Becoming Iconic: A 100th Episode Celebration

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Amanda Paolicelli:

What's up, radiant icons?

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And welcome back to Dare to Be

Iconic, the podcast made for icons

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who are daring to be themselves.

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I'm your host, Amanda Paolicelli,

and for today's tea time sesh, oh my

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goodness, radiant icons, we've made it.

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We've officially made it to 100 episodes.

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So welcome to a very special,

very iconic milestone of the

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Dare to Be Iconic podcast.

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This is our 100th episode celebration.

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Let's get it.

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And radiant icons, before I get all

mushy gushy, 'cause you already know

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that's going to happen, you already

know . But before we get into all of

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that, I dare you to connect with me

on socials, on Instagram and TikTok.

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It's @amandapaolicelli_

and @daretobeiconic_.

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And if you're on LinkedIn, radiant icons,

you already know what I'm gonna say.

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Man, I've missed saying it, you guys.

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Whoa.

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But anyway, it's Amanda Paolicelli on

there, so make sure to connect with me.

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Oh my goodness, radiant icons, I

literally I've missed yapping to y'all.

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Like, let's be real, I know we all know it

has been rerun city, rerun galore, however

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you wanna phrase it, radiant icons.

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We've been doing a lot of

reruns since I've had, um, I

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guess a very big life change.

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I guess I haven't spoken about it on

the podcast, and I will speak about it

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more during the season four premiere.

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Oh my goodness, you guys, we're

on 100 episodes, and we're gonna

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be on season four in October.

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That's insanity.

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That is actual insanity, you guys.

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We have been spilling

the tea for that long.

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That's insane.

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Oh my God.

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Oh my God, I love you guys, and I

love that I get to do what I love.

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Oh my goodness.

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But anyway, I guess I haven't been able

to tell you guys this on the podcast

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if you're not following me on socials.

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Um, I'm in New York City.

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Um, I am living my most

iconic life in New York.

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Yes, I did the big, the

big move, the big flight.

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I'm here for a little bit of time, and I

truly am making the most of it, radiant

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icons, but I will spill all the tea on

New York and what New York has taught

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me during the season four premiere.

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That will be in October, just in

time for our year three celebration

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of Dare to Be Iconic as a business.

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Like, oh my gosh, what

a big-ass year for us.

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Like, the most iconic year truly,

and who would have thought in the

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beginning of this year I was crying

my eyes out every single day?

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And now I can't stop smiling.

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Like, truly, truly, I think New York

City has something to do with that.

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But it's just when you are fully in your

essence, radiant icons, and you are, like,

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doing what you love and you are just,

daring to be yourself, the world is just

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magnetized to you, and opportunities.

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Like, everything just falls into place.

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And truly, I think that the beginning

of this year was so, so fucking hard.

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It was a lot of heartbreak, it

was a lot of trauma, and it was

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a lot of healing, as we know.

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Season three, woo, I, I have given y'all

some serious-ass tea time sessions,

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but I wouldn't change it because where

I am right now in my life on this Dare

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to Be Iconic journey, I'm celebrating

100 episodes with you guys in New York

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City, in New York City, radiant icons.

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And I am happy, I am free, I am sexy, I am

iconic, I am hot, and I am healing 'cause

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we're never fully healed, radiant icons.

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But oh my goodness,

okay Enough yip-yapping.

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Like, whoa, the energy, insane.

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I guess that's what happens when you

haven't been able to chitchat on a mic,

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or I guess in my case, I'm doing it

from my phone, which has never happened

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in the history of Dare To Be Iconic.

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But you know what?

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100 episodes, a special case scenario.

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Um, my mic is still in Florida, LOL.

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Anyway, radiant icons, I've decided

to celebrate today's very special and

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iconic milestone with, well, an iconic

100 episode celebration that I could

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only do it the Dare To Be Iconic way.

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Welcome to the Iconic Awards.

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I have categories, and I have picked the

winner for each category, and I'm gonna

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share a little, uh, behind-the-scenes

snippet, thoughts, feelings, emotions,

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'cause you know with Dare to be Iconic,

there's some type of lesson behind

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each time I have pressed record.

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And well, this episode, 100 episodes

later, I am finally spilling the tea

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on some of the most iconic episodes

in Dare to be Iconic history.

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So are you ready, radiant icons?

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Because your tea time sesh is starting

now, and it's starting with the

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one, the only, the Iconic Awards.

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Let's get to the first

iconic award of the evening.

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The first award of the evening goes to

the episode that changed my life, and

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well, this can be no other than the

first very episode of this very podcast.

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It is season one, episode one, Healing

After Heartbreak: My DTBI Origin Story.

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This episode not only changed my life,

but I remember truly how nervous I

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was recording this, radiant icons.

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I remember what I was wearing, I remember

who I was speaking to on FaceTime before

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this, I remember my exact setup in my

room, 'cause I hadn't had it all figured

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out yet, and I remember before I pressed

record, my dad knocked on my bedroom

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door and said, "Good luck, sweetie.

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Don't stay up too late."

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Because he knew, he knew,

he knew his daughter, okay?

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And I am a perfectionist.

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That is no secret, radiant icons.

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100 episodes later, you basically

know everything about me.

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And well, he knew I was gonna hit

stop and record, stop and record, and

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you know what I did, radiant icons.

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I really did.

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Um, I listened back, actually,

to the first episode ever of

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Dare to Be Iconic recently, and

I could hear how nervous I was.

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I literally laughed.

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I literally laughed, you guys.

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And I was like, "Aww, poor Alcita.

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Like, she's so nervous.

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Oh, my goodness."

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But you know what?

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I did it scared, radiant icons.

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I did it scared, and it was all worth it

because that episode, that episode truly

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was the episode that changed my life.

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Because if I didn't do it scared,

I never would've hit publish.

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I would never be here 100 episodes

later talking on this mic, yip-yapping

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to you, and having all these

iconic, amazing memories, right?

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And so that episode, no matter how

nervous and scared I was, I still

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pressed play, and I still hit publish.

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And that episode truly changed my life.

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So let's take a listen back to the

episode that changed my life, Healing

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After Heartbreak: My DTBI Origin Story.

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He ended three and a half years

of our lives through a letter,

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and then requested that we never

talk again, and then blocked me.

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And everyone I knew.

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As you can see, that was traumatic.

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So for the months following the breakup,

I really let what he wrote about me in

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that letter define how I saw myself,

and I really let it dictate the course

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of my life for about two months.

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And I remember getting to the end of 2023

being like, "I am so tired of running

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away from every single thing in my life."

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I was running away from myself, I

was running away from my family, I

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was running away from my friends.

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I was pretending to be okay when

really I was just a broken mess on

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the inside because, again, I was

truly letting his words define me.

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I was letting his actions

dictate who I was.

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I truly thought in my mind that

his actions were a reflection

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of me and not him, when in fact

it's the complete opposite.

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Someone else's actions will always

be a reflection of them and not you.

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Someone else's words do not

define how you see yourself.

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All that truly ever matters

is how you see yourself.

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The next iconic award of the evening

goes to the episode that you all could

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not stop talking about, and honestly,

I can't stop talking about it, because

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you guys will never let me forget

the craziness and iconic-ness and

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chaotic-ness that was my trip to Spain.

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So the episode that you all could

not stop talking about, Iconic

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Award, goes to season one's Fangirl

Confessions: Spanish Grand Prix Edition.

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You guys were so concerned,

and I love you all for that.

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I love you all for that down bad.

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But oh my goodness, I

will never live that down.

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For as long as I live, I will never

never, ever, ever live down that I

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got lost in Spain, and I had three

strangers, three men Guide me and

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Danny to where we were supposed to go.

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Like, only in Spain

would that happen to me.

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My first time across the

country without my parents.

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Like, only me, you guys.

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And I think that's why this episode is an

episode you all can't stop talking about,

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because of that iconic story of my life.

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I mean, Spain in general was

just so iconic, you guys.

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I met Logan Sargeant.

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I had the most amazing experience

at the Williams fan zone.

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I got to meet some of you.

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I met Kimi there, and then we ended

up doing Lando Bash a year later.

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Like, all of these crazy, iconic, magical

things happened in Spain, and it was

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because I stepped outside of my comfort

zone, and I traveled alone for the first

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time without my parents across the world.

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I've never been out of the

United States until then.

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Like, that is so crazy, you guys.

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And to think that Spain was the

catalyst trip for me, where I

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embraced my independence and stepped

outside of my comfort zone, and just

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really embraced this free spirit

that I have within me that I never

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allowed myself to truly, unleash.

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Insane, and I owe Spain, the

Spanish Grand Prix, to that.

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And I also owe the Spanish

Grand Prix to you guys giving

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me Lando's lucky charm title.

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So thank you, thank you, thank you.

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I love the Spanish Grand Prix 2024 so

damn much, and I love you guys so damn

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much, because you will never let me

live it down, that I got lost in Spain.

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And I know it's out of

love, and I love you guys.

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So let's just listen to

that episode, shall we?

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The iconic award for the episode you all

could not stop talking about, Fangirl

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Confessions: Spanish Grand Prix Edition.

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Oh my God, we're getting pit pocketed.

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Like this is the distraction.

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But the good thing about how Danny and

I were standing is that she could see

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behind me and I could see behind her.

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And we had a good view at like the sides.

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We were not getting pickpocketed.

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I guess the guy just

like fell or whatever.

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But like at that moment I was like,

of course this would happen to us.

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Of course this would happen to

us on this particular night.

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We would get pickpocketed, but we didn't.

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We didn't, everyone, we

have never the doors open.

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We never looked faster

train station in our lives.

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It was beautiful.

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When we saw the Ciara Familia at the top

of the steps, we said, thank you, God.

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We said thank you, God.

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Where can I put my donation?

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Because you literally saved our asses.

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Because that, that was

very scary, you guys, okay?

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Um, so, there are still good people in

the world that truly care about others.

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Those three angels, the first guy

in Formula One merch, the security

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guard, and the guy who walked

us to our platform, if you are

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listening to my podcast, Thank you.

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All right, radiant icons, our third

iconic award of the evening is the

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most emotional episode to record.

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And, well, as you know, radiant

icons, I never shy away from

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crying on this very podcast.

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I wanna say around 95 to 99% of

these tea time seshes I am crying

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my eyes out at one point or another.

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Um, and you know, that's just me, okay?

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That's just me daring to be iconic.

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I am daring to be myself,

and I am emotional gal, okay?

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I'm an emotional icon.

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And when I was looking at this

award in particular, there are a

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lot of episodes that come to mind.

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But the first one that I think

of, that I always come back to,

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is season three's Hot and Healing:

How to Turn Your Pain Into Power.

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And to date, this episode was

the scariest and most emotional

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episode I have ever recorded.

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Oh my God, not me already

getting emotional for the most

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emotional episode to record award.

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Um, but this tea time sesh proved to

me just how strong and courageous I am.

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And here's what you never

knew about this episode

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I swore, after I was raped, I swore that

I would never, ever talk about it to

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anyone, to my parents, to a therapist,

to romantic partners, to my friends.

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Um, let alone the entire world

on the scale of which Dare To

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Be Iconic is heard from, right?

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Um, I swore that I would never, ever

talk about the sexual violence I

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experienced when I was 18 years old

in my dating violence relationship.

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And I truly did think that it was

a secret that I would die with,

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that no one would ever know.

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I rather actually die than talk

about it, was my thought process

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when it came to a therapist.

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Um, and, well

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I did talk about it, spoiler alert.

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Um, this year has really been

dedicated to me finding the courage

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in my voice and taking my power back

that was taken from me when I was 18.

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And this episode was the most emotional

episode for me to record because it

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took so much courage to even make

that choice to start talking about

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it and to, you know, heal out loud

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with you guys and with my parents

and with the amazing iconic

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support system I have around me.

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I am truly so proud of

myself, radiant icons.

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I don't think I vocalize it enough,

so what better way than to vocalize

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it on this milestone episode?

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I am so, so proud of the conversations

that I have had within this 100

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episodes of Dare to be Iconic, and

I know for the future of Dare to be

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Iconic, we will continue to have these

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Amazing tea time seshes where we

discuss topics that aren't really

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spoken about, that are maybe taboo

or carry an element of shame,

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guilt, embarrassment, frustration.

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Like, on Dare to Be Iconic, it has

always been my mission and my goal

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to talk about topics that, you

know, aren't really spoken about.

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And if I can't find the answers to

them, well, I'm gonna start the damn

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conversation about it because I know

there's someone else who needs to

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hear it on the other side of this mic.

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Because clearly, if I'm looking

for the answers or I'm looking

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for the conversations to be had,

then I know someone else is.

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And if no one else has them, then

I'm gonna be the person to do it,

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and I'm gonna talk about what I'm

feeling and what I'm experiencing.

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And when I was 18 years old and I was

violated by my boyfriend, like I, I

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didn't have anyone to talk about this

to, and I, I didn't have the resources

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and the education that I wish I had.

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And so to even record Hot and Healing:

How to Turn Your Pain into Power and

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say the words that I was in a dating

violence relationship, and then later

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on in season three to actually say the

words that I experienced sexual violence,

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like I never would have thought of that.

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And, like, this episode, like I

never would have thought that I

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would ever get to that point in

my healing journey, you know?

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Like, I really did think that

this would be like a secret,

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quote-unquote, "that I would die with."

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And this episode means so much

to me, and it was so emotional to

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record because it was so scary.

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Um, but it marks a turning point in my

Dare to Be Iconic journey where, you

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know, I am no longer letting my pain

of my sexual assaults define me and

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I never thought I would see the

day where I would talk about it

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and have the conversations that

I'm having and to be an advocate.

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And, like, seeing the impact that my

words have had on you and the impact

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that my story has had on you guys, as

I find the courage and power to talk

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about it, you know, truly shows me the

beauty of Dare to be Iconic, of this very

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podcast, and in using your voice even

when you're terrified to do it, you know?

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And that's me daring to be iconic.

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It's one of the many ways, and yeah.

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So let's take a listen to the

most emotional episode to record,

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season three's Hot and Healing:

How to Turn Your Pain into Power.

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Amanda Paolicelli: In my dating

violence relationship, there were a

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lot of moments that hurt me the most.

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However, each particular instance

in that violent relationship

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caused me a multitude of

emotions and feelings.

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The core ones being

shame and embarrassment.

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It has fed and perpetuated this

false narrative that I have allowed

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to run my life for almost a decade.

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I had to break up with that

narrative because that was not

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my narrative, radiant icons.

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That was the narrative that he

forced upon me when he violated

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my trust and he caused me pain.

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He is the one who should feel shameful.

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He is the one who should feel embarrassed.

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That is not on me, but I took it

upon myself and made that my story.

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That's not my story, radiant icons..

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My story is, is that I have created

and will continue to create a rich,

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full life where I love myself even

deeper, and I live my most iconic life

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with no shame and no embarrassment

of the actions that he forced upon

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me, that is me owning my story.

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Hot & Healing Ad: Okay, radiant icons,

I promise we will get back to the piping

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hot tea, but first I have something

very iconic that I want to share.

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This month we will be celebrating 100

episodes of the Dare to Be Iconic podcast.

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And for the last 100 episodes, radiant

icons, we have talked about healing,

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confidence, and daring to become

the most iconic version of yourself.

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But the most powerful part of

this iconic community isn't just

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what happens on the podcast.

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It's what happens when we

come together in real life.

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And don't just take my word for it.

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Here's what our radiant icons have to say

after experiencing our first Radiant Icon

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Club meetup, our Hot and Healing Picnic.

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I wanted to take a second to share

my experience in the first Dare to be

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Iconic meetup here in Orlando, Florida.

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First and foremost, Amanda is

one of the sweetest, kindest

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people that you will ever meet.

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She's so warm, she's so inviting, and

I really did not think I was gonna

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let it all out when I was there.

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We got there, we had our snacks, she

had some warm-ups, and when it was

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time for me to share, you know, the

thing that's really dug in there that

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bothers me, I truly felt so comfortable

that I just opened up to the girls.

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It felt so warm, I felt so held, I

felt so seen, and I felt so invited.

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I felt like just another girl.

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If you are wondering whether you

should go to one of these meetups, my

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suggestion is you should definitely go.

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You will be seen, you will be heard,

you will be held, and you will release

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the traumas that are deep within.

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Amanda, thank you so much for inviting me.

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Thank you for allowing

me to be a part of it.

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And yeah, love you forever.

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Can't wait to see the

success of Dare to Be Iconic.

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So are you ready to experience the

iconicness for yourself, radiant icons?

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Then make sure to join us for Becoming

Iconic, a Hot and Healing Experience, an

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intimate wellness event celebrating 100

episodes of the Dare to Be Iconic podcast.

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Together, we'll transform our pain

into power through our signature

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Hot and Healing workshop, a guided

release ritual, and a sexy, sultry

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jazz class, all designed to help

you heal, embody your confidence,

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and step into your most iconic self.

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So join me on Sunday, July

26th at 3:30 PM Eastern at Fort

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Tyron Park in New York City.

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Reserve your spot today

at daretobeiconic.com

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or click the link in the show notes below.

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I cannot wait to celebrate

with you radiant icons, and

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I'll see you very, very soon.

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Now let's get back to the piping hot tea

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oh my goodness, radiant icons.

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The iconic award of the evening goes

to the episode that I almost never

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released, and that is season two's

How to Pivot While Staying Iconic.

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Now, for this tea time sesh, I remember

the exact emotions I was feeling the days

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leading up to this recording that caused

me to press play on this very episode.

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: 00:22:41

And the reason why I almost never

released this episode was because of fear

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of how raw it was for me at the time.

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: 00:22:50

We all want to belong, radiant icons,

and at this point in building Dare to be

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: 00:22:55

Iconic, it had just hit year two, and I

was trying so hard, you guys, so hard, to

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partner with other organizations back in

Orlando, and I kept getting rejected and

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rejected and rejected, and things fell

apart, and things weren't working, and

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: 00:23:15

I was just embarrassed, and I was lost,

and I was like, "Oh my goodness," like,

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: 00:23:20

"Is anything going to work out for me?"

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: 00:23:21

Like, "What am I doing?"

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: 00:23:22

It was like I hit year two, and now I

don't know what the hell is going on,

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: 00:23:26

like the direction of what I thought I

needed to do, what I thought I needed to

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: 00:23:30

do, is not working out, and it was because

I was doing what I thought I needed.

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: 00:23:36

I needed to do things the Amanda way.

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: 00:23:39

Every time I do things the Amanda

way, it always works out for me

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: 00:23:43

because I'm daring to be myself.

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: 00:23:47

I'm doing it the way

that only I can do it.

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: 00:23:50

And so radiant icons, when I think

of this episode, I think of the

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importance of doing things your way.

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: 00:24:01

Everyone's path and journeys

in life are different, and

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that's what makes us iconic.

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: 00:24:08

We should follow the footsteps

of what makes us different.

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: 00:24:13

We should follow that gut instinct,

because what I know and feel in

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my gut is right for me may not

be that for you, and that's okay.

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: 00:24:23

That's the importance of this

episode, but I almost didn't release

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: 00:24:28

this episode because at that time,

I was so embarrassed, you guys.

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: 00:24:34

I was so embarrassed, and

there was so much fear.

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There was so much fear.

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: 00:24:40

But I am so, so happy that I

pressed play on that recording.

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Because if I never pressed play, if

I never talked through my thoughts

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: 00:24:51

like I always do on this podcast and

learned that pivoting actually is the

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strongest thing you can do in business

and in life because it leads you to

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: 00:25:02

exactly where you are supposed to.

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: 00:25:05

And for me, being able to pivot at that

early stage in year two of my business

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: 00:25:11

led me to, well, our first event service

in our empowerment event service for

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: 00:25:19

DTBI which is the master classes,

our iconic behavior master classes.

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: 00:25:26

And if I never started that like I knew

in my gut was right, we never would

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be to where we are now, which is our

Radiant Icon Club meetups and our bigger

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scale community events like the one

we're doing in July here in New York

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City to celebrate 100 episodes becoming

iconic hot and healing experience.

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: 00:25:46

If I never pivoted, and I never took

that chance, and I never published that

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: 00:25:52

episode, I never would be here now.

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: 00:25:55

So let's listen to the episode I

almost never released, Season Two's

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How to Pivot While Staying Iconic

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: 00:26:02

. Amanda Paolicelli: Pivoting is such a sign

of strength because you have that strength

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from within to be like, you know what?

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: 00:26:09

It's okay to walk away from something

that once thought was right for me,

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or what I once thought I wanted.

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: 00:26:16

It's okay to walk away

from that and realize it.

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: 00:26:19

And I think that's beautiful

because it's steering us back

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to where we are meant to be.

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: 00:26:24

And maybe it takes a little bit longer

for us to figure it out, but okay.

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We end up exactly where

we are meant to be.

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: 00:26:31

And I think that's what I'm figuring out.

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: 00:26:34

All right, radiant icons, let's get to

our next iconic award of the evening, and

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I'm gonna preference it with saying this

is another emotional iconic award, okay?

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But this is the last one that's

emotional, I promise you, radiant icons.

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But it wouldn't be Dare To Be

Iconic if I didn't, you know, share

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an episode that healed me, too.

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That is our next iconic

award of the evening.

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: 00:26:59

And so for the episode that

healed me, too, it has to go to

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season three's Healing Out Loud:

How To Find Safety In Your Body.

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: 00:27:09

Now, radiant icons, I actually just

listened back to this episode this

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: 00:27:13

morning while I'm recording the

iconic awards, and I'd forgotten how

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: 00:27:18

vulnerable I was in this tea time sesh.

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: 00:27:22

I forgot that I specifically used the

words, "I experienced sexual violence."

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: 00:27:30

And that took me aback, you guys, with

how candid I was in disclosing the trauma

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: 00:27:38

that I experienced in my dating violence

relationship and how for the rest of

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: 00:27:44

that tea time sesh, I was so candid, I

was so raw, real, honest, and vulnerable

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: 00:27:49

of how ever since I experience sexual

violence, I've been so disconnected

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: 00:27:57

to my body and There's just something

now in my healing journey, 'cause as I

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: 00:28:04

mentioned, oh, this year, Radiant Icons

: 2026

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: 00:28:12

Like, I was crying a lot in the

beginning of the year because I was

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: 00:28:16

doing a lot of intense healing when

it came to healing from the sexual

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: 00:28:21

violence that I experienced in my life.

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: 00:28:24

And so there was a lot of heartbreak.

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: 00:28:25

There was a lot of heartbreak, and there

was a lot of grief, and there was a lot of

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: 00:28:29

guilt and shame and frustration and anger.

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: 00:28:31

Oh my God, I was so angry, you guys.

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: 00:28:34

But I was also really fucking sad,

really sad and desperate and almost…

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: 00:28:38

Not, maybe not desperate,

but I was hopeless for a

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: 00:28:42

good first half of this year.

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: 00:28:46

And now being in the second half of

the year where I am happier, freer,

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: 00:28:53

more joyful, more iconic, just, like,

truly in my essence, you guys, like,

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: 00:28:59

it's so interesting listening back to

Healing Out Loud: How to Find Safety

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: 00:29:04

in Your Body, 'cause I'm at such a

different point in my life than when

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: 00:29:08

I recorded that episode back in April.

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: 00:29:13

And it's only July now, so

that's April, May, June, July.

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: 00:29:17

Four months.

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: 00:29:18

Four months later, and I'm at

such a drastically different

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: 00:29:22

point in my journey and

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: 00:29:25

It just healed something in me, you guys.

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: 00:29:28

Like, listening back to how vulnerable

I was and how I was saying the words

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: 00:29:35

that if I can survive the abuse,

then I can survive the recovery.

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: 00:29:40

Like, these were all words that I

wish, I wish, I wish, I wish I heard

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: 00:29:47

when I was 18 years old and I had

just gone through all of the trauma.

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: 00:29:52

I wish I heard those words.

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: 00:29:55

And it's so interesting and cool and,

like, surreal to listen now at 27,

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: 00:30:04

at this point in my life and in my

healing journey, and think back to that

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: 00:30:08

18-year-old version of me who needed that.

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: 00:30:11

Like, I needed that episode.

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: 00:30:14

18-year-old Amanda needed this episode,

and it healed something within me.

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: 00:30:20

And to just hear that growth

and strength in my words, it's

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: 00:30:26

pretty powerful, you guys.

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: 00:30:27

And man, I just wish that 18-year-old

Amanda had this episode because it would

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: 00:30:33

have been so, so, so impactful, and,

like, she just needed it, you guys.

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: 00:30:39

And I'm…

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: 00:30:40

Hmm.

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: 00:30:41

I guess I truly am the icon

that younger me needed.

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: 00:30:45

Like, I became her, you guys, and this

episode, like, solidifies that for

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: 00:30:51

me, and it healed something in it.

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: 00:30:53

Because sometimes we create content

as founders, entrepreneurs, content

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: 00:30:57

creators, as artists, because

we need it ourselves, and, well,

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: 00:31:03

that's what this episode is for me.

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: 00:31:05

So, let's listen to the episode that

healed me, Season 3's Healing Out

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: 00:31:10

Loud: How to Find Safety in Your Body.

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: 00:31:13

My body was violated against my

will, point blank and period.

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: 00:31:19

And all the emotions that come

to it that I've put upon myself,

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: 00:31:23

I, I do not deserve that.

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: 00:31:25

No one deserves that.

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: 00:31:28

But we put it upon ourselves as

it's, it's our fault, it's our doing

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: 00:31:34

that this happened to our home,

that it happened to our bodies.

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: 00:31:37

It's not our doing, it's theirs.

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: 00:31:41

It's their actions.

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: 00:31:42

They are responsible for their actions.

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: 00:31:45

And what we can do

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: 00:31:49

is we can try our damnedest to survive.

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: 00:31:53

Because if we survived the abuse,

if we survived the assaults, if

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: 00:31:58

we survived X, Y, and Z happening

to us, we can survive the recovery

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: 00:32:05

oh my goodness, radiant icons, we are

almost done with the Iconic Awards.

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: 00:32:08

I do not want it to end, but anyhoo

anyway, let's get to our second

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: 00:32:13

to last Iconic Award of this tea

time sesh, and it goes to the

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: 00:32:18

episode that best represents DTBI.

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: 00:32:21

That is season two's Own It or Rewrite

It: Reclaim Your Narrative 101.

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: 00:32:26

Now, I know this could be a little bit

of a controversial pick, and that's

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: 00:32:32

okay, because I know you could argue,

"Oh, Amanda, wouldn't season one,

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: 00:32:37

episode one, Healing After Heartbreak:

My DTBI Origin Story fit in this one?"

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: 00:32:41

Sure, it could.

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: 00:32:42

It probably does as well.

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: 00:32:43

But I think this one hits the

nail in the coffin because, well,

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: 00:32:51

we all love this episode, okay?

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: 00:32:53

We all love this episode so much that it

was season two's most downloaded episode

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: 00:33:00

after Thank You 25, Hello Radiant 26.

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: 00:33:04

Okay, so I guess second most

downloaded episode, but anyhoo anyway.

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: 00:33:07

This episode, Own It or Rewrite It:

Reclaim Your Narrative 101, would be

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: 00:33:11

in my DTBI podcast starter kit for

sure because it sums up, well, one

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: 00:33:17

of the core principles of Dare To Be

Iconic, reclaiming your narrative.

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: 00:33:21

This episode was an absolute

blast to record, radiant icons.

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: 00:33:25

I mean, I was just yapping

away my life on the mic, okay?

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: 00:33:29

Like, I, I was having a good ass time

and, well, you guys enjoyed it too, okay?

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: 00:33:34

I mean, it's the second most

downloaded for a reason.

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: 00:33:37

Um, but I mean, who doesn't love a

good reclamation, radiant icons, okay?

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: 00:33:42

Okay, so now let's listen.

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: 00:33:44

Man, I just crack myself up.

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: 00:33:46

I've missed yapping on this mic.

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: 00:33:49

And man, I do miss this episode.

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: 00:33:52

Like, I miss Own It or Rewrite

It: Reclaim Your Narrative 101.

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: 00:33:56

I just had so much fun

recording this one, you guys.

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: 00:33:59

But anyway let's listen

to this one, shall we?

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: 00:34:01

Let's listen to the episode that best

represents DTBI, Own It or Rewrite

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: 00:34:06

It: Reclaim Your Narrative 101.

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: 00:34:09

Amanda Paolicelli: My boyfriend for

three and a half years decided to

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: 00:34:12

end our relationship by leaving a

letter in a box at my front door and

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: 00:34:16

I never heard or saw from him again.

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: 00:34:19

That is exactly how he ended

that chapter of my life.

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: 00:34:22

And I know I said in the season

two premiere that it was the

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: 00:34:25

best thing that ever happened

to me and I still stand by that.

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: 00:34:28

Him hurting me the way that he did

was the best thing to ever happen to

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: 00:34:33

me because I have what is now dare to

be iconic because your pain does not

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: 00:34:37

define you, what you do with it does.

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: 00:34:40

And for me, it was rewriting my narrative.

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: 00:34:43

Owning what happened and

taking it into my next chapter.

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: 00:34:47

Oh my God, radiant icons.

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: 00:34:50

Time just flies when you're having

fun, and I truly am having a blast.

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: 00:34:55

I hope you guys are as well at the Iconic

Awards, our 100th podcast celebration.

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: 00:35:03

Oof.

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: 00:35:04

Man, it's been a while since

I, I sang on the mic for y'all.

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: 00:35:07

But, we are sadly at our last

iconic award of the evening.

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: 00:35:10

I know you guys.

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: 00:35:11

I know, I know we're all sad.

532

: 00:35:13

I may have to do this again

for our 200th episode.

533

: 00:35:17

Oh my goodness, that's

actually insane to think of.

534

: 00:35:20

Like, oof.

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: 00:35:22

But I know we're gonna get there.

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: 00:35:23

I promise you it's gonna go by so fast.

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: 00:35:26

But anyway, let's focus

on the 100th, okay?

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: 00:35:27

Let's focus where we are.

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: 00:35:29

Okay.

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: 00:35:29

Okay, radiant icons.

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: 00:35:31

So, for our last iconic award

of the evening, it is the Most

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: 00:35:38

Amanda episodes, and it's plural

because I couldn't choose just one.

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: 00:35:44

In true Amanda fashion, I couldn't

choose just one episode to, I don't

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: 00:35:49

know, describe my full essence.

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: 00:35:51

Like, I don't know.

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: 00:35:52

So I picked my top four, and it

was very hard, but let's just,

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: 00:35:56

let's just go through them.

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: 00:35:57

Now, the first most Amanda episode

goes to the season two finale,

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: 00:36:02

From breakup to breakthrough,

rising into the radiant reign era.

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: 00:36:07

I feel like this episode truly

was the start of our evolution of

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: 00:36:15

becoming even more unapologetically

iconic than we ever were before.

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: 00:36:19

I, I think the season two finale truly was

that turning point in Dare to be Iconic's

553

: 00:36:27

history books of being bolder than ever,

more iconic than ever, more sexier than

554

: 00:36:33

ever, and really having this courage to

truly dare to be ourselves on a level

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: 00:36:40

that we've never even touched before.

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: 00:36:42

And I know, listening back to this

episode, this tea time sesh in

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: 00:36:48

particular, I can hear it in my

voice, me gaining my independence.

558

: 00:36:53

I can hear that switch from who I

was in the beginning of season two

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: 00:36:58

to who I was at the end of it, and

it was just, it just the touch of the

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: 00:37:03

beginning of one of the most iconic

eras in Dare to be Iconic's history.

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: 00:37:06

I mean, truly, from breakup

to breakthrough, I remember.

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: 00:37:11

I remember that breakup.

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: 00:37:12

Like any good DTBI thing, a breakup

is always the trajectory point for me.

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: 00:37:18

And well, that breakup that

caused this era, that caused

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: 00:37:24

this episode was truly unmatched.

566

: 00:37:27

Like, genuinely, you guys, I became the

version of me that I needed to become

567

: 00:37:33

so that I can lead us into these tea

time seshes where we are more vulnerable

568

: 00:37:38

than ever and really leaning into the

magic of who we are on a deeper, more

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: 00:37:43

intimate level than ever before, and

this episode was the start of that.

570

: 00:37:48

And I love it so much because

I remember planning this era.

571

: 00:37:51

I remember how it all came to me

literally less than 24 hours after the

572

: 00:37:55

breakup, and the vision for it came

like that because I was so inspired.

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: 00:38:01

And well, it's been the best era yet.

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: 00:38:02

So I'm gonna shut up now, and we're gonna

listen to one of the most Amanda episodes.

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: 00:38:08

Amanda Paolicelli: This shift in

energy Radiant icons is because I'm

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: 00:38:11

giving myself the permission that

I've never given myself before.

577

: 00:38:15

I'm giving myself permission to be free,

to experience joy, and to be unstoppable.

578

: 00:38:22

Give yourself this permission that

you've been maybe holding back,

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: 00:38:26

give it to yourself in this era.

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: 00:38:28

That is what this era is all about, and

I'm just so damn excited for you guys

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: 00:38:33

because honestly, this is the character

development that we needed to get to

582

: 00:38:38

this next evolution to unlock this next

version of who we are supposed to be.

583

: 00:38:44

I'm so damn excited.

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: 00:38:45

Let's reign radiantly together.

585

: 00:38:47

Now, our second most Amanda episode goes

to the season three premiere, Solo Not

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: 00:38:51

Lonely: How To Be Your Own Best Friend.

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: 00:38:55

Now, this season three premiere was

so, so special for me because for

588

: 00:39:01

the first time in my life, in my

singlehood, I was embracing freedom and

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: 00:39:07

independence like I never had before.

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: 00:39:10

I know that season two, the season

two finale, Breakup to Breakthrough:

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: 00:39:14

Rising into the Radiant Reign era that

we just spoke about, right, was the

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: 00:39:18

mark of the beginning of a new chapter.

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: 00:39:20

Well, the season three premiere took

it one step further, and at that point,

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: 00:39:25

while I was recording that episode and

then published it, I was around two to

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: 00:39:30

three months single, right, post-breakup.

596

: 00:39:34

And for the first time in my life,

I was truly allowing myself to

597

: 00:39:41

enjoy singlehood and being in my

presence, being my own best friend.

598

: 00:39:47

And while I was on this newly single

journey, again, I was deconstructing

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: 00:39:54

this narrative that we once were

fed as young girls that a man has to

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: 00:40:00

complete us, and that romantic love

is, like, the ultimate end goal.

601

: 00:40:06

You don't need a man.

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: 00:40:08

You do not need a man to

live a rich, full life.

603

: 00:40:12

And the season three premiere, Solo Not

Lonely: How To Be Your Own Best Friend,

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: 00:40:18

was me deconstructing the narratives

that I was fed as a young girl, that I

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: 00:40:23

know most of us were fed, and learning

that life, honestly, is so much more

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: 00:40:30

iconic when you have a rich, full

life that you built for yourself, and

607

: 00:40:36

learning how to love being in your own

presence and being your own best friend.

608

: 00:40:41

This episode was the beginning of me

loving being solo and going on solo dates.

609

: 00:40:47

That all started because of the time

I took before season three premiered,

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: 00:40:55

and that's why we have Solo Not Lonely,

because we wouldn't have the Amanda that

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: 00:41:01

I am today without that precious time of

learning how to be my own best friend,

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: 00:41:05

and that's why this episode is one of

the most Amanda episodes out there.

613

: 00:41:09

Amanda Paolicelli: Loneliness

is an emotion and we all will

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: 00:41:12

experience loneliness or that

feeling of loneliness in our lives.

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: 00:41:16

No matter if we are single in a happy

relationship, whatever it is, we all will

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: 00:41:22

experience that emotion of loneliness.

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: 00:41:24

And I challenge you that when that

emotion of loneliness comes up,

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: 00:41:28

you need to look at the root of it.

619

: 00:41:30

What is coming out of it?

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: 00:41:32

Am I seeking attention, validation

company, whatever it is, you need to

621

: 00:41:37

get to that root of that emotion of

loneliness and give it to yourself.

622

: 00:41:42

Our third most Amanda episode Radiant

Icons is Season 3's The Dating

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: 00:41:46

Dilemma: Crushing on Potential.

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: 00:41:49

Now, radiant icons, the reason why

this episode is one of the most

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: 00:41:53

Amanda episodes is because, well,

626

: 00:41:58

I said what I said, and I have no regrets.

627

: 00:42:03

This episode was the episode

where I truly let myself be bold.

628

: 00:42:10

I let myself not be sugar-coated.

629

: 00:42:12

I let myself show anger and frustration

and, you know, I, I have to laugh

630

: 00:42:18

sometimes listening back to this episode

because, you know, I said some things.

631

: 00:42:21

I said a lot of things like, "Why

do we give men 30-day trial periods?

632

: 00:42:25

They never give us trial periods.

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: 00:42:27

Men will never get better."

634

: 00:42:27

Like, I said a lot of stuff, okay?

635

: 00:42:29

I said a lot of things.

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: 00:42:30

But you know what?

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: 00:42:30

I regret nothing.

638

: 00:42:31

I regret nothing, and that's how

I know it's one of the most Amanda

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: 00:42:36

episodes, because I regret nothing.

640

: 00:42:38

I showed you guys my true thoughts and

feelings at the time, and you know what?

641

: 00:42:43

I still believe in those things.

642

: 00:42:45

Everything I said in that

episode I believe wholeheartedly.

643

: 00:42:48

I don't take it back.

644

: 00:42:50

I didn't hold shit back, and I love

how it resonated with all of you

645

: 00:42:54

because I love this episode so damn

much, and I guess it really did

646

: 00:42:58

give me my man-hating reputation.

647

: 00:43:00

But, you know, it's okay because

this is such an Amanda episode.

648

: 00:43:05

Let's go listen back to it.

649

: 00:43:08

Amanda Paolicelli: Men will

never get better, okay?

650

: 00:43:10

They will never get better.

651

: 00:43:11

Do not give them a 30 day

trial, because you know what?

652

: 00:43:14

Men never give us trial periods.

653

: 00:43:16

They never give us trial periods.

654

: 00:43:19

So why the hell are we giving them one?

655

: 00:43:22

All you bring is

emotional turmoil, my boy.

656

: 00:43:24

That's what every man brings into

your life is emotional turmoil.

657

: 00:43:28

Okay?

658

: 00:43:28

I don't understand.

659

: 00:43:29

Where men think that they are the

prizes now because that is not true.

660

: 00:43:32

We are the prize.

661

: 00:43:33

And prize is do not go looking

for the people winning them.

662

: 00:43:37

Right.

663

: 00:43:38

They don't.

664

: 00:43:39

If a boy makes you feel like shit

about it, he can go fuck himself.

665

: 00:43:46

Let's get to the last most Amanda

episode, and that has to be…

666

: 00:43:50

Ooh, this is one of my favorite

episodes actually, so I'm really happy.

667

: 00:43:55

It is season three's Own Your Sexy:

Stop Shrinking and Start Reclaiming.

668

: 00:44:01

I love this episode so

fucking much, you guys.

669

: 00:44:04

Like, I love this episode.

670

: 00:44:07

I was so excited to record this

episode because it was marking

671

: 00:44:12

the start of us dipping our toe

deeper, if you will, into this taboo

672

: 00:44:18

topic of sexiness and sensuality.

673

: 00:44:22

And honestly, I never allowed

myself, I mean, clearly we

674

: 00:44:27

all know I have sexual trauma.

675

: 00:44:29

I've experienced sexual violence

in my life, so the thought of being

676

: 00:44:34

sexy and sensual is very daunting.

677

: 00:44:38

It's very terrifying.

678

: 00:44:40

Um, yeah, no thank you.

679

: 00:44:42

Like, it was something that

I was like, big X over.

680

: 00:44:45

Like, I'm not even gonna touch it.

681

: 00:44:47

Okay.

682

: 00:44:47

It's, like, very, like, almost

forbidden fruit in the way.

683

: 00:44:50

Like, I wouldn't allow myself

to even explore the definition

684

: 00:44:55

of sexy for me, right?

685

: 00:44:57

And what does sensuality mean, and how do

I feel sexy in my skin after, you know,

686

: 00:45:04

being violated the way that I have been?

687

: 00:45:06

And I didn't give myself permission

to explore this topic of sexiness

688

: 00:45:12

and sexuality until it came to

National Amanda Day, Sexy 27, right?

689

: 00:45:18

And sexiness being my intention

for chapter 27 of my life.

690

: 00:45:23

And, you know, this episode, Own Your

Sexy: Stop Shrinking and Start Reclaiming,

691

: 00:45:29

was kind of like my catch-up tea time

sesh, if you will, of everything that

692

: 00:45:34

I learned thus far at that point in my

life of this, uh, Sexy 27 journey, right?

693

: 00:45:42

And of me owning my sexy.

694

: 00:45:44

And it was really exciting

being able to dive into it.

695

: 00:45:48

And listening back to this episode,

it's also really cool to see where I am

696

: 00:45:52

now in my Own Your Sexy journey, right?

697

: 00:45:56

Or I guess own my sexy journey, right?

698

: 00:45:58

Like, how am I owning my sexy now?

699

: 00:46:01

Have I become more confident, X, Y, and Z?

700

: 00:46:03

And I really do think I have.

701

: 00:46:04

This is the only New York snippet

I'm going to be sharing with you

702

: 00:46:07

guys, 'cause I'm waiting till

season four to give you all the tea.

703

: 00:46:11

But I did take a chair-ography

class for the first time.

704

: 00:46:16

And you guys, oh, my goodness, I

have never felt sexier and hotter,

705

: 00:46:23

and, like, owning my presence.

706

: 00:46:25

Like, I felt like a sultry seductress.

707

: 00:46:28

I think that's, like, the wording of it.

708

: 00:46:31

Um, yeah, no, I devoured that shit.

709

: 00:46:34

Like, it was amazing.

710

: 00:46:35

So to see how much more confident

I have become on my personal, like,

711

: 00:46:39

owning my sexy journey is really cool.

712

: 00:46:43

And this episode, also Radiant Icons,

is so special to me and so Amanda

713

: 00:46:48

to me because it was also the start

of our Own Your Sexy campaign that

714

: 00:46:53

helped raise awareness on sexual

assault education and prevention.

715

: 00:46:58

And as you guys know, I haven't been shy

about using my voice and sharing my story

716

: 00:47:06

when it comes to the sexual violence I've

experienced in my life, and it was really

717

: 00:47:11

important for me this year as I made

the deliberate choice to start talking

718

: 00:47:18

about my experiences, is that I wanted

to do something that gave back, you know?

719

: 00:47:23

And the Own Your Sexy campaign that we did

all of April meant so much to me, and this

720

: 00:47:32

episode was the start of this campaign

of giving back and making a difference.

721

: 00:47:39

You know, we were daring to make a

difference together, And to see this

722

: 00:47:43

campaign come to life the way that

it did is just such a surreal moment

723

: 00:47:48

as a founder and as an advocate.

724

: 00:47:50

This episode will always have

such a special place in my heart.

725

: 00:47:54

So that's why it's one of the

most Amanda episodes, and it's

726

: 00:47:57

one of my personal favorites.

727

: 00:47:58

So please enjoy

728

: 00:48:01

I think the first thing that I do wanna

lead with is that chapter 27, sexy 27,

729

: 00:48:07

has been one of the most challenging and

difficult chapters of my life, 1,000%.

730

: 00:48:14

And we're only five months in.

731

: 00:48:15

There's a lot of things that

I apparently didn't deal with.

732

: 00:48:20

And sometimes you forget that

trauma sticks with you, and it

733

: 00:48:24

bleeds into every area of your life.

734

: 00:48:27

And that's been really frustrating, is

coming to terms with everything that

735

: 00:48:32

happened within that relationship really

has affected a lot of areas in my life.

736

: 00:48:38

It has affected how I view myself.

737

: 00:48:40

It's affected how I view my body.

738

: 00:48:42

It has affected how I view my friendships.

739

: 00:48:44

It's affected how I view trust.

740

: 00:48:47

It's affected how I view sexiness for

myself, and it's affected how I view men.

741

: 00:48:53

I need to feel it because

that's part of my becoming.

742

: 00:48:57

That is how I embrace my

sexiest, most iconic self

743

: 00:49:03

All right, radiant icons, that

is your tea time sesh for today.

744

: 00:49:06

If you enjoyed today's episode, make

sure to subscribe, to leave a rating,

745

: 00:49:10

a review, to tell your friends about

us, to tell everyone and anyone,

746

: 00:49:14

because you know we love what?

747

: 00:49:16

More radiant icons in our

iconic community of ours.

748

: 00:49:20

But honestly, radiant icons, I cannot

believe it, 100 episodes later.

749

: 00:49:27

Like, we did the damn

thing, radiant icons.

750

: 00:49:29

We did this.

751

: 00:49:31

It wasn't just I.

752

: 00:49:33

We did this.

753

: 00:49:34

You guys tuned in every single week.

754

: 00:49:38

You guys gave me a chance.

755

: 00:49:40

You guys helped me find my voice.

756

: 00:49:43

You guys helped me find my courage,

and you guys made me feel less alone

757

: 00:49:47

in moments where I was really, really

scared and I felt really, really alone.

758

: 00:49:52

I knew I was gonna cry, but man, I didn't

realize it was gonna be, like, this early

759

: 00:49:56

on in my, like, mushy gushy talk to y'all.

760

: 00:50:00

I truly, truly cannot do Dare to be

Iconic without your support and love

761

: 00:50:08

for Dare to be Iconic and myself.

762

: 00:50:12

Dare to be Iconic is my baby.

763

: 00:50:16

The idea of Dare to be Iconic, everything

that you see, whether it's a podcast,

764

: 00:50:21

merch, uh, an era idea, right, as in,

like, the Radiant Reign era, uh, the

765

: 00:50:25

masterclass content, event concepts,

partnerships, like, whatever it is,

766

: 00:50:31

like, it all just came from my brain,

and it came from that little Sharpie

767

: 00:50:35

notebook and my 1,000 Google folders

with all of my ideas and my long-ass

768

: 00:50:43

voice memos and voice notes on my phone.

769

: 00:50:48

Like, Dare to be Iconic

is my pride and joy.

770

: 00:50:53

It is my heart.

771

: 00:50:55

It is my brain.

772

: 00:50:56

It is my soul.

773

: 00:50:59

And the support that you guys have

shown for Dare to be Iconic throughout

774

: 00:51:06

its whole journey, whether it's showing

up for an event, or buying merch, or

775

: 00:51:11

buying a journal, or listening to this

podcast, or coming to a meetup, or

776

: 00:51:16

even just DM-ing me and saying that

an episode changed your life and made

777

: 00:51:20

you feel less alone and has helped

you, like, it means the world to me.

778

: 00:51:25

My mission with Dare

to be Iconic is simple.

779

: 00:51:28

It's to empower you to embrace who you

are with true confidence, because we

780

: 00:51:33

all are iconic in our own unique way.

781

: 00:51:37

And you guys have helped

me live out my mission.

782

: 00:51:41

And I am so, so grateful for you guys.

783

: 00:51:45

Thank you for 100 episodes.

784

: 00:51:48

Thank you for tuning in.

785

: 00:51:50

Thank you for making me feel less alone

when I felt really alone at times.

786

: 00:51:57

Season 3 was a really hard season for me.

787

: 00:52:01

I opened up my heart

788

: 00:52:05

In ways that I never, ever thought.

789

: 00:52:07

I mean, trust me, I know we, we talked

about it earlier in this podcast episode,

790

: 00:52:11

so I don't need to go in depth more.

791

: 00:52:14

But, like, you guys gave me the courage

when I was really fucking scared.

792

: 00:52:20

You guys believed in me, and you believed

in my dream, and you've supported me

793

: 00:52:27

And whether you've listened to Dare To

th in: 2024

794

: 00:52:34

you found me along the way in season

two or season three, or you're just

795

: 00:52:38

listening now for 100 episodes, welcome

to the most iconic club out there.

796

: 00:52:44

I am so happy you're here.

797

: 00:52:46

I'm so happy you're a radiant icon.

798

: 00:52:48

Thank you for being a part of

my Dare To Be Iconic journey.

799

: 00:52:51

I'm so honored to be a part of yours.

800

: 00:52:53

Here's to 100 episodes, here's to

Dare To Be Iconic, and here's to us.

801

: 00:52:58

I love you guys so much.

802

: 00:53:00

Remember, radiant icons,

dare to be iconic.

803

: 00:53:03

I'll chat with you soon.

804

: 00:53:05

Bye.

805

: 00:53:05

I love you.