From Insecure to Iconic: Building Confidence That Lasts

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What's up, radiant icons and welcome back to

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Dare to Be Iconic, the podcast made

for icons daring to be themselves.

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I'm your host Amanda Paolicelli and for

today's Tea Time sesh, we are giving a

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sneak peek into Dare To Be Iconic's second

ever masterclass, Daring To Be Confident,

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that is on April 19th at 1:00 PM Eastern.

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You can secure your tickets

on Dare to Be iconic.com

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under the empowerment Events section.

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But in today's tea time session

not only am I giving you a little

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bit of a teaser of what to expect

in that live masterclass, but

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I'm also going to be spilling the

tea on my why behind this class.

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Why did I choose to create this

curriculum, to create this class

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and share it with you guys.

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And confidence obviously is the core

of Dare To Be iconic because when I say

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dare to be iconic, I mean dare to be you.

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There is nothing more powerful in

this world than daring to be yourself.

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And that all stems from being so

comfortable and confident in your skin.

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So let's get to it, radiant

icons, are you ready?

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Because your tea time

sesh is starting now.

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Now the Daring to Be Confident

Masterclass is a 90 minute live

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interactive virtual masterclass.

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So you can join from anywhere in the

world and tune in, and I will be guiding

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you with tools, exercises, and strategies

that I've personally used in my life.

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It's basically the ultimate

confidence playbook.

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I'll be answering your questions live

throughout the whole entire thing.

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Plus some dare to be iconic

announcements and a special giveaway

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for two lucky Radiant icons who

attend the live masterclass.

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I think the really cool thing about

the Daring to Be Confident Masterclass

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is that it's actually an extension

of the 30 day social media challenge,

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daring to be confident, that we did

last February on Valentine's Day.

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And I think what's really cool about

that particular challenge and now this

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masterclass is that it was inspired by a

really low point in my life and I'm able

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to turn that pain into power and that

specific pain was my journey with eczema.

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I know I've mentioned it briefly on

the podcast before and I know I've

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been a little bit more vocal about

it on social media, but the daring

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to be confident 30 day social media

challenge all came to be because of how

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low my self-esteem and mental health

was because of my eczema flareup.

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I've struggled with eczema my entire

life, and I hadn't had a flareup in

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about seven years, and it wasn't until

I had turned 25 around my birthday where

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my legs, and that's where I get eczema.

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Like the worst for me is like my legs

and like the inside of my elbows.

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Um.

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It just started to flare up and then it

spread to my chest and to my face, and

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I've never experienced that before in

my life, especially because my eczema

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was dormant for seven years of my life.

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And I just remember calling all of my

girlfriends and just feeling so so broken

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because my self-esteem was so extremely

low and I was fighting this constant

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battle of not recognizing my skin in the

mirror and just wanting to feel pretty,

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just wanting to feel beautiful again.

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Just wanting to feel like myself because I

wasn't recognizing the body that I was in.

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And that's what I think a lot of people

don't talk about when you struggle

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with, you know, with your skin.

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When it comes to eczema, there's not

a lot of people out there that talk

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about it and vocalize how detrimental

it can be for your mental health.

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And I just felt so incredibly alone.

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Oh, already crying.

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Okay.

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But I just felt so incredibly alone

on this journey because I would look

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on social media and I would see all

these girls with like perfect skin,

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and like my skin was attacking me

and I didn't recognize who I was and

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that really messed me up mentally.

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I was at the lowest low, like even lower

than when I got out of my breakup, and I

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was so frustrated with myself on top of

that because I was like, I did all this

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work to help my mindset and I still am

reverting back to I'm not pretty enough.

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I'm not enough because

my skin to me looks ugly.

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I am ugly automatically by association

because I didn't recognize what

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I was seeing in the mirror.

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And

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I remember being on the phone call with

Deandra, one of my really good friends,

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and she was just being there for me and

telling me that you're not alone in this.

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Like we all go through our

own personal struggles with

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confidence and with our body.

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Like there's always something

that we're insecure about.

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It was in that moment on that phone

call when I realized, you know what?

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We really are going on

this journey together.

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Because the more friends that I opened

up to about how I felt regarding my

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confidence and my eczema, they opened

up to me in return about how they were

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feeling about certain things in their

life that you know, were an insecurity

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of theirs that they were battling with

and how it affected their confidence.

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I felt less alone because I

could relate to them on some

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level of, "I don't feel my best."

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"I'm really struggling here.

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"And so I created the 30 day Daring to

be Confident Social Media Challenge.

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And when I saw the results from all

lovely, radiant icons who participated

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in that challenge, I was like,

there is something here, there is

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something so magical about this.

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How can we extend it to be even

bigger than just a challenge.

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Let's create momentum.

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So I created The Daring to

Be Confident Masterclass.

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Now, let's get to the sneak

peek of what to expect.

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So the first step in radiating

confidence is understanding

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confidence, but understanding what

it means to you because we all have

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different definitions of confidence.

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But all that matters for you to radiate

it like never before is to understand

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your own personal definition of it,

because confidence infiltrates every

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other aspect of our lives, so we

need to know what it means to us.

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My personal definition of confidence comes

from this unwavering belief in yourself,

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even when the world tries to shake you,

because it will and it will try to shake

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you so many times, but you have to have

this unwavering belief in yourself.

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And for me, if that's my

personal definition, I.

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Then I've always been confident,

'cause I've always had this

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underlining belief in who I am.

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Even when shit hits the fan,

I still believe in myself.

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So that's my definition of

confidence and that's how I can

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radiate it from the inside out

because I believe in that for me.

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And I allow that definition to

lead me into every area of my life,

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into every relationship in my life.

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'cause that's how I show up as my

most confident, most boldest self.

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So when it comes to understanding

what confidence means to

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me, challenge yourself.

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Look within and see, okay.

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What is my definition of confidence

and how can I apply that to

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multiple areas of my life?

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How can I lead with that

definition in my life?

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And when it comes to defining

right, what confidence means to me,

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sometimes it's not that easy to get

to the nitty gritty of it, right?

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Confidence is a tricky thing, and when

it comes to deciding on that definition

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of confidence that is so personal to you,

I challenge you to think of what was a

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time where you felt most confident and

what contributed to that moment . And a

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moment where I felt the most confident

recently would be the Spanish Grand Prix.

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At the Spanish Grand Prix, I was fully

embracing the experience for what it

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is, and I was making connections and I.

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I was embracing who I was.

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I was daring to be myself.

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I was literally living out the

definition of dare to be iconic.

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That made me feel the most

confident because I wasn't trying

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to be someone that I was not.

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I was fully showing up into every

room, to every event as myself, myself.

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And it kept showing me that when

you lean into who you are, and when

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I lead with this confidence, having

this unwavering belief in myself,

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magic is going to happen for me.

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And what contributed to that moment

for me to feel so confident in myself?

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Well, it was preparation, it

was passion and it was trusting

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that I belonged in these spaces.

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So now that we have chosen our personal

definition of confidence, and a moment

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where we let confidence lead us, it's

now time to think of the external factors

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that shape our opinion about confidence.

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And here's the thing, like I mentioned in

my reasoning as to why I, I started the

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daring to be confident concept, right?

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Whether it was that challenge or

now the masterclass, it all was how

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these external factors for me, social

media, affected the way I saw myself,

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how it affected my self-esteem,

how it affected my self-confidence.

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Because for me, I lived in a world

where my feed was all of perfect.

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People, always looking perfect, having

perfect bodies, having perfect skin,

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having everything that was perfect.

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And when I looked in the mirror

and I saw my eczema flare up, that

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was red and scratchy and bright

and bold that you draw attention to

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no matter where you were looking.

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I wasn't perfect, but what I realized

is that my insecurity does not

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define me, and confidence doesn't

mean not having insecurities.

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We're human, we're all

going to have insecurities.

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But it's about showing up

despite of your insecurities.

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So every day, that personal definition

of confidence that I have for myself,

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which is having this unwavering

belief in myself, no matter how much

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the world wants to shake me, right?

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And in that instance, eczema

was trying to shake me, right?

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Eczema was my insecurity that

was having its choke hold on

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me affecting my confidence.

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It doesn't mean that's

not an insecurity of mine.

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My eczema will always, always,

always be an insecurity of mine

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that will never go away, but it's

how I decide to show up despite my

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insecurities, despite my eczema.

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How do I show up?

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How do I decide to be confident in that

moment when I don't feel like an icon,

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when I don't feel like a bad bitch?

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How do I show up for myself?

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How do I lead with confidence?

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So let's break it down.

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My external factor was social media

and seeing perfect people with perfect

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bodies and perfect skin that fed

into what I thought confidence was.

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It wasn't until I broke down that

concept of confidence for me and decided

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on my personal definition, and then

went to a moment where I felt the most

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confident, where I felt my most boldest,

most iconic self, where I truly did

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radiate confidence like never before.

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Okay.

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How are they intertwined?

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It was because no matter how much

my eczema was flaring up in the

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Spanish heat, I never let it define

me while I was at the Spanish

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Grand Prix, I showed up as myself.

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I didn't let eczema define me.

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I didn't let it shake me.

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I showed up in every

room, every day as myself.

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I led with confidence.

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I led with this unwavering

belief in myself.

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I didn't let those external factors, I

didn't let my insecurities dictate how

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I was gonna show up, and that's what

you need to decide in this next step.

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What is your confidence block

and how can you overcome it?

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And if you loved all of this,

this is just the beginning of

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the ultimate confidence playbook.

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So make sure to secure your spot for

April 19th at 1:00 PM Eastern for my

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next masterclass, daring to be confident.

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You can secure your spot in the show

notes below at dare to be iconic.com

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under the Empowerment Events section.

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All right, radiant icons.

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That is your tea time session for today.

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If you enjoy today's episode and a

little sneak peek of what to expect

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in Daring To Be Confident Masterclass,

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But honestly you guys, thank you so

much for listening and being here

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and all the great stuff that you

do for me and dare to be iconic.

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I love you guys so much.

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Anyway, I'll talk to you guys next week.

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Remember, radiant icons,

dare to be iconic.

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Bye.