Fangirl Therapy: The Miami Grand Prix Reset

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Amanda Paolicelli:

What's up, radiant icons?

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And welcome back to Dare to be

Iconic, the podcast made for icons

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who are daring to be themselves.

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I'm your host, Amanda Paolicelli, and for

today's tea time sesh, radiant icons, I am

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answering your questions about Miami 2.0.

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But before we get into that piping hot

tea, I dare you to own your sexy with

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me this summer by grabbing your favorite

pieces from the Own Your Sexy collection.

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All pieces are now available

on daretobeiconic.com

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or linked in the show notes below.

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And without further ado, radiant icons,

let's get to that piping hot tea.

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Let's answer your

questions about Miami 2.0.

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Are you ready, radiant icons?

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Because your tea time

sesh is starting now.

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Before I get into these piping hot,

very juicy questions, I just have to

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say every time I do a DTBI hotline,

a Q&A dedicated tea time sesh, I am

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always thoroughly surprised by the

type of questions you guys send me.

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It's literally insane.

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Again, like, every time I

ask, you guys delivered.

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Like, I don't know why

I'm surprised anymore.

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You guys just always show up for me,

and I love you guys so much for that.

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And I love this first question, so

let's just get into it, radiant icons.

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Oh my goodness.

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"Amanda, what is this Lando's lucky charm

theory, and why am I obsessed with it?"

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Well, you should be obsessed with it.

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Um, you should be obsessed with it because

it's really a funny story, and every

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time I tell one of my girlfriends this

theory of me being Lando's lucky charm,

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everyone is just like, "You know what?

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It makes sense."

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And I don't know if that's because they

just love me so much that they're gonna

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support this delusional hypothesis

that I have constructed, but there is

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evidence to support my claim, okay?

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To support this hypothesis.

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I feel like I'm back in, like, sixth

grade or seventh grade when we did the

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science fair, you guys, when I'm, like,

saying like, "Ooh, hypothesis," like I'm

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a little scientist, but honestly, I am

the scientist behind Lando's lucky charm.

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In fact, actually, I'm not

the one who originated that.

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It was you guys.

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You guys did that back in Spain 2024.

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So let's, let's buckle up and get

ready 'cause it is a wild ride.

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So the Lando's lucky charm theory came

effect all the way back Spain: 2024

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my first race that I ever attended.

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It was also my first full season of

F1, and I decided, you know what?

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What's more iconic than traveling

across the world to go watch F1, right?

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Like, let's not go four

hours away from me in Miami.

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Let's go to Spain.

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Like, a foreign race

for your first F1 race?

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Like, hell yeah.

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Like, let's do it.

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So I did it, and it was the

best decision of my life.

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But basically, what happened in Spain

is that you guys loved me living up

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my, like, Cheetah Girls F1 dreams.

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Like, you guys were loving it,

and I, I was loving it as well.

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And this was my first trip in

general going international, like

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away from my parents and everything.

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So I was of course sharing my whole

experience on social media until

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I was able to spill the tea with

you guys on this very podcast.

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And again, we were like living our lives,

like you and I, we were in it together,

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Radiant Icons, like we truly were.

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And since I was live reporting

everything, I had posted a photo of me

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in my Lando Norris corset, um, for the

pit lane walk, and I was in front of

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Lando's garage with his car behind me.

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And I have never looked

more beautiful in my life.

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Like, I was so fucking

happy in that moment.

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I was just radiating joy, like

radiating joy in that moment.

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And I had posted it that Saturday

of qualifying, and I was like

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just missing @landonorris.

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And you guys hype me up in the comments,

like you always do on every single photo,

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which I love you guys for, like down bad.

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And you guys were like, "Oh my

God, like Lando is missing out.

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Like you are his lucky charm.

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Like you are so beautiful.

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Like Lando needs to be on DTBI,"

which again, I agree with.

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But anyway, you guys

were really hyping me up.

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And at that point while you guys

were hyping me up, it was qualifying,

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and Lando had gotten pole.

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And it was the first time in a long ass

time that Lando had finally gotten pole.

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And at that very moment while I was

celebrating, jumping up and down in

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the Max Verstappen section, and Lando

did his victory lap, and I swear to

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God he waved to me in his fucking car.

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Like I swear to God.

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Like I mean, who wouldn't?

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Who wouldn't be waving at,

you know, the tiny, cute girl

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in Lando Norris merch, right?

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If you, if you were Lando Norris

himself, like it just makes sense, right?

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But anyway, let me live

on that delusion, okay?

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Let me, let me just think

that he waved at me.

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Okay.

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But anyway, I'm screaming up and down.

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I'm so fucking happy, elated actually.

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And you guys were blowing up my phone.

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You would have thought that I had

met Lando himself by the way you

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guys were blowing up my phone.

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And in the comments and DMs,

I was getting, "Oh my God,

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Amanda, you are his lucky charm.

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You need to go to every race.

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Like you are the reason this is happening.

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Like the lucky charm is here.

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Like thank God."

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And that is how Lando's lucky

charm started, because then he got

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second place at the race in Spain.

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And then when I went to Miami

last year and I went to Vegas,

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the same pattern happened.

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Again, we are, we are going to ignore

that he got disqualified because that

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was not his doing for Vegas, okay?

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But again, the pattern still stands.

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It's just been proven time and time

again, every race that I attend, Lando

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gets pole for qualifying, whether it

is sprint or just regular qualifying.

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And then he gets second

place for the big race.

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And in Miami, I do have to say, two times

in a row, this man wins the sprint race.

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So again, like, in Miami this

time, you guys were also hyping

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it up in the comments, being like,

"You need to go to every race.

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Like, you really are Lando's lucky charm.

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Like, thank you for your service."

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And again, I'm so happy to

provide this service for you guys.

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Like, genuinely, I'm just so happy.

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Like, you're welcome.

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Like, you are welcome, okay?

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You are welcome, Lando Norris.

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I am your lucky charm.

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Put me in the paddock,

you'll get first place.

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I promise you that.

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Anyway, next question.

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Did Miami 2.0

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feel like an escape, a reset, or

a homecoming version of yourself?

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I definitely think Miami 2.0

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was a combo between a

reset and a homecoming.

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I know I mentioned on last week's tea

time sesh that, you know, I've been

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really struggling with this concept of me

reclaiming my love for F1, and reclaiming

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joy in my life, and reconnecting to

myself, and I had this belief that I

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have lost my sparkle because of things

that I am currently processing, right?

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Whether it's privately or publicly.

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And I definitely think Miami was

the trip that I needed, Miami 2.0,

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to reset and recenter, and find

realignment back with myself.

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So it was a homecoming in sorts,

and I just, I really needed it for

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my soul, and I needed it for me

so I can come back home to myself.

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So Miami was a little bit of both.

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It was just healing overall

for me, which was very, very

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beautiful and very much needed.

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My perspective in life, um, has

definitely shifted, but in a good way.

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Like, for the last couple of

months it's been very touch and go.

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Um, it's been very difficult to

navigate, and I've been a lot more, how

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do I say this, negative than positive.

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Like, I usually have a very positive

outlook and find the silver lining and the

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beauty in life, but for the last couple

of months, because it's been so damn

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challenging, it's been really hard to be

that Amanda that has that positive mindset

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that I've worked so hard to, like, have.

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I haven't had it for a while, and

Miami was the shift that I needed to

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finally put all the, the pieces back

in place to reconnect back to myself.

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Next question, radiant icons.

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Ooh, this is a good one.

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What moment from the weekend felt so

unreal it almost didn't feel real?

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To answer this question in the most

fair way, Radiant Icons, I'm gonna

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give you my top three moments, and

the first one definitely has to be

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the McLaren Racing Live Show Run.

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I was within 10 feet of Mr.

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World Champion Lando Norris,

and I, I was so happy.

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Like I was so in my element.

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Like one of my friends from dance class,

she swiped up on my reaction video of

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seeing Lando literally race within 10 feet

from me, um, and she was like, "It is just

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so, so nice to see you in your element.

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Like you were literally radiating joy."

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And I will have to share that video

again and make it like a permanent

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video, 'cause I only made it a

story, but my face, I was so happy.

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Like I think that is the exact

moment where I found my joy again,

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and I reconnected with myself.

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Like, or at least it was probably like

the first instance within that trip

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where I could truly see my sparkle.

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Like it was never lost.

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It was always there.

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It just took me a little while to get

back to myself, and- That moment for sure,

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being there in that type of environment

surrounded by the Papaya Army, and

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being within, again, 10 feet from Mr.

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World Champion Lando Norris, and

just being in my cute little Lando

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Norris fit, you know, my Lando Norris

corset all the way back from Spain.

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I brought it back from Miami 2.0.

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You know I did, with my little

championship hat, and my, my

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little friendship bracelets,

and my cheetah nails.

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Like, I was just so me.

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I was just so me, and it was just

so, it was just so fucking amazing.

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I couldn't believe it was real,

and it's just so crazy that that

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activation was also so accessible.,

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It was free.

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I've never seen an activation on

that level in Formula 1 be free.

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Like, that's so insane.

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It was so inclusive, and that's what

I loved the most about it, and I

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think that also adds another element

to me as to why it felt so unreal.

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Like, like, I couldn't

believe it was actually real.

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I couldn't believe I was

able to have that access.

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These are things that I was just able

to go to because they were making it

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accessible and inclusive for everyone, and

I hope more teams follow suit into that.

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I think Williams is a great example of

also having such an accessible and an

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inclusive activations wherever they go.

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Um, 'cause you know I love Williams

down bad, especially their fan zone.

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Like, they just are so great

at that, and they champion

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inclusivity and accessibility.

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And I think McLaren, with this activation

in particular, the amount of access that

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we had and the inclusivity, again, just

made it a standout for me, and it was

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one of the most amazing moments, and

such a great way to kick off Miami 2.0.

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So, that's definitely moment number one.

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Um, I definitely wrote about, I wrote

about this activation much more eloquently

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on the Icon blog and on LinkedIn, so

make sure to check it out, Radiant Icons.

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But my second moment would have

to be, mm, well, this is easy.

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Lando No- Lando getting pole

and him winning the sprint race.

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Like, again, you could see in those

videos the joy just exuding from my body.

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It was just so amazing.

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I was so in my element, and I

love, I love cheering him on.

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Like, I, I love cheering

on my world champ, okay?

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Like, what can I say?

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Like, what can I say?

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It's iconic, okay?

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I do iconic shit, okay?

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And so does Lando Norris.

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That's why he needs to

be on Dare To Be Iconic.

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But anywho, anyway, my third moment

is easy for me because it's dedicated

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to you guys, my lovely radiant icons.

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Our Radiant Icon Club meetup

was Saturday on the track after

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that lovely Lando Norris win.

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Like, talk about iconic timing, you guys.

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But genuinely, any time I have the

opportunity to connect with you guys

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offline and in person and really have

that intimate, deep connection and

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heal out loud and dare to be ourselves

together really makes everything worth

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it for me, and it's still a surreal

feeling when I meet you guys and you

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guys share your Dare to be Iconic stories

and how Dare to be Iconic has impacted

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your life and how it has inspired you

and how maybe my story has resonated

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with you in some way, shape, or form.

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Like, for me, it's still so surreal to

see something that I created because

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I didn't want anyone else to feel

how I felt in life, um, 'cause I,

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I didn't want anyone to feel alone.

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I just, again, I just wanna help people,

and to think that my business that was

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a tiny dream in my heart has helped you

guys on so many levels is just so...

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I always get emotional, but, um It's

a good reminder to me to keep going,

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because I'm not gonna lie, year three

of being a business owner has been

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extremely difficult, especially in the

economic state we are in in America.

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Um, and it's a good reminder to keep

going and to not give up, and to think

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that, you know, something I created out

of the goodness of my heart with just

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a dream and a hope and a lot of fucking

hard work has meant something to you

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and has helped you and has inspired

you, it's so fucking surreal to me.

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And like that, that is so unreal.

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That is so unreal, I

can't believe it's real.

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I can't believe like this is what I get

to do, and it's all because of you guys.

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So any time I get to meet you guys,

it's one of my favorite moments ever.

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Ooh, this is a good question, you guys.

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"Was there a moment during race weekend

where you genuinely felt free again?"

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I have to say, any time I was dancing.

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I know I posted a lot of videos on social

media of me dancing, whether it was in the

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grandstand or the Jack Daniels activation

or in front of the podium on Sunday.

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You know, what can I say?

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A girl just loves to dance.

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Um, but genuinely, I...

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Any time that I am dancing, I am so free.

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I mean, my dad even told me

the other day, he was like...

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We were at my cousin's wedding

in, um, April in New York, and...

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Well, actually Connecticut, but still.

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Um, and I was just on the dance floor

all night, like, you know, us icons do.

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And my dad had told me that he mentioned

to my mom that I just look so free,

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just so free and comfortable, at ease

when I'm on the dance floor dancing.

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Like any time I am dancing, I

just look so secure in my being.

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I look so joyful.

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I look so free.

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And I think that is so true.

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I think that's why I love

heels dancing so much.

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I think that's why I love shaking

my ass so much in the club.

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I like I think that's why I find dancing

as my number one vice when it comes to

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reconnecting back to myself and my body in

particular in, in this moment in my life,

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um, because I am so free when I'm dancing.

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There is something with me and dance that

is just so therapeutic and cathartic,

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and I am just so at ease with myself.

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I am so confident.

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I am so joyful.

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I am so sparkly, and I am so free.

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I am so free when I'm dancing.

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So any moment that I was dancing at the

Mayan Grand Prix, which was probably 99.9%

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of the time, um, because all those

videos did not- Did not show the

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amount of times I was dancing.

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Every time I was fucking dancing,

my ass was being shook, okay?

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Like, that's, that's about it, okay?

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Like, that's the all God honest truth.

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Whenever I am dancing, I am free.

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Oh, you guys, this next question is good.

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"Amanda, did you run

into any track cuties?

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Please spill the tea."

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I would say there was

this one guy, actually.

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There was this one guy, and

his name was Peter, and I met

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him before the podium run.

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Before that lovely, lovely podium run, I

met Peter, and Peter had gorgeous eyes,

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and he was wearing a Ferrari hat, and

he was a Carlos fan, which I was like,

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"Okay, period," like you have taste.

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Okay, good.

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Like we love that.

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And genuinely I was not planning on

doing the podium run, 'cause you guys

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know in- Spain 2024, I said I almost

died when I did it the first time, and

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I swore that I would never do it again,

and that truly was the plan, you guys.

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And I was hanging out with my girl

Natasha, and Natasha really wanted to

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do it, and I said, "Okay, like I'll

walk with you, um, and we can go to

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the area, like in front of the podium

where there's like a gate, and like

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I can stay there while you do it.

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Like you do you, girl, but I will not be

doing it again because I don't wanna die."

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And we were walking over there, and,

uh, you know, I forgot there was a

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fucking race going on apparently because

the way we were going, it was cut

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off, and that was the actual entrance.

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: 00:17:37

So I would have to walk all the way

around to get to the part that I wanted

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to go to, and I was like, "By this point,

I'm gonna miss the whole rest of the

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race, so I guess I'm just stuck here."

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: 00:17:47

So I'm freaking the fuck out

because I'm getting flashbacks.

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: 00:17:51

Again, you know we have you- we know

I have PTSD, so I got flashbacks

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: 00:17:57

from Spain 2024 of me almost dying,

and I'm freaking the hell out.

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: 00:18:01

And Natasha was trying to calm me down.

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: 00:18:03

She's like, "This is gonna be amazing.

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: 00:18:04

This is gonna be so fun."

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: 00:18:05

And I'm like, "Girl, I'm just

trying not to die again."

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: 00:18:07

Like I am literally sweating.

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: 00:18:09

I'm gonna shit my pants, I'm so nervous.

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: 00:18:11

And there's this good-looking guy Peter

behind me, and I saw him, but I paid

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: 00:18:16

no mind to him because again, again,

I'm, I'm freaking the fuck out here.

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: 00:18:20

And, you know, he's talking to his friend.

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His friend's name is Nick.

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: 00:18:23

And I'm freaking out to Natasha.

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: 00:18:27

Natasha's trying to calm me down, and

then the whole crowd goes, "Oh my God."

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: 00:18:32

And I think that's because Charles had

spun out, but again, I don't have my

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: 00:18:36

phone up where I'm watching so I don't

know what the hell is happening, right?

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: 00:18:39

And I'm like, "Oh my

God, like what happened?

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: 00:18:42

What happened?"

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: 00:18:42

And the guy, Peter, behind me

goes, "Oh, like, let me look.

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Like, let's see."

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: 00:18:46

And he's trying to pull up his

phone, and he, like that was his way

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: 00:18:50

to start talking to me genuinely,

like I gave that guy an in.

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: 00:18:53

And so He's trying to get the race on

his phone, and it's not working 'cause

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the signal in the Hard Rock sucks.

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: 00:19:00

And I pay no mind to him 'cause

he can't get the race up.

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: 00:19:03

So, um, Natasha's pulling it up on

her phone, and she magically gets it.

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And I don't think Peter liked that,

but like whatever, I don't really

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: 00:19:10

care about a man's ego, you know?

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: 00:19:12

Um, so whatever.

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: 00:19:14

That happens.

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: 00:19:15

We're talking at this point.

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: 00:19:17

I'm trying to distract my mind,

and then the guy goes, "Oh, by the

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: 00:19:20

way, is that, is that a Lando hat?"

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: 00:19:23

Now, if you guys saw my outfits the

entire Grand Prix weekend, you know I'm

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a walking billboard for Lando Norris.

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: 00:19:29

And especially on race day, I wear

every inch of clothing that has

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: 00:19:34

Lando's fucking name on it or number.

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: 00:19:37

I'm wearing the championship hat.

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: 00:19:39

I have all my friendship bracelets.

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: 00:19:41

I have my jersey dress on

that literally says Norris.

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: 00:19:44

I have my necklace on with his name on it.

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: 00:19:47

Like literally almost everything

on my body screams, "I'm a

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: 00:19:51

Lando Norris girl, okay?"

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: 00:19:53

Okay, like LN1, baby.

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: 00:19:56

And this guy goes, "Is that a Lando hat?"

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: 00:19:59

Dude, shut the fuck up.

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: 00:20:01

Like, what a lame-ass way to talk to me.

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: 00:20:03

But I go, "Yeah."

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: 00:20:05

Then I turn back to Natasha, and then

he starts, like, talking to me, asking

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: 00:20:11

me about how I got into F1 or how the

podium runs are and this and that.

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: 00:20:17

And when I say, "You know, yeah, I did

this in Spain," and then he's like, "Oh,

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: 00:20:20

like, how many races have you been to?"

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: 00:20:21

And I, I list, "Oh, Spain, Miami, Vegas.

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: 00:20:23

This is my second time in Miami."

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: 00:20:25

He's like, "Oh, you're,

like, an actual fan."

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: 00:20:27

Yes, Peter, I am an actual fan.

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: 00:20:30

Hello?

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: 00:20:30

And he goes, "So how did

you get into the sport?"

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: 00:20:32

And this, I knew he wasn't being,

like, an actual, like, one of those

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: 00:20:36

Chads that love to be like, "Well,

how did you get into the sport?

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: 00:20:39

Like, you're not a real fan.

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: 00:20:40

Blah, blah, blah."

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: 00:20:41

You know, like, the way he asked

it actually was genuine, so, like,

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: 00:20:43

I'm not gonna harp on him for that.

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: 00:20:45

He was like, "Oh, so like

how did you get into F1?

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: 00:20:46

Like, did your parents watch it

and you started getting into it?"

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: 00:20:50

And again, it was genuine, so

I gave a genuine answer back.

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: 00:20:53

I was very nice.

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: 00:20:54

I wasn't Man Hater Amanda,

okay, radiant icons?

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: 00:20:56

And I answered him back and I was like,

"Yeah, you know, like, I got laid off

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: 00:20:59

from my big girl job and, you know, I, I

needed something to, to put my attention

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: 00:21:04

to, and I just started watching Drive to

Survive, and I was hooked from there."

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: 00:21:08

And I started talking about it.

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: 00:21:10

I asked him about it, and we all started

talking, and then someone makes a comment

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: 00:21:16

about the race is finally over and what

the podium is, and then he goes, "Oh, you

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: 00:21:20

know, what, what a good podium, a good

podium result for Oscar and, and Kimi."

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: 00:21:25

And he purposely doesn't say Lando in

front of me because I'm a Lando fan.

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: 00:21:29

Like, dude, what...

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: 00:21:31

Again, a lame way, a lame

way to get my attention.

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: 00:21:35

Like, if you're gonna flirt with

me, don't shit on Lando Norris.

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: 00:21:40

And I know you weren't, like, shitting on

him, but, like, still, like, I don't know.

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: 00:21:43

Like, it was kinda...

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: 00:21:44

It was just, like, lame.

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: 00:21:45

Like, it was a lame move.

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: 00:21:46

Like, you're purposely not

gonna mention Lando because you

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: 00:21:48

know he's my favorite driver.

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: 00:21:50

Like, that, that's how you think

you're gonna get my attention?

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: 00:21:52

I mean, I definitely remembered it.

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: 00:21:54

Maybe that was his point.

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: 00:21:55

I don't know.

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: 00:21:55

I don't understand men, as we all know.

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: 00:21:57

Clearly from my history here at Dare

To Be Iconic, I don't understand men.

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: 00:22:01

That's okay with me.

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: 00:22:02

But anyway, so he says that.

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: 00:22:03

I'm like, "Uh-huh, yeah."

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: 00:22:05

And his friend I guess didn't

understand what hi- like, Peter

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: 00:22:08

was trying to do with that, and he

goes, "Well, isn't she a Lando fan?"

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: 00:22:11

And his friend looked at him.

403

: 00:22:12

I thought that was funny as shit.

404

: 00:22:13

And then we started talking, and then I...

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: 00:22:16

What did I d- I don't know if he had

complimented my eyes before I gave him

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: 00:22:22

my business card or if it was after.

407

: 00:22:25

Oh, I think it was after,

because then he was like, "Oh,

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: 00:22:28

like, what do you do for work?"

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: 00:22:29

And so of course I did a little

shameless self plug of DTBI, and I

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: 00:22:34

take out my business card, 'cause of

course I had my business cards with me.

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: 00:22:39

And I go, "Here."

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: 00:22:40

This is like, "Here's my business card.

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: 00:22:42

Like, I'm sure there's a woman in your

life who probably needs my services."

414

: 00:22:46

He takes my business card and he's

like, "Oh, that's so cool," like, "La,

415

: 00:22:49

la, la," 'cause I had explained what

Dare To Be Iconic is, puts it in his

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: 00:22:52

wallet, and then he goes, "Oh, by the

way, your eyes are really pretty."

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: 00:22:55

And I go, "Oh, thank you so much."

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: 00:23:01

Natasha

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: 00:23:03

literally, Natasha's face was so

fucking funny when he said that shit.

420

: 00:23:06

Like, I was dying.

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: 00:23:08

And then, you know, it was time to, to

do our podium run, and he goes, "Well,

422

: 00:23:13

I wish you guys the best of luck."

423

: 00:23:15

And when you look at that video, I swear

to God, he was jogging right next to me.

424

: 00:23:18

Like, he was making sure I didn't

die, which was, like, kinda hot.

425

: 00:23:21

But he didn't ask for my Instagram,

and he never followed me on Dare

426

: 00:23:25

To Be Iconic, because I gave him my

business card that has my Instagram.

427

: 00:23:28

So, like, Peter from Delray, if

you're listening to this podcast,

428

: 00:23:33

what the fuck are you doing, dude?

429

: 00:23:34

Um, yeah, I guess that

was the only track cutie.

430

: 00:23:39

That was interesting.

431

: 00:23:40

Like, that was just funny.

432

: 00:23:40

I don't know, I haven't flirted

with a guy in so long that I, I

433

: 00:23:43

was like, "Is he flirting with me?

434

: 00:23:46

He's definitely flirting with me.

435

: 00:23:47

Oh, wow, this is his move?"

436

: 00:23:48

Like, I was kinda like, a little

like, "Holy shit," like, "Is

437

: 00:23:52

this what we're dealing with?

438

: 00:23:53

Okay."

439

: 00:23:54

Like, "Okay.

440

: 00:23:56

Okay."

441

: 00:23:56

Yeah, so nice little

rollercoaster of emotions.

442

: 00:23:59

I mean, he was very attractive.

443

: 00:24:00

He was good-looking and very nice eyes.

444

: 00:24:03

Um, and he had somewhat an idea of

what Formula 1 was, clearly, um,

445

: 00:24:09

which is, you know, that's attractive.

446

: 00:24:10

That is attractive.

447

: 00:24:11

I like a man that knows F1.

448

: 00:24:13

If you can talk to me

about F1, you get an in.

449

: 00:24:16

Like, you get a point, okay?

450

: 00:24:17

You still have 99 more points

to make, but you get a point.

451

: 00:24:21

Um, and yeah, he just didn't ask

for my Instagram, so he did lose,

452

: 00:24:26

he did lose a lot of points for

that, because what are you doing?

453

: 00:24:29

I'm so hot.

454

: 00:24:30

Like, duh.

455

: 00:24:31

But anyway, yeah.

456

: 00:24:34

Let's get to the next question,

shall we, before I dig myself

457

: 00:24:36

into a deeper hole, radiant icons.

458

: 00:24:39

Oh.

459

: 00:24:40

Oh, this is deep.

460

: 00:24:41

What a, what a drastic change-

we're laughing, and then we're

461

: 00:24:44

gonna cry, because I know this

question is gonna make me emotional.

462

: 00:24:47

What's something Miami healed in you

that you didn't realize still hurt?

463

: 00:24:53

Miami definitely healed- This

fear that I had, which was

464

: 00:25:01

I thought I lost my sparkle.

465

: 00:25:04

And I guess before Miami, I

never really allowed myself to

466

: 00:25:09

come to terms with that fear.

467

: 00:25:11

I kinda just let it circulate in the

very back of my head and, like, push

468

: 00:25:15

it deep, deep down because there were

so many other emotions and feelings

469

: 00:25:19

that I've been really trying to

navigate and work through that that

470

: 00:25:23

fear kinda was put on the back burner.

471

: 00:25:25

And when I went to Miami this year,

it just kept on coming up at the

472

: 00:25:30

forefront of my brain at moments.

473

: 00:25:33

And in particular, I always think

back on Thursday when Emmy and I were

474

: 00:25:38

driving to my aunt's house from the Audi

Activation, and I just remember we were

475

: 00:25:43

chatting in the car, and me being me,

I got emotional, and I started crying,

476

: 00:25:51

and I really came to terms that I'm so

scared that what happened to me last

477

: 00:25:55

summer made me lose my sparkle, and

that it made me lose my joy because I

478

: 00:26:01

feel like I'm not the same Amanda that I

was since what happened to me happened.

479

: 00:26:07

And, you know, I didn't really anticipate

me getting emotional and, like, talking

480

: 00:26:11

about it because it's something that

I have pushed so far back that I just

481

: 00:26:16

was kind of embarrassed to talk about.

482

: 00:26:19

But the truth is, every time you are

violated, a part of you changes forever.

483

: 00:26:26

And I think that is something

that I am slowly but surely coming

484

: 00:26:34

to terms with and accepting that

these bad things did happen to me.

485

: 00:26:39

And the more I accept it and live

in my truth, the less intense

486

: 00:26:46

these images or flashbacks will

come, or these emotions will be.

487

: 00:26:51

And I just have to

accept and own my truth.

488

: 00:26:54

And in that conversation, it really

opened my eyes to how much I kinda

489

: 00:27:01

just pushed that fear to the back

burner and just let it linger.

490

: 00:27:05

And honestly, I started to believe it.

491

: 00:27:08

And in that moment, when I realized

what was happening, I kinda just

492

: 00:27:14

decided that I needed to accept

my full truth and be in it.

493

: 00:27:17

And that's why last week, when I

spoke about there was something

494

: 00:27:20

so freeing about owning every

part of you, the trauma and all.

495

: 00:27:26

There is something so freeing about it.

496

: 00:27:28

And once I started accepting that that

is not my truth, I did not lose my

497

: 00:27:35

sparkle because of what happened to me.

498

: 00:27:38

In fact, I shine even brighter

because that is how I choose

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: 00:27:43

to show up in the world.

500

: 00:27:46

I am accepting everything that has

happened to me, good and bad, and I

501

: 00:27:52

choose to shine brighter because of it.

502

: 00:27:56

Because of what I have experienced

and what I have been through,

503

: 00:27:59

I am the icon I am today.

504

: 00:28:02

I am the icon that I am in that very

moment crying to Emmy about this

505

: 00:28:08

horrible thing that has happened to me.

506

: 00:28:11

But I am choosing to not let it define me.

507

: 00:28:14

And in that moment, that's kind of

what I let lead and guide me throughout

508

: 00:28:20

the entire rest of the weekend.

509

: 00:28:22

And that's what Miami did for me, is

it healed that part of me that still

510

: 00:28:27

hurts so deep that I didn't realize it.

511

: 00:28:29

What moment made you realize how much

you've grown since your first Miami GP?

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: 00:28:35

The moment I think of is actually a

conversation that I had with my good

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: 00:28:38

friend Natasha, and it was our first

full-time hanging out, because we got to

514

: 00:28:42

meet Wednesday at the show run, but that

was very, very quick, very, very short.

515

: 00:28:47

But this day, Friday, we really

had so much time together.

516

: 00:28:52

So it was our first time fully, fully

hanging out, and we were walking up this

517

: 00:28:57

very steep ramp in the Hard Rock Stadium.

518

: 00:29:01

And Natasha had just turned to me and

she said that she was really sorry

519

: 00:29:06

for what I had gone through, and she's

talking about the dating violence

520

: 00:29:10

relationship that I've, you know, been

very public about sharing my journey

521

: 00:29:14

of healing from it and, you know,

all that stuff that comes with it.

522

: 00:29:19

She turned to me and she said that

she was really sorry for everything

523

: 00:29:23

that I have gone through, and she

was specifically referencing my

524

: 00:29:26

dating violence relationship And that

conversation and what we spoke about

525

: 00:29:32

in that conversation really was the

moment for me where I realized how

526

: 00:29:36

much I have grown since last Miami GP.

527

: 00:29:39

Because when I think of last Miami GP,

I had just disclosed to someone that

528

: 00:29:44

I trusted in a relationship about that

particular dating violence relationship.

529

: 00:29:52

And I remember when I told that specific

person about my experience, um, I

530

: 00:29:59

had said that I would never tell my

parents and that I would never tell

531

: 00:30:03

the world and I was in such denial.

532

: 00:30:07

I was in such denial of the

abuse and violation that I've

533

: 00:30:12

experienced in my life last Miami GP.

534

: 00:30:17

Like, that version of Amanda

535

: 00:30:22

was so, quote unquote, "happy",

but she wasn't really processing

536

: 00:30:27

or dealing with the abuse and

violation that she's experienced.

537

: 00:30:34

Like, she was so closed off.

538

: 00:30:35

She was so carried in shame.

539

: 00:30:37

She was so carried in anger and

embarrassment and guilt and all these

540

: 00:30:43

other emotions that I know I've spoken

about on this podcast so many times.

541

: 00:30:47

But, you know, last Miami GP, I

swore that I would never tell a soul.

542

: 00:30:54

I swore that I would never tell anyone

and that it was just gonna be something

543

: 00:30:59

that I deal with but not deal with, quote

unquote, because the thought of talking

544

: 00:31:03

to a therapist and telling my parents

about the worst things that ever happened

545

: 00:31:07

to me and, like, telling the world was,

like, the scariest thing in my life.

546

: 00:31:13

And now, a year later,

547

: 00:31:18

i'm, like, finally free.

548

: 00:31:23

Like, piggyback off of last week's

episode, you know, um, there is

549

: 00:31:29

a certain beauty with owning-

Your truth, trauma and all.

550

: 00:31:34

There, there is so much beauty

in being seen for who you are.

551

: 00:31:37

Like, all your cards are on the table.

552

: 00:31:39

Everything that has

happened to me is out there.

553

: 00:31:42

It's out there with the people I love.

554

: 00:31:44

It's out there publicly,

and that's by my choice.

555

: 00:31:48

I never thought that I would have

the courage and be strong enough to

556

: 00:31:54

make this choice of wanting to be

an advocate and to heal out loud and

557

: 00:31:59

to provide education and awareness.

558

: 00:32:02

I never ever thought that I

would be at this part in my

559

: 00:32:07

healing journey just a year ago.

560

: 00:32:10

Like, that's so insane, you guys.

561

: 00:32:15

And I'm crying because I'm just so proud

of myself because I never ever thought...

562

: 00:32:19

Like, I truly did think I was just

gonna be in denial, and this was

563

: 00:32:22

just gonna be something that I carry

as a secret my whole entire life.

564

: 00:32:26

But there really is something so

freeing about being all in my truth

565

: 00:32:30

and accepting the trauma and all.

566

: 00:32:32

And I know it's really,

really hard to navigate.

567

: 00:32:36

Like, this really has been one of the most

difficult chapters of my life to navigate.

568

: 00:32:40

But you know what?

569

: 00:32:41

Healing has so many layers,

and it has so many levels.

570

: 00:32:44

And, you know, you just have to

cut through one layer to get to the

571

: 00:32:47

next, and I'm doing that each day.

572

: 00:32:50

Each day that I decide and choose

to shine brighter than ever before,

573

: 00:32:56

I'm just cutting through the shit.

574

: 00:32:58

I'm cutting through it, and I'm

getting shinier and sparklier

575

: 00:33:02

and just more fucking iconic.

576

: 00:33:07

And it's just really beautiful

to see that growth within me.

577

: 00:33:11

And so that's the moment that I realized,

damn, I've really grown so much,

578

: 00:33:20

and I'm really happy about that.

579

: 00:33:22

Okay, last question, radiant icons.

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: 00:33:25

If Miami 2.0

581

: 00:33:26

had a final message for

you, what would it be?

582

: 00:33:30

Oh, Miami 2.0

583

: 00:33:32

had so many messages, but I think if

it was one final message, it would be,

584

: 00:33:40

it would be that you are not broken

and that no one can steal your joy.

585

: 00:33:46

Because you can and will continue to make

more joy in the world and in your life.

586

: 00:33:53

I think that's the

message it would give me.

587

: 00:33:56

Welcome to the Fashionably Single podcast,

where single life meets real talk.

588

: 00:34:00

Hosted by Hannah.

589

: 00:34:01

This guy is sitting next to me, and

this was, like, a no-shoe kinda house,

590

: 00:34:04

so he had to take his shoes off.

591

: 00:34:06

We were playing cards, drinking,

and then all of a sudden, he

592

: 00:34:09

starts rubbing his foot on my leg.

593

: 00:34:12

And her co-host, Jessica.

594

: 00:34:13

So he leaves me at the table.

595

: 00:34:15

He gets his food.

596

: 00:34:15

He goes back to his car.

597

: 00:34:16

I'm thinking he's

dipping out on this date.

598

: 00:34:18

I just told him I don't want to marry

him, and I won't let him kill me, so.

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Two millennials in Austin, Texas,

navigating dating, independence,

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and becoming your best self

with confidence and style.

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Amanda Paolicelli: All right,

radiant icons, that is your

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tea time sesh for today.

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I hope you enjoyed today's episode.

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If you did, make sure to subscribe, to

leave a rating, a review, to tell your

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friends about us, to tell everyone and

anyone because you know we love what?

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: 00:34:44

More radiant icons in our

iconic community of ours.

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But honestly, radiant icons,

I love you guys so damn much.

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Thank you for sending in your questions.

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Thank you for listening.

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Thank you for being here.

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Genuinely, I love you guys so damn much.

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I know I've said that a couple of times

during this episode, but I just love you

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guys and I have to share my love, okay?

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I just, I just have to, okay?

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We're iconic.

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We're iconic like that, radiant icons.

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But let's talk about next week real quick.

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Next week we are spilling the tea on a

very big life change for me and Dare To Be

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Iconic and yeah, that's all I'm gonna say.

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So I guess you're just gonna have to

tune in next week to see what it is.

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Oh, but anywho, radiant icons, I'll

just chat with y'all next week.

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Remember, dare to be iconic.

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Bye.