Cutting Room Floor: Unfiltered with Becs- Dating, Healing, & Sexuality

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What's up, Radiant Icons and welcome back to

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Dare to Be Iconic, the podcast made

for Icons daring to be themselves.

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I'm your host, Amanda Paolicelli,

and for today's Tea Time sesh.

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Well, I'm shaking things up a bit.

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I know I said last week we're gonna spill

the tea about red flags, green flags,

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and those beige icks and we will get

to that next week, but for today's tea

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time sesh, I'm being so honest with you.

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I have just gotten back from

New York City and I am exhausted

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and I have seen the overwhelming

response to Bec's episode last week.

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Yes.

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We talked about dating,

we talked about healing.

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We talked about sexuality

last week and well, that tea

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time sesh, you guys loved it.

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You guys ate it up.

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I mean, as you should.

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It was a great tea time ses, if

I say so myself, but any who?

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Anyway, I decided to share a

cutting room floor exclusive with

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you all for today's tea Time sesh.

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But before we get into that, make

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It's at @amandapaolicelli_

and @daretobeiconic_.

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you already know what I'm gonna say.

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It's Amanda Paolicelli.

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linked in the show notes below.

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All right, radiant icons.

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We have gone through

the DTBI housekeeping.

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Let's get to the good stuff, shall we?

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Let's get to that exclusive cutting room

floor footage with Becks from last week.

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Okay.

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Okay.

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Because you know we love exclusives here

at Dare to be Iconic, and we'll, you

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ask, you will receive Radiance icons.

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Are you ready?

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Because your tee time

sesh is starting now.

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Becs: And in this new chapter of my life

as I am, you know, starting to go out on

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dates again, that's like kind of crazy.

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It's been a while since I did that.

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Um, but what I'm, what I'm looking

for is so drastically different.

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And I, I was telling you all about

this last night as I was getting

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ready, I was like, I'm so nervous.

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I'm so nervous, I'm so nervous.

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Um, but on the drive there, I just

kept reassuring myself and I was like,

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I'm just gonna show up and I'm gonna

be a hundred percent Becs, and if that

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chases this guy away, good riddance.

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Like, that's completely fine.

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I don't need that.

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Um, and I do genuinely think

that the date went pretty well.

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Um, I was a hundred percent myself.

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Did not scare him away.

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And,

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you know, it, it was just kind of like a.

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A positive sign from the universe that

like everything I'm doing right now

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is, is the right thing to be doing.

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Um, but yeah, I went out,

we went to a club together.

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He likes to go out and have fun.

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Amanda Paolicelli: What a strange concept.

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Going out to have fun with

your, with your partner.

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Wow.

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Wow.

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So, so strange.

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So weird,

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Becs: right?

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Going out, doing

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something

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fun like.

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Like dancing at a club.

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I don't know.

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Um, but we went out to a club.

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There was like a nice spot outside

where we could like talk and um, you

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know, we were just kind of getting

to know each other a little bit.

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And one of the, the main things he, first

off, he listened to me talk forever.

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I just started like rambling and I kept

being like, uh, oh my gosh, I'm so sorry.

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Like, I feel like I've been

talking about myself forever.

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Like, like please like, you

know, share anything that, that

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you wanna share or whatever.

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And one of the things, sorry, I

feel like I've been talking forever.

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Like, you know, tell me about yourself.

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He goes, I could listen forever.

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And I was like, oh.

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Amanda Paolicelli: No, because let me tell

you, on my first date with my boyfriend,

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I felt like I was talking the entire time.

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And you know, I love t Yap.

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I mean, that's why I have a mic and

headphones, that's why I have a podcast.

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But I literally was like, oh my God.

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I like, I'm so sorry.

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I feel like I've spoken about myself.

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So tell me about yourself.

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And he goes, no, I'd

rather just listen to you.

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And at first I was like,

wait, you need to talk too.

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Like, hello.

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But I, now I realize, I'm

like, oh wait, he actually just

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wants to hear my perspective.

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He wants to listen to me.

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That's not bad.

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Actually.

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I'd rather have someone who's listening

to me than someone who's going to talk

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over me and not let me finish my thought.

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Like, right,

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Becs: right.

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Like.

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This conversation is,

is gonna be two sided.

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You're gonna let me share a whole

bunch of like stories, and you're

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gonna listen all the way to the end.

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Not only are you going to listen all

the way to the end, you're then going

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to add on to them in the moment and

then bring them up later in the night.

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Amanda Paolicelli: And then show me that

you actually truly did listen to me.

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Yeah,

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Becs: yeah.

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When the moment arises to like

bring it back up later or like

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bring it full circle like you will.

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Insane.

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Insane.

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No,

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Amanda Paolicelli: it's literally insane.

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And I think it is so attractive when

a man actually shows you with his

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actions that he does listen to you.

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That he is observant, that he, he does

actually take everything in and digest

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it and like chooses to remember it.

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Like, that is attractive.

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Like that is attractive.

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And that is what we need.

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That is what we need.

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Becs: Exactly.

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Like just for example, I mentioned to

the, the guy last night, like at the,

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the beginning of the date, I think like

briefly, I was like, oh yeah, tomorrow,

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like, I'm going on my friend's podcast.

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Um, I'm super excited.

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Like it's, it's my second

time that I'm doing it.

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Um, and then he messaged me today

and he was like, oh, what time are

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you doing the, the podcast again?

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Like, um, I know that you said

you were doing that today and I

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was like, and you were remembered.

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Like, and you remember,

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Amanda Paolicelli: I literally love

that for you because I think it's the

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most amazing feeling when a guy shows

you that he actually cares about you

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and actually listens to you, and I know

when my boyfriend and I were in the

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talking stage, my masterclass daring

to be confident was coming out right.

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And it was the, the day I was teaching the

class, and I had obviously like talked his

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ear off about it the whole entire week.

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And so when it came to the day of the

class, right, he was like, good morning.

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Like it's masterclass day.

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Like I'm so excited for you.

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I can't wait to hear all about it.

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Like just so engaged, so interested.

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And like that's something that

I've, I've never had before.

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And it's kind of weird to have my, my

brain process that someone actually

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does care about the things that I care

about and the things that I am doing.

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Becs: Like simply because it's

something that you care about and

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that you are passionate about.

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They're going to then care about

it because they care about you.

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Amanda Paolicelli: Period.

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What?

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I know it's like such a foreign concept.

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All right, radiant icons.

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