

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We were so intentional with our choices,

and for me, that came from me not wanting

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to distract myself and fully be in the

moment and allow myself to feel, allow

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myself to actually come home to myself.

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Because damn, I love a good distraction,

but Miami, the choice was so intentional

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that this was a healing trip for me.

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I wanted to feel like me again.

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I needed, I needed it.

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I needed it.

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I di- I didn't even wanna feel.

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I needed to come back home to myself.

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I needed to become realigned with me,

Amanda, 'cause I felt so out of whack

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for so long, 'cause I've been distracting

myself and I needed to stop doing it.

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And Miami was where I can make the

intentional choices of the conversations,

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of the people I surround myself

with, and the rooms that I step into.

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This time, for Miami, it wasn't

about overextending myself and

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doing everything and anything.

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It was about being intentional with

where I want to exert my energy

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and where I want to focus it on.

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And if we ran into things,

we ran into things, and we

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had a damn good fucking time.

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And that is how I allowed

myself to just simply be.

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I allowed myself to reconnect with myself,

to explore this freedom of not having a

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plan as someone who loves a damn plan.

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I was allowing myself to embrace joy

again and to rediscover the parts of

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myself that I thought I truly lost.

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And so radiant icons, when it comes

to lesson number one, which is healing

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isn't always loud, sometimes it

looks like coming home to yourself.

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The biggest thing I take away from

this lesson is that healing out loud

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looks softer than I anticipated.

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It is this presence.

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It is this, this peace, right?

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This inner peace of finally

allowing joy back into my life by

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being intentional with where I put

my energy and allowing myself to

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explore the freedom of just being.

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I love me lesson number two,

radiant icons, because lesson

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number two is so damn magical.

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Lesson number two, let's just get

to it, is the right people will feel

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like confirmation, not competition.

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And the reason why lesson number two is

so damn magical is because it's truly

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about the people we meet along the way.

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It is about quality, not

quantity, radiant icons.

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And I think in today's society,

it's so easy to be focused

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on that quantity, right?

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Of the amount of people that you reach.

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The bigger the number, the better.

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But that's not necessarily the case.

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The bigger the number you have,

honestly, sometimes only translate

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to surface level connections.

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You want intentional connections

in your life, radiant icons.

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And every single woman that I

encountered during my Miami 2.0

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trip, they were signs that were

guiding me back towards myself

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as I reconnect to myself again.

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Because Miami 2.0

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was a healing trip for me, radiant icons,

and I truly do think it's the quality

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of people that you have in your life, or

the quality interactions or connections

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that you have that allow you to truly

just feel aligned with yourself again.

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Like, there's no other way for me

to explain it Other than it is the

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people we meet along the way that

teach us about ourselves, and are

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signs guiding us back to who we are.

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And that is something that

I needed on this trip.

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I needed little reminders that this

is exactly where I am supposed to be.

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Because honestly, healing is

such a messy, chaotic, non-linear

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journey, like we all know.

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And sometimes it's, it's just hard

existing and knowing if you're doing

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the right damn thing, and you're...

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Like, you know, it's just hard.

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It's hard.

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And every encounter that I had,

every conversation I had, every

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quality connection that I made

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was a reminder to myself and confirmation

that I am on the right path and I am

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exactly where I am supposed to be.

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Because there is a reason that I

ran into so and so at the Grand

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Stand and X, Y, and Z happened.

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There is a reason why I ran into

so and so at the FQ Lounge, and

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we so happen to have the same type

of Plans for the future, right?

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There is something there.

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It's the intentionality and quality

in those connections that are signs

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reminding me and honestly confirming

I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be.

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And you are on the right track when

it comes to this healing journey and

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daring to be yourself because there

is nothing more iconic than what?

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Daring to be yourself, radiant icons.

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Lesson number three, radiant

icons, is freedom looks like

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finally letting yourself be seen.

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You know, when I think of lesson three,

radiant icons, and I know I touched on

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it briefly in the beginning of today's

tea time sesh, but when it comes to

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lesson three in particular, is for

the first time in my life, I'm, I'm

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experiencing this type of freedom that

feels very unfamiliar to me, and it's,

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it's this freedom of no longer hiding.

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It's this freedom of allowing myself,

for the first time in my life, to be

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fully seen for who I am, trauma and all.

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Because for around nine years,

almost a decade of my life,

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I tried to minimize my pain.

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And by minimize, I mean be silent.

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I was silent.

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I tried to outrun it.

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I, I did so many things.

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I did everything except embrace and

own my truth, and it was pretty fucking

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heavy at times, to be honest with you.

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There was nothing freeing about it,

and for the first time in my life,

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I truly am starting to feel free.

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And I remember back in December when I

spoke about my intention with Sexy 27

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and how the root of it is being free.

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I just wanna be free, and I do think

that I'm actually living that out.

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The biggest thing that I needed to

be free from was my truth of what

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I experienced at 18 years old.

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And I held so much guilt, shame,

embarrassment, anger about it,

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but mainly embarrassment, if

I'm being honest, and shame.

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Lots of shame.

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And I held that for so long, it was

debilitating me from being truly free.

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And when I think back to the other

Grand Prix that I went to, Spain,

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Miami, Vegas, 2024 and 2025, those

versions of me were in denial

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and were carrying such a

heavy burden with shame

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and embarrassment

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and guilt and fear.

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Like, I held all of those things,

and, like, those versions of me were,

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were just fighting all of those

feelings in silence for so long, and

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I never truly was free then because I

was in such denial to protect myself

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because I wasn't ready to deal with it.

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And now, being 27, and

at this point in my life,

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I really am free,

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and there's some type of

liberation almost and empowerment

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with having every single card on

the table And not being in denial,

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and not being in fear, and not being

in shame or embarrassment or guilt.

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Like, I no longer carry that.

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I carried that for so long, and

it's almost weird not to carry it,

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but it's so freeing.

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It's so fucking nice to not

carry all of those emotions that

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weren't even mine to begin with.

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And, like, for me to even say that

sentence is, holy shit, I've grown so much

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and I've healed so much because I never,

r would've said that in Spain: 2024

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Never.

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Never in my fucking life.

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Half the things that I've said and

done within just the last couple

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months of making this choice that I

no longer wanna carry all of this and

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just be free, like I never would've...

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18-year-old me would've been like,

"What the hell are you doing?"

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Like, holy shit.

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Like, she would be in awe.

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And I think that's

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one of the things I'm most

proud of, particularly when

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it comes to, like, Miami 2.0,

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is that this is the first time in my

life that I've truly shown up as me.

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Every single part of me has

been owned, the trauma and all.

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I don't carry it anymore.

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I'm not in denial.

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I own it.

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I embrace it because it's my

fucking truth, and there's

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nothing I should be ashamed of

at all, 'cause it's not my doing.

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It's not my actions.

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And there's a freedom to that that I've

never really experienced until, honestly

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until Miami, 'cause those are kind of like

the big moments, like networking moments

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for me, where I'm in a different space.

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Like beforehand, I was carrying this

big secret that no one knew about

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that was killing me in silence.

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Like, it was killing me.

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But I just put on a face and pretended

everything was fine when I, when I wasn't.

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And now,

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now I'm so comfortable in my

emotions and in my skin and in

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my truth that it's all there.

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It's all there on the table,

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and I just own it.

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And I never thought I would get

to a place where I just own it

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But it's so fucking freeing.

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Like it's so nice to truly

just be seen and to be me.

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It's unfamiliar at times for sure,

and it may be a little bit awkward

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for me, 'cause I'm like, "Oh wow,

like it's actually all out there.

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Okay."

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But there's kind of a beauty

in that awkwardness because

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that means I'm growing,

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and that just means I'm getting

more free, and sexy of course.

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Duh.

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But yeah.

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I love me lesson three.

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Let's get to lesson four.

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Lesson number four may be the

most important one of them all,

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radiant icons, and that is choosing

yourself changes everything.

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You know I am the biggest advocate for the

choose you journey, and well, Miami 2.0

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was not an exception, radiant icons,

because in fact, me choosing myself really

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did change everything for this trip.

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I advocated for myself more.

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I allowed myself more time to rest.

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I gave myself permission to

slow down and truly take it in.

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I let myself enjoy things without guilt.

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I embraced my femininity.

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I embraced my confidence,

my sexiness, my softness.

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I embraced every single thing

that made me, me, even that

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damn Lando's lucky charm joke.

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It's true.

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It's true, radiant icons.

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But I, I embraced every part of me.

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I chose myself every single

day and every single moment.

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What do I need?

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What will bring me joy?

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What will make me feel good?

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That was at the forefront of my

decision-making when it came to Miami 2.0,

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and every time I came back to that

simple choice of choosing myself.

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And like I mentioned in the beginning

of today's tea time sesh, is that,

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you know, I made that choice to not

let anyone steal my joy, not to let

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anyone steal my sparkle, not to let

anyone dictate anything for me, right?

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Because you have the power of how

you want to show up in this world.

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Every single thing is a choice,

and my choice was to shine

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brighter than ever before.

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My choice was to choose

myself time and time again.

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My choice was to dare to be iconic.

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That is what I did, radiant icons.

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So when it comes to lesson number

four, I challenge you to think of this.

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Your life changes the moment you stop

waiting for permission to fully be

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yourself, or in other words, when

you start daring to be iconic, when

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you start daring to be yourself.

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That is the moment your life changes.

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So always choose you because the moment

you choose you, the moment you honor

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yourself, the moment you embrace yourself

and stop apologizing for who you are, you

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will feel lighter, you will feel freer,

and you will feel more magnetic to life.

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Miami 2.0

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truly was the time where I came

home to myself, and that was because

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I decided to choose myself every

single day and every single moment.

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Even when it came down to

these four lessons, the root

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of it is me choosing myself.

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I chose to shine brighter

than ever before.

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I chose to not let anyone steal my joy.

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I chose to heal out loud.

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I choose to dare to be iconic

radiant icons, and that's

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what I dare you to do as well.

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All right, radiant icons.

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That is your tea time sesh for today.

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If you enjoyed today's episode,

make sure to subscribe, to leave

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a rating, a review, to tell your

friends about us, to tell everyone

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and anyone because you know we love...

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say it with me radiant icons, we

love more radiant icons in our iconic

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community of ours, but honestly, radiant

icons, I love you guys so damn much.

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I loved meeting all of you at our

Radiant Icon Club meetup at the Miami

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Grand Prix, but if you weren't there,

radiant icons, and you're in Central

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Florida, then I have a treat for you.

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Make sure to join us this Sunday,

May 17th at 3:30 PM at Cypress Grove

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Park for our hot and healing picnic,

our official first Radiant Icon Club

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meetup, and I want to meet all of you.

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I had such a joy meeting all of you

on track and, like, throughout the

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week, honestly, and I can't wait to

keep on doing these meetups so that

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we can hang out, heal out loud, be in

community, and dare to be ourselves.

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I just love it, and I love you guys.

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Did I mention that already?

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Probably, but I'll say it again.

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I love you guys so damn much.

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Next week we're doing a

Q&A, baby, about Miami 2.0,

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so make sure to submit your questions.

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And well, I guess I'll

chat with you next week.

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Remember, Radiant Icons,

dare to be iconic.

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Bye.

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This guy is sitting next to me, and

this was like a no-shoe kind of house,

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so he had to take his shoes off.

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We were playing cards, drinking,

and then all of a sudden, he

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starts rubbing his foot on my leg.

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And her co-host, Jessica.

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So he leaves me at the table.

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He gets his food.

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He goes back to his car.

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I'm thinking he's

dipping out on this date.

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I just told him I don't want to marry

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