How To Be An Icon (Re-Run)

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Amanda Paolicelli:

What's up, radiant icons?

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And welcome back to Dare to be

Iconic, the podcast made for

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icons daring to be themselves.

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I'm your host, Amanda Paolicelli,

and I'm so excited you're here today.

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But before we get into it, I dare

you to go to daretobeiconic.com

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to join our radiant icon community.

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And check out my Amazon storefront

linked in the show notes to check

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out my journal, Break Up With The

Past, Fall In Love With The Future.

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Now, I will die on the hill that

this is the year of the icon.

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So how can you be an icon?

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And what does the word iconic even mean?

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Are you ready for your tea

time sesh, radiant icons?

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Now let's get into the tea.

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Let's start off with what

the word iconic means.

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Now, in this context for Dare to

be Iconic, right, it's all about

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your own unique version of iconic

and daring to be yourself and being

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comfortable and confident in your skin.

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So when I say the word iconic, I

genuinely mean living authentically

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and true to you, and stumbling boldly.

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So how can you be an icon?

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You need to be okay with being imperfectly

iconic, so embracing your imperfections.

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And I know we all don't like that.

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Like literally owning up what

scares us and what we aren't,

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like, perfect in is one of the most

terrifying things anyone can do.

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But you know what?

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Dare to be Iconic all started for me to

share my story in hopes that it resonates

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with one of you radiant icons so that you

can dare to be iconic in your daily lives.

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So let's talk about how I struggle

with imperfection and how it really

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inspired this whole Dare to be Iconic

mindset and made me the icon I am today.

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My whole life, I've been a perfectionist.

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I have struggled with the concept

of being perfect and having to

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adhere to these standards ever since

I was, like, little baby Amanda.

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And a recent example would be when I

was filming my first podcast episode.

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So it was honestly early this week, and

I was just so hard on myself because it

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wasn't coming out the way I wanted it to.

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It wasn't coming out perfectly, and I had

this idea in my mind of what it should be.

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Like, it should be like all the other

self-improvement podcasts out there.

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It needed to be X, Y, and Z way.

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No.

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The, the whole point of Dare to be

Iconic, right, is to be iconic in

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my own unique way, and my version

of iconic isn't the same as everyone

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else in the market, and that is okay.

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So the way I'm gonna approach this

podcast is gonna be completely

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different than so-and-so.

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But I need to be okay with that

and normalize that just because

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it isn't the way that someone else

is doing it doesn't mean it's not-

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Perfect, in quotation marks, to me.

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So I just need to

embrace my imperfections.

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And I was really, really down on myself.

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After I had finished recording, I

was in such a depressing, messy mood.

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And my friend Danny would be so happy

that I said that, so shout out Danny.

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Um, but I was just like, "I should quit.

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I'm a failure.

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This is gonna suck.

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No one's gonna listen to me."

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And you know what?

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If this isn't their cup of

tea, that's okay, because I'm

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being authentic to myself.

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The way for me to be authentic to myself

is to just talk to the camera right

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here in my bedroom on this mic like

I'm talking to one of my best friends.

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Because that is the whole point

of Dare to be Iconic, is being

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authentic to me, and that's how I

shine and thrive in my iconic-ness.

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Let's talk about how to

embrace imperfection.

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So how can you be imperfectly iconic?

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This is a hard one for me specifically,

because I suck at giving myself grace.

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I suck at being kind to myself.

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I don't like admitting when I've failed.

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I don't like to admit that I'm

imperfect, but we all are, you know?

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So it shouldn't be something that

I'm ashamed of or embarrassed by,

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but I always get in my head about it.

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One way that we can be imperfectly

iconic and be the icons we are is

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by embracing our imperfections and

by being kinder to ourselves and

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giving ourselves grace and accepting

that we will fail, and that's okay.

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Think of imperfections

as a painting, okay?

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So every unsuspected stroke or

splatter makes up this beautiful,

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messy canvas that is our lives.

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Our lives shouldn't be perfect,

because life is imperfect.

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And that's okay to embrace

those imperfections, because

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that's what makes us iconic.

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That's what makes us unique and

beautiful and the icons that we are.

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So how do we get over that

hurdle of being imperfect?

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We have to own them and say them out loud.

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So I'm going to own my

imperfections right now.

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Now, my therapist would

say I'm a queen at this.

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I love to create unnecessary

chaos for myself.

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I love it.

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And as many times as my therapist

tells me, "Stop creating chaos

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for yourself," I will continue to

create unnecessary chaos in my life.

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That's just always gonna happen.

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I will overthink certain situations

and play them multiple times in my head

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because I just want them to be what?

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Perfect.

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Yes.

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So I create this unnecessary

chaos in my life that I do

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not need, but I do it anyway.

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So I need to start giving myself

grace when I do it and start

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recognizing those patterns.

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And I am getting better at

it, but it is a struggle, so

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that's an imperfection of mine.

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Another one would be right after

the breakup, I carried the shame

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that we talked about in episode one.

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Like, I was just letting this

narrative that my ex wrote of me

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dictate and define my entire narrative

and how I perceived myself and

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how I moved and went about life.

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I should have been kinder to myself.

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This was the first time I

was getting my heart broken.

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That is going to hurt, and I'm

not always gonna get it right.

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I was in this transitional period,

and I wasn't giving myself the

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grace and kindness that I deserve.

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I needed to do that.

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And another one that I can think of is

honestly right now with the podcast.

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This is something that I have dreamed

of for two years now, and it's

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finally coming to fruition, and that

is, like, the most exciting thing

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I've ever done so far in my life.

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That this dream is actually coming

true, and I'm, I'm creating and

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I'm making it happen, but I'm

not always gonna get it right.

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There is a learning curve with

anything new that you start, and

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you're not always gonna be perfect.

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I'm a CEO for the first time

in my life of my own company.

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I'm not always gonna get

it right, and that is okay.

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I have to accept that sometimes I'm

gonna fail, that sometimes it's not

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gonna go the way that I want it to.

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But it's happening the way it should.

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So in turn of that, I need to

trust my path like I trust an Uber.

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And I know that's a lot easier

said than done because trust is my

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word for 2024, and we are, we are

going through it right now, y'all.

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But we can talk about that later.

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But we need to start trusting

our path, and that's within

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embracing the imperfections

and being imperfectly iconic.

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That's how you be an icon.

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You need to stumble boldly, live

authentically, and dare to be iconic.

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Dare to be your own

unique version of iconic.

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Honestly, just appreciate the

beauty in the unexpected moments.

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We have to keep trusting this

beautiful painting that we're creating.

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Even if the strokes and the splatters

don't make sense at that particular

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moment, that is okay, because

everything is happening for a reason.

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So embrace it and trust the process.

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Trust that path like it is an Uber.

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I dare you to write out your

imperfections, cross them out, and

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accompany the lesson that goes with it.

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And for more, check out my

journal, Break Up With The Past,

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Fall In Love With The Future.

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All right, radiant icon, now that

we know how we can be an icon, next

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week we're diving into that dare to

be iconic mindset, the mindset where

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you can create the dream life that

you've always wanted for yourself,

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how you can step into your power, and

how you can be the icon that you are.

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If you liked today's episode, make

sure to leave a review, share it

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with your friends, and remember,

radiant icons, dare to be iconic.

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I'll see you next time.

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Bye.

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